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[reaven85]

Ok he was being stubborn for a long time. So When he fell asleep I gave him a suppository (he said it was ok) Right now as I type Im waiting for him to go. I felt it. There was a lot but everytime he spasms it squeezes it back in? I tried like massaging the inner edge of his anus, It seemed to work.

But when i stop nothing happens? Is there anything I can do?

[DaveP]

If his bum hole is sore, maybe it clamps shut. Try using something like Prep H or other cream that might help with relaxing the anus. You can also insert lots of glicerine suppositories and let them "melt". If he stays sat in his chair and only jumps on to the toilet when he gets the urge, this will allow the suppositories to max time to melt, thus providing more lubricant to assist.

After he's had a result, wait for an hour or so, so the rest of the strools can move down.

[StellaLAtella]

12 days is a very unhealthy length of time to go without emptying the bowels....in my opinion. As always, my standard answer to this is drink lots of water........yes, my "cure all". You let that go too long and it can result in a bowel impaction. Not a fun time.
~Stella

[Ches]

Having a few alcoholic beverages always gets me going the next morning.

[sits2much]

DaveP, on Nov 29 2008, 09:59 AM, said:

If his bum hole is sore, maybe it clamps shut. Try using something like Prep H or other cream that might help with relaxing the anus. You can also insert lots of glicerine suppositories and let them "melt". If he stays sat in his chair and only jumps on to the toilet when he gets the urge, this will allow the suppositories to max time to melt, thus providing more lubricant to assist.

After he's had a result, wait for an hour or so, so the rest of the stools can move down.

This is what the hospital tries first to help get blockage passed. Make sure he stays on his side so the glycerin can travel as far up as possible. Another method that may have to be performed is a manual removal of the mass at his anus. It's not a pleasant job but blockage can sometimes build up at the end of the colon causing everything else not to pass. Just lubricate your finger and dig out as much as you can while he is laying on his side. If he can feel it will be uncomfortable but he will feel tons better once it has been removed and he can have a movement. Sometimes like with IBS once the blockage has passed the following can be very loose depending on what you have given him to help him go. It may help to have preparation H or Vaseline handy to help relieve soreness from his anal area.

If you cannot get him to have a healthy passing then you will have to see a doctor or even go to the ER soon. Bowel blockage/impaction can be very serious and can cause a slew of health issues. I have had tons of bowel issues myself so I feel for you, if I can be of any other help please IM me.

If he is not on a regular bowel training program, you should definitely get him on one. I myself take ducalace (stool softener), senokot (veggie laxative), and for times that I know I should have passed by then I use a glycerin suppository while on my side. It also helps to take prune juice, but be careful because for me it makes me very gassy and also causes diarrhea.

I hope this helps and works for you!

Edited by sits2much, 02 December 2008 - 01:00 AM.

[luckiestman]

So how did you go?
If he hasn't gone by now he'd be in hospital I guess. With bowel routine, the keyword is routine. You/he have to think about it every day and have a thought out program. Natural laxatives like Normacol, plus stool softeners such as coloxyl and senna, plus diet considerations. Some foods will constipate you, some foods will make you go. If you're really stuck, maximum dose of stool softener should do the trick but be prepared for a messy result. Don't be afraid of doing a manual. For some people it is the best way of managing.

[sits2much]

Raven85 how have things gone? Is he OK?

[reaven85]

he has gone a lil here and there. He saw this post and freaked out on me...lol He said it was none of my buisiness. and none of yours he absolutly hates this site...I think its cause he is new to being paralyzed. But after seeing this he is allowing me to help him. Im still working on it....Its still has not been enough for the length of time

[In love with my paraplegic]

Hi,I am new to this site ,i am not sure if your honey is a paraplegic,or what feeling he has,nbut i am a wife of a paraplegic, and this potty is my job,please feel free to ask me anything i really do not mind.
I myself manually remove this from my hunny,atleast every other day.12 days is too long please tell me he went alot!!

[AndrewB]

FLUIDS FLUIDS FLUIDS, with fruit.

[airart1]

miralax to soften things up and enemeez to get it to come out or have a movement, he geter get used to it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,its a lifetime thing.......

Edited by airart1, 18 December 2008 - 04:09 PM.

[sits2much]

reaven85, on Dec 12 2008, 09:32 AM, said:

he has gone a lil here and there. He saw this post and freaked out on me...lol He said it was none of my buisiness. and none of yours he absolutly hates this site...I think its cause he is new to being paralyzed. But after seeing this he is allowing me to help him. Im still working on it....Its still has not been enough for the length of time

Airart1 is right, this CAN be a lifelong thing, but he is not alone by any stretch of the imagination. It will get easier for both of you with time and is something your son needs to get use too for now. I have had a lot of issues lately with passing bowel myself (I attribute it to medication changes) and have had to start manual removing some or all of the bowel myself. My hand dexterity is fine and I can do this safely for the most part, but I am still learning things as I go. I have caused rectal bleeding, which is something I try to be more aware and cautious about. I am not sure if it may pose a problem or is completely normal, better safe than sorry.

The amount of stool that should pass is really dependent on how much of and what your son eats, as foods break down differently. I have learned that since I don't have most the muscles needed to push bowel down to the rectum, it takes more time. I find myself manually removing what I can, waiting a little bit, and than I do it all over again. It may take several manual removals throughout the day before I get all the bowel passed. I really only have to manually remove bowel every two to three days.

I do not have feeling around my anal area so it is not unpleasant for me at all. Accept the actual part of manual removal of course, but I have become more comfortable and knowledgeable as time goes on.

I write these long drawn out messages about my own experiences hoping that maybe some of it might be helpful to you or others.

Please keep posting your questions and comments despite how your son might feel, how can you be a good caretaker to him if you don't know. It is only really beneficial to him, there is no shame or embarrassment here. So please don't hesitate to post or comment here or on any other forum.

KT

[reaven85]

oh he is my boyfriend not my son..lol But thank you. I tried the prep h thing so now he is back on schedule every other day prep h,prep h supp. and regular supp. it does the job

[airart1]

i'm tellen ya to that miralax, once u get the dosage where you it needs to be, keep it firm but deffinately keep it soft.............not runnir, you'll know........