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[gazrobsuk]

Thanks for saying so I think most of us on this forum have had to find inner strength & other qualites that some 'normal/AB' folks maybe never find & probably it's made us better people if not physically.

I have actually seen some comments from people that they wouldn't go back as they are so much 'better' as a person. Personally I would at the drop of a hat but would like to keep my experiences to appreciate what is the norm for everyone. Perhaps others can comment on whether they would stay or go back & why if they stay.

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Gaz

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[Bob Clark]

Hi Gun W,

I believe it would be a good thing for everyone to have a SCI for about 5 years. And to think they'll never walk again or do all the other things that are taken for granted. Sex and going to the bathroom in the normal manner etc.

And then be miraculously and totally healed and start life anew with a more empathetic view toward the plight of the less fortunate and a broadened, first-person perspective of one whose been there, done that. The bitch about SCI is that it's permanent, gets worse with age and is forever. And that's a long, long time. And since I believe this is the only life there is, a real waste of it.

You seem to already appreciate what you have Gun W so you don't need to go through the 5 year initiation!

Edited by Bob Clark, 25 January 2006 - 10:37 AM.

[Joed]

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Bob Clark wrote:  I believe it would be a good thing for everyone to have a SCI for about 5 years.

Wouldn't that make a great reality show?

I have often said that if God stood right in front of me and said He'd take my disability completely away, as if it had never happened...I would decline.

The definitive issue for me would be losing the experience itself. Of course, I'd love to be 'healed' and all that, but if the experience itself was wiped away, I would feel that a fundamental part of who I am would be gone...and I'm not sure where that would leave me. I guess having my disability for so long, it's hard to separate where I begin and it ends.

My disability has made me stronger, onerier, and more determined....and those are the qualities I've needed to overcome the effects of my disability on my life. I wouldn't be comfortable with letting those go.

Now, if I could keep my experience and be healed...then show me the front of the line!

[Jilly]

Oops that last one was Jilly....was logged out for some reason!

[rooster1005]

I can definately relate to Jilly. I watch Robert and think the same thing all the time. When I asked him about being able to walk again, he said that the first thing he would do is run around the house. He says that he would spend forever playing with our kids. Walking and running and playing with all four of them.

Neither of us would change our life though. We are very happy together and have a wonderful relationship.

I fell in love with Robert and never cared that he was in a chair. So what, the chair is black and matches all his clothes so we'll keep it. LOL

My advice is not to feel "sorry" for people with SCI. Treat them just like all the other people in your life and they will appreciate you for it.

[t4-t5-t6-t7]

No matter what ,i'm never going to give up on walking. I no life gave lots of us a bad curve ball but as long as theres hope theres life.I'll give anything to walk and as long as you never give up trust in the most high (GOD).... he'll give you the desire of your heart .and rememeber if it's not in his will to heal it's not because he cant..GARY, just trust him and it will come to pass.every day i wake up i say thank you GOD for letting me walk today thank you for letting me get up and use the bathroom on my on today i speak things as if they where,cause i no GOD is just .and it give me hope 4 today strength 4 tomorrow.And yes i may say i learned a iot in the last pass year and i wouldnt change it 4 nothing ,learnig never take life 4 granted!!!!!So in the mean while trust and wait on him he may not come when you want him but his always on TIME.....hollia

[Joed]

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rooster1005 wrote: My advice is not to feel "sorry" for people with SCI. Treat them just like all the other people in your life and they will appreciate you for it.

I agree with that. There's a big difference between sympathy and empathy. I don't think that many people with a disability would feel comfortable with receiving sympathy from others, but the ability to demonstrate empathy can go a long way in getting to know someone with a disability.

[Jilly]

Absoultely!!!

Disabled people are just the same as anybody else inside....Ok, you have different physical needs that need consideration, but other than that I dont see why treatment of you people needs to be any different! You all still love, laugh and cry the same. And you have been through a hell of a time with your accidents and learning to live again with the physical changes....but inside you are still the same people that you always were. A lot of people are so busy trying to handle their own reaction to something that they know nothing about and is foriegn to them that they forget that. That annoys the hell out of me.

A lot of people around here associate with my man because they are doing the good deed thing and being kind to a handicapped person. They speak down to him like he doesnt understand them, or speak louder as if he is deaf. Im not even sure that they know they are doing it. He doesnt associate with them very much any more except to have a bit of fun with them.