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 Oct 30 2009, 12:01 AM
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 Member  Group: Members Posts: 77 Joined: 30-September 09 From: Canada Member No.: 12962 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T12/L1 Incomplete  |
Are men or women more likely to to be involved in a relationship where one of the two has a spinal cord injury and if so, which one? Are men or women more likely to stick by a person with a spinal cord injury?
This post has been edited by Wicket: Oct 30 2009, 12:05 AM -------------------- Sometimes the majority means all the fools are on the same side.
Don't be so open minded your brains fall out. |
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Oct 30 2009, 12:13 AM
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 Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 1844 Joined: 4-August 07 From: Texas Member No.: 5570 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T4/T5 |
People dont really seem to care Im in a wheelchair. Looks take you far! I honestly havent been dateless since day one.
-------------------- Our Handicaps Exist Only In the Mind
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Oct 30 2009, 12:31 AM
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 Super Advanced Group: Members Posts: 4002 Joined: 5-October 08 From: Southern California, USA Member No.: 9387 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: C5/6 Incomplete |
I'll echo what Ches said and add, get your personal/spiritual/professional self together the best you can, the complications/wheels, SCI, aren't necessarily the issue. Being a scruffy kinda guy, not-your-vogue-model, looks do help, as does a fit body...but if shallow fluff is your game, grab a hand full of bills and go to the local strip club or bar...enjoy...you get out what you put in; relationships are like most things in life, it takes effort.
This post has been edited by StillFingers: Oct 30 2009, 12:38 AM -------------------- The unexamined life is not worth living. - Socrates
Be not ashamed of mistakes and thus make them crimes. - Confucius In the end, it's not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away. - Shing Xiong |
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Oct 30 2009, 12:59 AM
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 Member Group: Members Posts: 249 Joined: 24-August 08 From: NE Florida Member No.: 8821 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: g/f of T2 complete |
One of the first things my b/f asked when he was conscious (and he had to write a note since he was still on the vent) was "Are you going to stay with me?" Wow, that was a tearjerker moment! My answer was "I'm not going to leave you just because of a silly thing like being paralyzed, but I'm sure as hell not going to stay with you for that reason either."
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Oct 30 2009, 03:23 AM
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Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 1844 Joined: 4-August 07 From: Texas Member No.: 5570 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T4/T5 |
QUOTE (hooplady @ Oct 29 2009, 07:59 PM)  "I'm not going to leave you just because of a silly thing like being paralyzed, but I'm sure as hell not going to stay with you for that reason either." Smart Girl, I like your style! -------------------- Our Handicaps Exist Only In the Mind
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Oct 30 2009, 09:38 AM
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 Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 992 Joined: 7-November 05 From: Oxford, UK Member No.: 624 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T2 complete |
QUOTE (Wicket @ Oct 30 2009, 12:01 AM) Are men or women more likely to to be involved in a relationship where one of the two has a spinal cord injury and if so, which one? Are men or women more likely to stick by a person with a spinal cord injury? That's an easy one to answer - I think you'll find that if you assume that in each relationship there's one man and one women then there will be an equal number of men and women involved in a relationship where one of the two has an SCI!!! If you're asking if there's more men or women who have SCI's who are in relationships then that's easy too -it's men simply because there's a much higher number of men with SCI's than women. -------------------- Russ - T2complete
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Oct 30 2009, 05:23 PM
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Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 1844 Joined: 4-August 07 From: Texas Member No.: 5570 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T4/T5 |
Russ is a genius, and one of my favorite posters......always keeping it real.
-------------------- Our Handicaps Exist Only In the Mind
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Oct 30 2009, 06:09 PM
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Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 964 Joined: 20-June 09 From: Vermillion, Alberta, Canada Member No.: 11875 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: Complete T4/Partial T3 |
It's pretty tough to find anything when you're stuck in the f*@king hospital for 8% of your life and 77% of the total time since getting f*@king gimped. But that's probably my fault. Would be nice if I had a f*@king doctor who didn't disappear for 3 days at a time cus his wife's a whore and would give me a strait f*@king answer instead of making f*@king promises then f*@king me over!
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Oct 30 2009, 09:51 PM
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 Member Group: Members Posts: 197 Joined: 10-June 09 From: Newthorpe. Nott's/Derby's Boarder Member No.: 11793 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: L4/5 complete para |
In your relationship, who has the SCI?
Are you: A female with SCI with an AB husband/boyfriend [ 1 ] [4.35%] A male with SCI with an AB wife/girlfriend [ 5 ] [21.74%] An AB female with a husband/boyfriend who has SCI [ 6 ] [26.09%] An AB male with a wife/girlfriend who has SCI [ 1 ] [4.35%] None of the above/single [ 10 ] [43.48%] Total Votes: 23 Being born on the 13th, I always was an awkward child. I Fall into the latter group as "None of the above." I am the SCI my hubby is the AB We were a couple for 17yrs prior to the SCI. 25th anniversary in Dec 09. So why in the 21st century do some folk still presume that all couples are male/felmale? come on guys update yourselves not just your pc's. |
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Oct 30 2009, 11:41 PM
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 Member Group: Members Posts: 120 Joined: 11-February 09 From: Upstate, NY, USA Member No.: 10589 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: C-5 incomplete |
QUOTE (Ratticis @ Oct 30 2009, 02:09 PM) It's pretty tough to find anything when you're stuck in the f*@king hospital for 8% of your life and 77% of the total time since getting f*@king gimped. But that's probably my fault. Would be nice if I had a f*@king doctor who didn't disappear for 3 days at a time cus his wife's a whore and would give me a strait f*@king answer instead of making f*@king promises then f*@king me over! OOO Ratti, you are having a very bad day. Sorry and may tomorrow be better. QUOTE (allister @ Oct 30 2009, 05:51 PM) In your relationship, who has the SCI? Are you: A female with SCI with an AB husband/boyfriend [ 1 ] [4.35%] A male with SCI with an AB wife/girlfriend [ 5 ] [21.74%] An AB female with a husband/boyfriend who has SCI [ 6 ] [26.09%] An AB male with a wife/girlfriend who has SCI [ 1 ] [4.35%] None of the above/single [ 10 ] [43.48%] Total Votes: 23 Being born on the 13th, I always was an awkward child. I Fall into the latter group as "None of the above." I am the SCI my hubby is the AB We were a couple for 17yrs prior to the SCI. 25th anniversary in Dec 09. So why in the 21st century do some folk still presume that all couples are male/felmale? come on guys update yourselves not just your pc's. An another thing, there was no option for an SCI with a disabled or limited partner. |
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Nov 5 2009, 06:12 AM
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Member Group: Members Posts: 77 Joined: 30-September 09 From: Canada Member No.: 12962 Spinal Injury Level / Relationship: T12/L1 Incomplete |
QUOTE People dont really seem to care Im in a wheelchair. Looks take you far! I honestly havent been dateless since day one. Looks help but any relationship based on physical appearance is superficial and won't last long. I was referring to long term relationships; people that stick it out over the long haul. Guess I should have been more specific? QUOTE "I'm not going to leave you just because of a silly thing like being paralyzed, but I'm sure as hell not going to stay with you for that reason either." Smart Girl, I like your style! Have to agree with Chez on this one. Wise words. -------------------- Sometimes the majority means all the fools are on the same side.
Don't be so open minded your brains fall out. |
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