My New Man (t4) Is Wonderful, a whole new world for me - experiences please! |
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My New Man (t4) Is Wonderful, a whole new world for me - experiences please! |
 Oct 6 2009, 06:27 PM
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 Advanced Member  Group: Members Posts: 1387 Joined: 24-February 08 From: lakewood, ca Member No.: 7082 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T-4 T-5 incomplete  |
QUOTE (Texas Angel Ang @ Oct 6 2009, 10:26 AM)  QUOTE wow -- I got some love... Yes indeed. Feel the Love, Angel. Feel the Love. Best, Gordon thanks Gordon!  I always feel the love here!We are not here to explore our "feelings." We're here get with the program. O.K. everyone, back to work! You too Gordie, get yer nose outa that comic book. You can read about the "plumber" and the "Philipino lady boy's pipes" during lunch hour. Sheesh, what a bunch of slackers. E 
-------------------- when it absolutely, positively, has to be destroyed overnight, call the Marines.
Life, is on the wire. Everything else, is just waiting. Papa Wallenda. How 'bout if I spell it out for ya. D-I-L-L-I-G-A-F |
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Oct 8 2009, 03:11 PM
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Newbie Group: Members Posts: 3 Joined: 8-October 09 Member No.: 13035 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: girlfrirend |
Hello,
I am new to this forum as well. I was reunited with an old boyfriend from high school who was injured in an auto accident about 10 yrs. ago. (C5) He is amazing. Can't wait to learn and read more about others in the same situation. |
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Oct 8 2009, 03:13 PM
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 Member Group: Members Posts: 372 Joined: 4-November 08 From: Dallas, Texas Member No.: 9642 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: C1 C2 Incomplete |
QUOTE (Danlynn09 @ Oct 8 2009, 10:11 AM) Hello, I am new to this forum as well. I was reunited with an old boyfriend from high school who was injured in an auto accident about 10 yrs. ago. (C5) He is amazing. Can't wait to learn and read more about others in the same situation. welcome to this site... congrats on reuniting!! -------------------- "Become your own roll model, your wheelchair is just another accessory in life" Me
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Oct 8 2009, 03:29 PM
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Newbie Group: Members Posts: 34 Joined: 18-June 08 From: Ireland Member No.: 8076 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T4 incomplete |
Thank God I'm a t4, I knew there was something special about me. ha ha
-------------------- McTavish
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Oct 9 2009, 06:31 AM
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 Newbie Group: Members Posts: 21 Joined: 28-September 09 From: London UK Member No.: 12937 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: new gf of T4 complete |
Hi Danlynn, amazing how the word amazing keeps coming up in relation
to these guys! (and gals of course). We had a beautiful date last night and I sat on his lap for the first time and told him I wanted to stay there for ever... |
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Oct 9 2009, 01:31 PM
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 Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 1909 Joined: 18-May 07 From: So. California Member No.: 4812 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: C6/7, Complete |
QUOTE (Jana09 @ Oct 8 2009, 11:31 PM) Hi Danlynn, amazing how the word amazing keeps coming up in relation to these guys! (and gals of course). We had a beautiful date last night and I sat on his lap for the first time and told him I wanted to stay there for ever... Waaaaaay too much information!!--lol Finding the right one is NEVER expected, nor compromised. Sayz me. |
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 Nov 4 2009, 08:53 AM
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 Newbie Group: Members Posts: 8 Joined: 4-November 09 From: Cali Member No.: 13316 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: Boyfriend is a C5 |
My bf is a C5 and I'm head over heels in love. I have never been with a guy that was paralyzed but its no biggie. I met him over a mutual friends house and we exchanged numbers and here we are now trying to have a baby.LOL
This post has been edited by luvmyc5: Nov 4 2009, 08:56 AM -------------------- LuvinMyC5
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Nov 5 2009, 03:27 AM
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 Newbie Group: Members Posts: 38 Joined: 21-January 09 From: La Crosse, WI Member No.: 10358 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: wife of C7-C8 quad |
Well, everyone here seems to agree that t4-t5s are truly amazing people! I haven't ever met one in person, but those of you on here do seem pretty awesome!
However; I do have to stick up for my c7-c8 hubby..... not too many quads are able to do what my man does! Work, drive, cook.... and a laundry list of other things that I am much to lady-like to mention here! 
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Nov 5 2009, 04:04 AM
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 Member Group: Members Posts: 63 Joined: 11-January 09 From: Washington, DC Member No.: 10267 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: GF of a T4 |
Hmm...My T4 can't cook (and neither can I) so maybe I should consider trading in.
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Nov 6 2009, 03:56 AM
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Newbie Group: Members Posts: 38 Joined: 21-January 09 From: La Crosse, WI Member No.: 10358 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: wife of C7-C8 quad |
He won't eat what I cook. His food needs flava!!!! lol
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Nov 6 2009, 07:15 PM
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 Member Group: Members Posts: 120 Joined: 11-February 09 From: Upstate, NY, USA Member No.: 10589 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: C-5 incomplete |
QUOTE (newwife08 @ Nov 5 2009, 10:56 PM) He won't eat what I cook. His food needs flava!!!! lol NewWife, Every time I view your posts i want to cry over the animated dancer. I'll let you know when i get over it. Pwuff |
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Nov 6 2009, 11:42 PM
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Newbie Group: Members Posts: 38 Joined: 21-January 09 From: La Crosse, WI Member No.: 10358 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: wife of C7-C8 quad |
Pwuff,
You don't like my dancer? It's how I feel some days.......like life is just spinning and spinning and spinning etc etc. |
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Nov 7 2009, 01:09 AM
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Member Group: Members Posts: 120 Joined: 11-February 09 From: Upstate, NY, USA Member No.: 10589 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: C-5 incomplete |
I like her, but it is a painful sort of envy.
