I guess my friends and I are coming to a age where they are starting to think my injury threw a little more and have been asking how things to do with the bathroom work. The questions started pretty much when school started back this year, i've been able to ignore the questions by changing the topic for a wile but I know it won't work to much longer. I go to a small school in my grade there is only 22 of us so it's hard to keep away from the questions. I was hurt when I was 5 years old but till know I guess they never really thought about it all, other then my family only 3 people know how it all works them being my 2 best friends and my girlfriend. I was wondering if anyone had ideas of what to say without giving out to much info
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What To Tell Kids At School
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, Jan 01 2009 07:16 PM
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Posted 02 January 2009 - 10:22 PM
Unless there is a compelling reason or you feel the need,,,, just be honest with them and say that it is a complicated and personal situation and you would rather not discuss it.
They need to know that there are boundaries. If they insist, tell them to come here,,,,, they will get all the info they can stand!!!
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They need to know that there are boundaries. If they insist, tell them to come here,,,,, they will get all the info they can stand!!!
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Posted 02 January 2009 - 11:27 PM
edlee, on Jan 2 2009, 04:22 PM, said:
Unless there is a compelling reason or you feel the need,,,, just be honest with them and say that it is a complicated and personal situation and you would rather not discuss it.
They need to know that there are boundaries. If they insist, tell them to come here,,,,, they will get all the info they can stand!!!
ed
They need to know that there are boundaries. If they insist, tell them to come here,,,,, they will get all the info they can stand!!!
ed
I think thats great advice. I'm a very private person myself, and I'm not even as young as you. I'm 22, been injured for 5 years and the only people who know anything about my "bathroom work" are my parents and brothers. The only reason my brothers even know is because we've shared a bathroom since my injury. I mean if you feel comfortable sharing, more power to ya, but personally thats one thing i've never felt comfortable talking about...even to my best friends or boyfriends i've had along the way....
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Posted 03 January 2009 - 12:07 AM
Young Master Blake!
First thing.
Welcome to Silly Simon's Group of Goofy Gimps 'n Gimpettes!
Good to have ya here, kiddo. You're gonna be a wonderful addition to our little group.
Personaly, I'm the kinda guy who will tell anyone anything they want to know about my situation. My life is an open book.
But that's just me. Everyone is different.
Tell your friends at school what you feel they need to know so they'll get a basic idea of how you deal with bathroom stuff.
If you give too much info they may use it to make fun of you. Kids at your age will some times tease other kids. They do this without thinking of how
tuff it is on the person being teased. They don't mean any real harm, they are just doing what kids do at that age.
I just reread what I wrote here and I don't think I'm being much help to you there, Blake, but then, I don't know how a 12 year old's mind really works.
Gee wizz kiddo, I don't even know how an adult's mind works.
Punch 'em in the nose and tell 'em to mind their own business!
E-dog
First thing.
Welcome to Silly Simon's Group of Goofy Gimps 'n Gimpettes!
Good to have ya here, kiddo. You're gonna be a wonderful addition to our little group.
Personaly, I'm the kinda guy who will tell anyone anything they want to know about my situation. My life is an open book.
But that's just me. Everyone is different.
Tell your friends at school what you feel they need to know so they'll get a basic idea of how you deal with bathroom stuff.
If you give too much info they may use it to make fun of you. Kids at your age will some times tease other kids. They do this without thinking of how
tuff it is on the person being teased. They don't mean any real harm, they are just doing what kids do at that age.
I just reread what I wrote here and I don't think I'm being much help to you there, Blake, but then, I don't know how a 12 year old's mind really works.
Gee wizz kiddo, I don't even know how an adult's mind works.
Punch 'em in the nose and tell 'em to mind their own business!
E-dog
when it absolutely, positively, has to be destroyed overnight, call the Marines.
I will nevah, EVAH take a pinch from a greasy muddahf*@kah like you!
How 'bout if I spell it out for ya. D-I-L-L-I-G-A-F
I will nevah, EVAH take a pinch from a greasy muddahf*@kah like you!
How 'bout if I spell it out for ya. D-I-L-L-I-G-A-F
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Posted 03 January 2009 - 06:54 AM
Well, me, personally. I don't share how I do my 'bathroom stuff' with everyone.
Few of my good friends know, but thats it other than my family.
I would just go with ed, and tell them it's complicated and if you really wanna know that bad, go research on the internet. lol
Few of my good friends know, but thats it other than my family.
I would just go with ed, and tell them it's complicated and if you really wanna know that bad, go research on the internet. lol
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Posted 04 January 2009 - 12:25 AM
Hi Blake. Good question. I think what people here are suggesting, is for you to go with what is comfortable for you.
If you want to stop people pestering you about it then give them the simple basics without too much info.
Rather than claiming it too complicated to explain, I tend to brush it off as simple and convenient. I don't want peoples' minds going wild trying to guess how complicated it is or making a bigger deal out of it than is necessary.
If it's ok for them to ask you such questions then surely they are saying it's ok for you to ask them about what they do. You probably don't want to know but it'll give them an idea of how personal they are being.
I've found that telling a little about myself usually helps people to relax around me...and I like being around relaxed people who accept me.
If you want to stop people pestering you about it then give them the simple basics without too much info.
Rather than claiming it too complicated to explain, I tend to brush it off as simple and convenient. I don't want peoples' minds going wild trying to guess how complicated it is or making a bigger deal out of it than is necessary.
If it's ok for them to ask you such questions then surely they are saying it's ok for you to ask them about what they do. You probably don't want to know but it'll give them an idea of how personal they are being.
I've found that telling a little about myself usually helps people to relax around me...and I like being around relaxed people who accept me.
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