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[dom]

its funny that on this forum it seems some posters go mad posting for a few weeks/months then dissapear off the radar,they praise the site and make loads of new friends then seem to ditch the whole lot!!!!!!!!!!

[ClaraTaylor]

RSI of the wrists (CAUSED BY THE MASS POSTING BEFORE you start sniggering) ?

[Travelling Blackbird]

dom, on Jun 4 2009, 12:40 AM, said:

its funny that on this forum it seems some posters go mad posting for a few weeks/months then dissapear off the radar,they praise the site and make loads of new friends then seem to ditch the whole lot!!!!!!!!!!

That's fairly typical online. It's sort of a "new toy" mentality: the initial fascination is followed by the conscious or subconscious realization that the amount of time it eats up is more than one is prepared to spend, or that the site isn't the dream site. The long-term posters and bloggers tend to be ones who have a slow-n-steady pace.

I read somewhere that the average length of time people keep blogs and forum accounts is 3 months. The average for dating profiles is 6 months.

I also think that here and on other forums for people with particular medical conditions, there's the added issue of health. For a couple of months, I couldn't come on here because of bad health just keeping me so drained that I couldn't face the computer for anything more than the bare essential work I had to do.

[McRobb]

I agree with the last post. I developed carpel tunnel in both hands last fall and that kept me from doing much on the computer for months. Add a couple of other health problems and I did not even access the site for several months.

I will say that it has been a lot of help for me as I adjusted to living as a para. But, time is a huge issue for me as with so many others. I do appreciate the effort that those who do post and reply to issue make though.

[kate42]

I must say I am guilty of this - until today, I hadn't come on here for a solid two, three weeks. I honestly have to say it's because it was getting down into the last weeks of the school year and I've been over my head with projects, finals, and everything else.

I'm attempting to de-lurk again.

[ems]

Hmmm, I wouldn't feel guilty about it, everyone has a life, and when life gets a bit busy, you do tend to knock out the things that aren't quite so important at the time!

I've been making nappies, almost every minute of every day has been gobbled up with making stock, and completing custom orders! I've nipped on here every now and then ....haven't had time to post or chat.

In a way, it may be a good thing that some are not posting astm, it may mean some of them have found an intrest, and are getting on with life, if you know what I mean. Like Motor, posted for ages, then went away, came back full of beans and excitedly told us all of his rehab stories and trying to walk stories, he was just working hard at something Tis nice when they come back and tell how how they're getting on.. hehhee.. now I shall bore you with my latest..... hhehee.. nappies!!.....

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[Travelling Blackbird]

McRobb, on Jun 4 2009, 02:46 AM, said:

I agree with the last post. I developed carpel tunnel in both hands last fall and that kept me from doing much on the computer for months. Add a couple of other health problems and I did not even access the site for several months.

Have you tried out speech recognition software? It takes a while to train it in, but once you've got it trained, it's really good. I have a lot less wrist problems now that I have mine, and I'm only slightly slower that I was typing.

[Tim13]

dom, on Jun 3 2009, 11:40 PM, said:

its funny that on this forum it seems some posters go mad posting for a few weeks/months then dissapear off the radar,they praise the site and make loads of new friends then seem to ditch the whole lot!!!!!!!!!!

This is common to nearly all forums (and real life to some extent).
I'm a member of a large truck club and the same thing happens there, somebody will join, make a big splash with lots of posts, make lots of friends, even attend a few GTGs. Then one day-they're just gone.
I think a lot of times 'life' gets in the way, job, family, responsibilities interfere with sitting in front of a computer all day or travelling a hundred miles sometimes to hang out with your friends.
More often though, we find the thing that drew us to the club or forum is the only thing we have in common with most of the other members-it's great for awhile but isn't something keeps people around for a long time.

[dom]

thanks for replies,i'm not dissing people,it's better i think in the long run not to be too dependant on websites as they are not concrete,i am a firm believer in making 'real' friends in the community

[Kwag_Myers]

dom, on Jun 3 2009, 05:40 PM, said:

its funny that on this forum it seems some posters go mad posting for a few weeks/months then dissapear off the radar,they praise the site and make loads of new friends then seem to ditch the whole lot!!!!!!!!!!

