[DrLove]

HI EVERYBODY
I HAVE A QUESTION-HOW DID YOU GET BACK TO LIFE AFTER SCI

This post has been edited by DrLove: 23 January 2009 - 06:22 PM

[Sammie]

After going through a mourning period my BF started experimenting, and being the person he is, he started figuring out how to make things better for him specifically. For example he did not want to drive but wanted to feel secure in his van while in his chair, so he designed a bracket and modified his chair so that he can easily roll in and out without any work on anyone else's part when he goes somewhere. He then looked at his surroundings and alll things that challenged him- too narrow door openings, needing ramps, reaching things in the kitchen, and designed solutions, or hired others to do so. On personal level, he met woman who were not intimidated by being with him, and after the first 2 he realized that he could become creative and fullfill not only her but himself as he grew to know his body's reactions. Basically what he did for most situations is sit down and say "here is where I am and here is where I want to be" and figure out what needed to happen to get there and make it happen for himself. He has also told me that he had to make himself stop thinking about how it was, about what he couldn't do and focus on how he wanted ti to be, and what he can do.
Example- he cant roll along the shore in the sand, but he can find hotels that have beach front patios, or balconies etv and get the same experience.
He cant ride motorcycles or race but he can help rebuild motorcycles and enjoys having get togethers for Nascar events at his home. He makes himself stay creative and positive, and surrounds himself with the same type of people.
He does not hibernate, he tries something and if it did not go well, he figures out a new way, or decides to replace that something with a new something. He says he has experienced more out of life in his chair then he ever may have as AB because he has chosen to do so , and may not have otherwise made that choice.

[nomis]

"AS IS"
Am I a car for sale without a warrant of fitness?

[kdenon01]

[DrLove]

nomis, on Jan 23 2009, 09:58 AM, said:

"AS IS"
Am I a car for sale without a warrant of fitness?

Sorry ,wrong word choice...I am foreighner..