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Nov 7 2009, 02:12 AM
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 Newbie Group: Members Posts: 31 Joined: 12-August 08 From: Mid Western United States (But I'm a California Girl) Member No.: 8672 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: C-5 Complete/Fiancee' |
First let me say that wild horses couldn't drag me away from my C6!! T4's may be something to behold, but give me a C6 any day!
Now to answer the question. My fiance was injured in a car accident 18 years ago. Like you, before we met I had never had a relationship with a person with a spinal cord injury. I fell in love with him the minute we met so I knew that it was something we were going to have to figure out. Here is my advice to someone just entering to a relationship. Be patient. When he is ready to share the details of his daily life he will. It might take him a while to believe that you can love him exactly the way he is. Keep talking. Keep the lines of communication open. Talk and talk and talk. That is how you will build the trust. Love him. If you are in love with him, just keep loving him. This afternoon I was with my man and asked him what he would say to an able bodied woman beginning a relationship with a disabled man. He said that it may be a lot of work, but it will be worth it. I couldn't agree with him more. If you love each other you'll make it. Keep coming back here, ask all the questions you might have, it is a welcoming community with lots of great people. Good luck to the both of you. |
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Nov 7 2009, 04:23 AM
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Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 1387 Joined: 24-February 08 From: lakewood, ca Member No.: 7082 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T-4 T-5 incomplete |
QUOTE (Pwuff @ Nov 6 2009, 05:09 PM) I like her, but it is a painful sort of envy. Be grateful you can see her. And don't be so sure it's a her. -------------------- when it absolutely, positively, has to be destroyed overnight, call the Marines.
Life, is on the wire. Everything else, is just waiting. Papa Wallenda. How 'bout if I spell it out for ya. D-I-L-L-I-G-A-F |
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Nov 7 2009, 05:53 AM
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 Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 1843 Joined: 4-August 07 From: Texas Member No.: 5570 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T4/T5 |
QUOTE (ohio4282 @ Nov 4 2009, 11:04 PM) Hmm...My T4 can't cook (and neither can I) so maybe I should consider trading in. I cant cook either. Curse of the T4. -------------------- Our Handicaps Exist Only In the Mind
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Nov 10 2009, 11:28 AM
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Newbie Group: Members Posts: 21 Joined: 28-September 09 From: London UK Member No.: 12937 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: new gf of T4 complete |
Hi Spinner, thanks for your post. What you say is spot on; he's very open and we talk about most everything.
Sometimes he gets this look on his face which tells me he feels that he doesn't want to burden me with information and I just kiss him and tell him to let it out! It's getting easier and easier but sometimes I forget; he had tummy trouble yesterday and was spending hours in the bathroom and I asked him if his tummy ache had gone away! He replied "I don't know, I'll have to wait till the morning to check!" But we both laughed and it wasn't awkward at all. He's the first man I haven't been afraid to love and I try and show him all the time. We're already talking about moving in together because we currently live an hour apart but appreciate we shouldn't rush as we both have pre-teens living with us. So that's a few months down the line. I did mean to ask, what sort of properties do you all live in? One really frustrating thing for me at the moment is that he can't visit my house because of steep stairs, narrow corridors etc, there's just no way. Does anyone cope with stairs for example? I'd like to start thinking about what sort of place would be suitable for us when we move in together. |
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Nov 10 2009, 01:30 PM
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Newbie Group: Members Posts: 31 Joined: 12-August 08 From: Mid Western United States (But I'm a California Girl) Member No.: 8672 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: C-5 Complete/Fiancee' |
QUOTE (Jana09 @ Nov 10 2009, 05:28 AM) I did mean to ask, what sort of properties do you all live in? One really frustrating thing for me at the moment is that he can't visit my house because of steep stairs, narrow corridors etc, there's just no way. Does anyone cope with stairs for example? I'd like to start thinking about what sort of place would be suitable for us when we move in together. I live in ranch style house with stairs to the front door and in the garage. The first couple of times he visited I lifted him up and down the stairs. I was able to do it but it made me a nervous wreck! I found a portable ramp on Craig's List, installed that, and it does the trick. |
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Nov 10 2009, 03:18 PM
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Newbie Group: Members Posts: 34 Joined: 18-June 08 From: Ireland Member No.: 8076 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T4 incomplete |
Lets have it three cheers for all the T4s Hip Hip Hoorah, Hip Hip Hoorah, Hip Hip Hoorah.
-------------------- McTavish
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Nov 12 2009, 06:33 PM
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 Member Group: Members Posts: 264 Joined: 10-August 09 From: Minneapolis Member No.: 12426 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: L4/L5 Cauda Equina |
*sigh* This thread makes me feel so blah and common. Stupid L4 not being interesting enough... no superpowers (that I know of).
-------------------- I am a palm tree - I bend, but do not break, in the winds and storms.
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