I stopped posting for several reasons. I'm coming up on my two-year anniversary and I'm still in the process of doing things for the first time. Yesterday, for example, I went to the grocery store solo for the first time. So, as a source of information I think this place is the bomb - how to do this, what's the best way of doing that, etc.

However, socially, I just don't fit in. I have a degree in Theology and therefore, the Bible is very important to me as a source of guidance, etc. Consequently, I get my share of anti-Christian responses. And that's to be expected. Jesus told us people would hate us. But of all the forums I've been in this is the only one where members have flamed me for using "God" in a post. I even got blasted once for attempting to help someone deal with a Christian who was out of line. Seriously, some of you people need to switch to decaf.

Another problem that I've encountered is the anti-American sentiment here. I lost the use of my legs two years ago and I lost my job a few months ago. Personally, I have all I can deal with right now, so why should I subject myself to a bunch of angry, condescending jerks who think it's great sport to piss on others?

My family and friends are very supportive. People in my community often go out of their way to offer assistance. Ironic that I feel more acceptance from ab's than I do from quads and paras.

As I said, the information available here is second to none. But as a social network, it's just not for me. I've been temped to return a few times because I'm so bored during the day when my wife is at work and there's nothing on TV. But it's just not worth it.

[E-DOG]

Kwag_Myers, on Jul 9 2009, 10:38 AM, said:

However, socially, I just don't fit in. I have a degree in Theology and therefore, the Bible is very important to me as a source of guidance, etc. Consequently, I get my share of anti-Christian responses. And that's to be expected. Jesus told us people would hate us. But of all the forums I've been in this is the only one where members have flamed me for using "God" in a post. I even got blasted once for attempting to help someone deal with a Christian who was out of line. Seriously, some of you people need to switch to decaf.

Another problem that I've encountered is the anti-American sentiment here. I lost the use of my legs two years ago and I lost my job a few months ago. Personally, I have all I can deal with right now, so why should I subject myself to a bunch of angry, condescending jerks who think it's great sport to piss on others?

Count one. Guilty as charged. I gotta BIG mouth and sometimes, a lotta times, I just can't keep the sucker shut. I do apologized kwagski.

Count two. Never noticed much anti-Americanism. The bangers an' mashers are, well, just different from us is all. A little bit. Not much.
and bless their pea pickin' lil' hearts, they DID invent yorkshire pudding, the pudding ya eat with yer hands! And Gin, which tastes like paint thinner but is very classy indeed.

E

[wheeliebear75]

YOU? Accused of having a big mouth? Pshaw! One man's trash is another man's treasure.......some people hate George Carlan......others love him. You're like the George Carlan of chairs; opinionated, funny, thought provoking & always honest.

[gordonr]

Kwag_Myers, on Jul 9 2009, 06:38 PM, said:

However, socially, I just don't fit in. I have a degree in Theology and therefore, the Bible is very important to me as a source of guidance, etc. Consequently, I get my share of anti-Christian responses. And that's to be expected. Jesus told us people would hate us....

Lighten up!

They don't hate you. There is no actual persecution. They are just making fun of you. Sometimes it is in good hearted banter, and sometimes it is not, Moreover on the net it is not always easy to tell which is which, so in the first instance you should give them the benefit of the doubt. And when you have realized, from repeated contact and interplay, who is who, you can fustigate the self-righteuous heathens and make friends with the cool ones.

The key word above was "self-righteous". Aetheists are just as prone to this fault as God Fearing Folk. There are as many Aethist pedants and crusaders as there are Theist ones. And whether you like it or not, they have the political wind in their sails. However that is not neccesarily a bad thing. It doesn't mean you will be immediately burned at the stake. That could take some time. For now, they merely mean to get you kicked off the school board. And even that is not easy for them, because your "community" is much more active than theirs. After all, they spend most of their time drinking and whoring and taking drugs right? How effective can they really be?

But let's get back to this "self-righteous" thing. My atheist friends tend to swear a lot and say very provocative things about God & cie. One in particular had a web signature with a priest at whose knees a weeping child was clinging, and the caption was ... "Wait a second kid, wihile I lift up my robe".

