[Little J]

Hey there, I am so glad to have found this site, I was just reading all the stories, and all the support you guys give each other, I was thankful to have found somewhere that I could go, and relate. Well, I am the girlfriend of a wonderful man who was in a terrible situation in Oct/07 and ended up with a bullet lodged between the L1-and L2 of his spinal cord, after needing to remove the bullet, he has not been able to regain any feeling in his left leg. He describes it as being numb all the time, he has some movement in his right leg, but has what he calls a "drop foot". When he was finally done with being at the hospital, he was sent to a rehabilitation place where he endured painful therapy, but this therapy did have him on his feet and walking with some leg prosthetic type of things. All was going great, until he got a stone in his urinary trac which HAD to be removed. Well my boyfriend way before the incident has pins in his hips (they were put there when he was a child), so he was limited to how much he could stretch or open up his legs, so in getting the stone removed they stretched his legs onto the stirups, and they just really messed him up. He started to get so much pain in his hips that the therapy slowly took a toll on him, and they had to limit it, then on top of that he has 2 bedsores which don't seem to want to go away. He also deals with his poop bag which they left on the right side of his stomach area, and a fistula in the middle of his abdomen that doesn't want to close up or go away for nothing in the world. This has been so hard for both of us, but more on him, because he was doing so much better before the removal of the stone.
He is still in the rehab place, but hasn't done therapy for a while now, because according to the place his therapy has run out....So now I have to leave him there until his discharge date 2/08 doing nothing. He has his good days but mostly he has REALLY, REALLY bad days. We have been together for 8 years, and living together for only a few months before his incident, I talk to him all the time, and reassure him that things will get better but sometimes I don't even know if I should believe that, since things have just been getting worse. Well I just don't know what to do, or who to talk to anymore. I love him dearly, but it kills me to see that we seem to be stuck, and are not able to move forward with our lives.

[JesseB]

hey lil j, an welcome to apparelyzed!

wow that stone really messed him up. :x

hopfully things get better for you guys.

[youwhat]

Ouch, I would like to say it couldn't get any worse but that sounds like a hell of alot of bad luck rolled into one :s Welcome to the forum though, glad you have found such a valuable source of information regarding these kind of injuries

All the best!

[qbounce]

What's going to change between now and 02/08?? Why not get him home now to help raise his spirits?

[Little J]

qbounce, on Jan 12 2009, 04:39 PM, said:

What's going to change between now and 02/08?? Why not get him home now to help raise his spirits?

Thanks to all for your kind words, and thanks for the welcome, and to qbounce bringing him home worries me even more, because there are weekends were he comes home to visit, and I love him being there, but at the same time it is draining for both of us. He feels so depressed with his situation,he hates that I have to help him out in mostly everything. He tries to have better days, but they don't last very long.


Has anyone had days like this.....tell me how did you pull through them without leaving your loved one behind?