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[FOWLERFAM]

I would like to hear from any of you that live in Georgia. My ex-husband is a c3-c4 complete quad. His wife abandoned him a few months ago and our boys and I have been trying to help with his care. He has been in a nursing facility for about 3 weeks now. We are not happy with him being there. his parents are in thier 60' and not in good health themselves to take care of him. I am considering bringing to my home but not sure what programs are out there...Any info would be appreciated.

[edlee]

I certainly feel for you,, but your bringing him to your home,,, It may sound like the thing to do, now,, but you are committing not only yourself, but your children to 24/7, seven day a week work,,, yeah,, that's what loving care becomes after a few months.

You have to ask yourself if you want to cause your children to come to resent their father. How about helping him by making sure of the care and attention he gets, where he is now. Visit often, and take him out for the day or weekend, when he can handle it. That way you can find out just how well YOU can handle it. IT AIN"T EASY.

He's your ex for a reason,, his new ex left for a reason. Take time to think about the whole thing,,, it's not just his life,, but that of yours and your children.

As for programs,, check with center through which he recieved his initial therapy,,, they will have literally hundreds of names of organisations and programs already printed up,, and they will normally have a counceler assigned to his case, anyway,, who can help you.

I wish you all luck,,, just be aware of the "Grass is greener" syndrome.
ed

[FOWLERFAM]

edlee, on Aug 8 2009, 02:45 PM, said:

I certainly feel for you,, but your bringing him to your home,,, It may sound like the thing to do, now,, but you are committing not only yourself, but your children to 24/7, seven day a week work,,, yeah,, that's what loving care becomes after a few months.

You have to ask yourself if you want to cause your children to come to resent their father. How about helping him by making sure of the care and attention he gets, where he is now. Visit often, and take him out for the day or weekend, when he can handle it. That way you can find out just how well YOU can handle it. IT AIN"T EASY.

He's your ex for a reason,, his new ex left for a reason. Take time to think about the whole thing,,, it's not just his life,, but that of yours and your children.

As for programs,, check with center through which he recieved his initial therapy,,, they will have literally hundreds of names of organisations and programs already printed up,, and they will normally have a counceler assigned to his case, anyway,, who can help you.

I wish you all luck,,, just be aware of the "Grass is greener" syndrome.
ed

Thanks Ed. I have been thinking alot about what you said already. It will take time for him to adjust where he is. hes only been there for almost 3 weeks. And no its not something I would just up and do. I will have to take alot of thing into consideration. At the moment it just seems like it would be easier to have him here than to keep running back and forth. Its about 20 miles one way to where he stays. we have been going to get him for outtings its just that he dreads going back so much he wants to stay out as late as we can. Maybe it will have to be only a Saturday thing. Again thanks for your comments.