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[zilyma]

Hello again! Just thought I'd send out an update to my last post. I came "clean" w/ my supervisor about our feelings for one another and was told that it would be okay, that they would just take me off the case. However, I got a phone call from her less than 10 minutes ago informing me that I am terminated. It really makes me question the "system" in that how is one expected to have a caring attitude and be honest and forthcoming w/ their feelings, only to be put to shame on an ethics principle?? I don't think it's the least bit fair, because I am now left sitting here wondering what has happened on his end of it! Wondering if he was contacted and what he said, wondering if he has gotten in trouble in the sense of not having the agency any longer, wondering....

[qbounce]

Sorry that happened Zilyma,

Why don't you call him and ask if he was contacted? I'll bet it's got nothing to do with him.

On the brite side, you can now join another agency. More than likely you'll be in a better place there anyway.

And, you can now enjoy your new relationship openly!
Thanks for sharing. Being honest doesn't always look like the best avenue. Down the road a bit, I think you'll eventually see how it pays off.

[zilyma]

qbounce, on Jul 15 2009, 06:47 PM, said:

Sorry that happened Zilyma,

Why don't you call him and ask if he was contacted? I'll bet it's got nothing to do with him.

On the brite side, you can now join another agency. More than likely you'll be in a better place there anyway.

And, you can now enjoy your new relationship openly!
Thanks for sharing. Being honest doesn't always look like the best avenue. Down the road a bit, I think you'll eventually see how it pays off.

I'd just like to say that when I wrote this post, I was a little upset -to say the least, but have since had a chance to calm down and clear my head a bit. In retrospect I am glad that now it's out in the open, there is nothing to hide or anything to weigh down my heart or mind. I can be free to pursue and enjoy without the constant threat of having someone else tell me that I can't. So yes "Q," I think you're right about seeing things pay off down the road.

I don't have the ability to call him, the only thing that I can (and have done) is to contact him via e-mail. Now it's just a matter of waiting.

~Z~

[DustyP]

You may definately have avenues for legal recourse if your interested.

[zilyma]

DustyP, on Jul 17 2009, 12:32 AM, said:

You may definately have avenues for legal recourse if your interested.

Others have mentioned that as well, but to be honest, I don't know if I want to go that far w/ it. Yes, I think it's unfair that I was terminated due to feelings that were mutual, but I can get another job. My main concern at this point lies w/ him and not knowing whether or not his care is now in jeopardy. Granted, he can go w/ another agency as well. But given the crap that they have put me through in telling me that if I wanted to continue working for them, that I would have to cut all ties/communication w/ him, and then firing me when I was unsure if I could do that... who knows what they have told him?! Who knows if they have led him to believe that it is illegal to continue on in any sort of friendship w/ me because of my having been employed there. (which I don't believe they can legally do) ... all in all, I guess my next step is to do a little research in the laws of the USA....

But thank you for your reply just the same. And should it get any further than it has already, that is something that I will definitely look into.

~Z~