Now this may seem awful to you (unless you hate Catholics, of course) but to them, it is hysterically funny. And if you could be objective, you might find it so too.Unfortunately many Theists simply refuse to see the humour in these things. When they see God referred to in unflattering terms, perhaps logically justified unflattering terms, I mean it depends on what God, right ? And some of these Gods (like the one who would send me to Hell in a predestined fashion) are real basards. (Lucky for me, there are better brands of God I can sign on to) But once again, I ask you, is it nice to threaten people with hell fire for laughing at you and your God, without, and I repeat it is usually absolutely WITHOUT the "hate" you have been programmed to suspect? Is it nice for people to be SO THIN SKINNED that they will burn down your house, embassy or what-have-you, just because you LAUGH at their Prophet?

It seems to me clear from history and current events, that the illuminated possesor of TRUTH should never be allowed anywhere near the levers of power, unless, UNLESS, he has a sense of humour and can play well with others WITHOUT always being allowed to lay down the rules.

Of course this also applies to the doctrinaire Atheists. They made a fair mess of Russia, Cambodia, etc.

So the main thing that has to be retained, from both sides, is that questions of God (not only IF God, but also WHAT God) are unresolved philosophical questions in which Atheism is a perfectly legitimate position. As is whatever brand of (peaceful) Theism you choose to espouse. However, it seems to be difficult for people who have the TRUTH to understand that.

What is much more important in making friends, is to weed out the ones who are mean and petty and have no nobility of heart. This is much more important than whether they have a God or not. And the best way to determine this, is to interact, vigorously, and put the limits of THEIR humour to the test as much as they do yours. For instance, if someone like the DOG, should say that God is a Psychopath, do not say you will pray for him, or threaten him with Hell Fire...

Just tell him to Lick your (metaphorical) Pussy Clean!

And if your interaction is in Good Faith, and if Dog is the man I believe him to be (poor benighted heathen that he is), you will be backslapping and congratulating one another in no time.

But if you try to convert him, you will just be peeing on the intellectual carpet. We just don't do that sort of thing in civilized Forum Land.

Laugh at him. Call him names. But don't try to change him. That really is not your right. Right?


But why run away and pout? Why wear funny clothes and hats and eat funny food jsut so you can't mix it up with ordinary folk? Why?

Just maybe, if your God is asking for that sort of exclusivity, you should switch Gods. Don't worry you can swim out to the deep end of the philosophical pool without drowning.

(particularly with a degree in Theology)

Best Regards,

Gordon

P.S. Please, do not leave me here alone with these SAVAGES.

[StillFingers]

Once again a mender of fences Gordon...bravo, well stated I do hope your appeal to reason prevails, hope for lively discourse is want this heathen hungers for. In this invisible land called faith, each voice should be heard and pondered, for without such banter we are less.

Jerry

Edited by StillFingers, 10 July 2009 - 03:20 AM.

[LuckyinKentucky]

Anyways i think besides the few that feel unwelcome for one reason or another, most people come on this forum to get help and figure out hoe to get their life back... once they are adjusted maybe they just don't feel the need to log in any more.

[qbounce]

Exactly lucky!
The most important reason for us being here is to offer SUPPORT to any/all who stop in. It's not to play tiddly-winks or to treat this site like it was our own back yard.

Being on here isn't a right, it's a privelege. We've witnessed others abuse, and ultimately lose that privelege, and for good reason. I've also seen first hand other newbies picked on by certain members here, ,and it onlly damages the credibility of this site.

In some circumstances though love, although a hard pill to swallow, is a necessary means to help the OP understand more often than not, that the reason he/she's in that situation is their own doing.

We have to make room for all who use religeon as a form of healing. You may not agree with it, but you certainly shouldn't deny others their reason to believe what ever they wish. Sometimes, it isn't even a form of ones belief system we're experiencing, as much as ones personality, which has engrained their belief so deeply into their lives that some responses are peppered with biblical quotes. They may have the best of intentions. But, some here may not allow their words of support to stand out above their belief system.

Now, I'm not condoning people to post why their religeon is better than the next, or a preach fest every time someone posts, by any means. But, a balance in tollerance for everything should be applied.