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[Hope Brookes]

Hi All.
My name is Hope Brookes, and yes that’s really my name lol hopefully it suits my personality lol.

Okay, Erm about myself. ( I am not good at this at all)

I am 21.
I Live In Manchester England.
I am a volunteer for Samaritans, its an anonymous phone line that helps people of all ages who are suffering from things such as suicidal thoughts or problems at home things like that, I chose to do this because I love helping people and making them feel better.

I am on here because my best friend Kaci fell of her roof a year and a half ago and its left her paralyzed (T8)
She has changed a lot especially since the accident I understand why I think, its just been so hard for her. She doesn’t talk to me much anymore and she’s very angry but no matter what I will never leave her and i hope she knows that. in the past year al our friends have pretty much left us and I am the only one she has and I’ll never let anything push me away from her because she has always been a good friend to me, I found this site on Google because I was looking for some advice, I asked Kaci to come on here but she doesn’t feel like she needs any help. I wish I knew what was in her head, I guess people on here will know how she feels and maybe give me some incite, she’s only 21 as well so this is really hard for anyone I think but especially someone so young.. I’m finding the whole situation really hard because I feel guilty for not being there when she fell of the roof. But I guess there’s nothing anyone can do about that.

Well that’s all there is to know about Me && Kaci I think

[JesseB]

Well, keep trying to get you're friend kaci on here. I've been here ever since my second week in the hospital, and I can honestly say, it helped me TONS.

[Quad65]

Hello, Hope, Kaci, too, if you're reading. There are many good and helpful people here from all over the world. Folks of all ages and backgrounds. It's a cliche, but it does take time to work through all the feelings after the initial injury. Sometimes years. Be patient with your friend, but take care of your emotional needs, too. We're here to help.

[nomis]

Howdy Hope Brookes

You're right to give your friend the time and space to work through the anger, etc and still be there as a friend when things move on. As you'd appreciate, there's a lot to cope with and process with such a life-changing event.

Any guilt you feel is misplaced and I suggest you dismiss it. You might empathise with your friend's situation but it's ludicrous to imagine you are in some way responsible - so, no place for guilt. Shit happens, sometimes to you, sometimes to other people.

Sometimes people seek help here but more often it's just people with similar experiences swapping stories, having a bit of a yarn and pulling a few legs. There's probably nothing any of us can 'help' your friend with but one day she might be curious enough to have a chat and a few laughs here with us. Maybe it's her who can help us. Or maybe no one needs help, just social contact.

[Hope Brookes]

Hope Brookes, on Jan 19 2009, 11:31 PM, said:

Hi All.
My name is Hope Brookes, and yes that’s really my name lol hopefully it suits my personality lol.

Okay, Erm about myself. ( I am not good at this at all)

I am 21.
I Live In Manchester England.
I am a volunteer for Samaritans, its an anonymous phone line that helps people of all ages who are suffering from things such as suicidal thoughts or problems at home things like that, I chose to do this because I love helping people and making them feel better.

I am on here because my best friend Kaci fell of her roof a year and a half ago and its left her paralyzed (T8)
She has changed a lot especially since the accident I understand why I think, its just been so hard for her. She doesn’t talk to me much anymore and she’s very angry but no matter what I will never leave her and i hope she knows that. in the past year al our friends have pretty much left us and I am the only one she has and I’ll never let anything push me away from her because she has always been a good friend to me, I found this site on Google because I was looking for some advice, I asked Kaci to come on here but she doesn’t feel like she needs any help. I wish I knew what was in her head, I guess people on here will know how she feels and maybe give me some incite, she’s only 21 as well so this is really hard for anyone I think but especially someone so young.. I’m finding the whole situation really hard because I feel guilty for not being there when she fell of the roof. But I guess there’s nothing anyone can do about that.

Well that’s all there is to know about Me && Kaci I think

thanks so much and heyyyy! i saw you in the chat room today hehe lol thanks alot hun i wil try my best she is rather stuburn thts for sure lol xx

[Hope Brookes]

Quad65, on Jan 20 2009, 03:05 AM, said:

Hello, Hope, Kaci, too, if you're reading. There are many good and helpful people here from all over the world. Folks of all ages and backgrounds. It's a cliche, but it does take time to work through all the feelings after the initial injury. Sometimes years. Be patient with your friend, but take care of your emotional needs, too. We're here to help.

thanks so much thats really helpful of you i will try i kinda try to put my emotions down to one side i gues but i think i do need to sort them out to and

P.S i love your signature hehe its coool xxxxxxx

[Hope Brookes]

nomis, on Jan 20 2009, 08:00 AM, said:

Howdy Hope Brookes

You're right to give your friend the time and space to work through the anger, etc and still be there as a friend when things move on. As you'd appreciate, there's a lot to cope with and process with such a life-changing event.

Any guilt you feel is misplaced and I suggest you dismiss it. You might empathise with your friend's situation but it's ludicrous to imagine you are in some way responsible - so, no place for guilt. Shit happens, sometimes to you, sometimes to other people.

Sometimes people seek help here but more often it's just people with similar experiences swapping stories, having a bit of a yarn and pulling a few legs. There's probably nothing any of us can 'help' your friend with but one day she might be curious enough to have a chat and a few laughs here with us. Maybe it's her who can help us. Or maybe no one needs help, just social contact.

that makes so much sence wow your smart thank you so much!