QUOTE (edlee @ Sep 19 2009, 01:27 AM)

I've a friend, Gordan, that tells me that he does the same as you,,, but at the five year mark, I still haven't learned that trick of volontary voiding. Are there any hints on how to start,,, like,, what's this "tapping" thing you do?
As for self cathing during the day, while wearing a sheath,,, no probs,, disconnect the tube and insert the cath. Wash your hands first, of course. I've even found that lube isn't generally needed, for some reason.
I've just started using the sheathes with the adhesive strip,,, I'll let you know,,,, but I have noticed that there are different widths available.
Jax,, Yeah, I know,,, they are a pain in the ass,,, but I'ld not like another hole in my body,,,, not for a while yet.
ed
Ed,
Let's say you figure you have to pee and you are in your chair.
Shift your butt farther forward so you are slouched backwards.
Unzip.
Assuming you are right handed:
take the penis and sheath in the left hand (so you will feel the flow by the condom swelling and you will also prevent the condom seperating)
strike your lower left abdomen with the straight fingers of the right hand (this might work best lying down where you have better range of movement)
alternatively (maybe better for sitting), with the bone of your left wrist in the lower left abdomen (while you are holding the penis), pound on the left wrist with your right closed fist, and the strike will be transmitted throught the wrist to the bladder.
The idea is to cause the bladder to contract. When it starts to do that, it will try to void all by itself the way it is designed to do. However, the sphincter will still be trying to close, so you have to sort of cause more contractions as the old ones peter out. You will get good at knowing when to hit and when to leave the flow go.
This method will work best when your bladder is almost full enough to start overflowing by iself.
You should get to know the feeling of the bladder at different stages of fullness. When fairly full, and ready to contract, it should feel like a small/medium fairly tight ball. (when you get the sweats and panic, it feels like a football). At this stage, the bladder is already trying to contract, and you are just helping it along a little. To overcome a tight sphincter that won't let go, you can try pulling the penis and scrotum which also pulls on the sphincter and may relax it enough.
But to get your bladder really empty, you have to use a deeper massage. Here, from the same sitting position, still holding with your left, you reach the ends of your fingers straight into the abdomen, and you massage, push on the bladder. you are doing two things. You are directly relaxing the tight mouth of the bladder, and you are stimulating the rest to contract.
All of this takes practice. Just see if you can get any action before you cath. Don't just try it out. Make it part of your routine. At first it may be a total failure, but you will soon see that in certain circumstances you are getting a jet of urine in your condom. And as time goes on, you may be surprised to see how much you get out first, and hence how little is left for the cath. In the end, you might just be cathing once a day to make sure you are really empty and reduce the infection risk.
I don't cath at all.
Also, if you gain confidence that you can fairly easily empty your bladder, you will drink more. That is good.
Good Luck,
Gordon