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[Laiusky]

Well, I think it has turned out that X is actually not a very nice human being. After apologizing for calling her fat and all that jazz, yesterday she was "very nice to me again" I have very bad allergies, and I was having one of those days when you sneeze so much and your eyes are so itchy that it hurts, and what can I do about it? So I was sitting next to her in class, blowing my nose for the 1000th time in one hour, and she goes: "OMG girl quit that, it's so invasive!!!!!!" And of course, not very nicely I told her that I do not do it on purpose, and if that it bothered her so much she could go find another seat, and to be aware that some of the things she did, are invasive too, so I asked to please shut up and leave me alone. I think she got the message. But just till the next time she says something out of line again, i'm sure. She's just one of those people. How do you educate that??!!

Edited by Laiusky, 22 August 2009 - 02:04 PM.

[topperf]

looks like stupid is forever...

.. Incurable

[edlee]

Sorry hon,,, On this one I have to side with X. Maybe you have allergies,, maybe you have to blow your nose 100 times an hour,,,, but that doesn't give you the right to do it there. Even you must admit that trying to listen in class is hard enough without haveing someone next to you tooting on the face trumpet.

It wasn't her place to change seats,,, it was your responsibility as the one causing the disturbance. She took it for an hour,,, what more do you want of her. Fat girl or not,, I think she did well.
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[davjed]

With all the worry about H1N1 Swine flu it may be better to isolate yourself in a back row

[Laiusky]

davjed, on Aug 22 2009, 02:29 PM, said:

With all the worry about H1N1 Swine flu it may be better to isolate yourself in a back row

Yeah I would have but there's just one row and I was already sitting at the furthest corner to not bother people. I dunno, I understand it can be annoying, but she could have been a little bit nicer about it.

[chickadee]

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Yeah I would have but there's just one row and I was already sitting at the furthest corner to not bother people. I dunno, I understand it can be annoying, but she could have been a little bit nicer about it.

Whenever this happens to me, I end up laying down on the carpet and rubbing my face all over it. It sounds nasty... but that's how bad mine will get.

Weird Sara fun fact - after my surgery, I haven't had any issues with my nose and my crappy sinuses. Like - none. And if you knew me before, you knew that it wouldn't be any new thing to have a 12-sneeze run. Like, on a thrice-hourly basis. I would wake up in the middle of the night just to have a sneeze attack.

And now? Besides my annual 2 week run at the beginning of June when the cottonwoods go... nada! A weird side effect to my surgery.

[davjed]

Wow, twelve sneezes with a full bladder would certainly send me packing........

[chickadee]

Hence why those sneezes are a thing of the past!

[wheeliebear75]

Forgive me for not having read all of the posts for this thread prior to commenting.

People have all sorts of disabilities......& one of them can be the inability to know when "enough is enough".

BF has had similar situations.......even people making comments to the effect that being dead is better than SCI and/or TBI.

But I also know that in those 1st weeks I wasn't sure how I was going to go on about my life.......so I can understand (to a certain point) how it would be so hard to "get it" & not say something stupid.

Bringer her weight up probably wasn't the best way to go for making a valid argument/come-back......but I can also understand how/why what she said irritated you so badly.

The fact that you are with someone who has an obvious disability means when you meet people you'll either get responses like hers "pity", people thinking you're just the greatest thing since sliced bread to "put up with", & the ones who are "inspired" by his overcoming aka going about his day in spite of the fact it's sitting down.

BF is bothered most by the "pity people" & the ones who "I was in a wheelchair for 6mo. while my broken femur healed".

Personally those last types are almost as annoying as the "pity people". Oh I'm not saying they didn't get a TASTE of life in a chair.......but that 6mo. stent in a chair was just a TASTE of what it's like + they always seem to want to gripe that they got stuck in a hospital clunker & I've got the "Cadillac of chairs"..........THAT's when they annoy me.


BTW Stevie Wonder as well as any totally blind person is able to get around in familiar places; he's fine in his hotel room.......he wont be sitting there on his bed for hrs waiting to be led to the bathroom, the stage is different......you can potentially go walking OFF the stage!

[Laiusky]

wheeliebear75, on Aug 22 2009, 08:36 PM, said:

The fact that you are with someone who has an obvious disability means when you meet people you'll either get responses like hers "pity", people thinking you're just the greatest thing since sliced bread to "put up with", & the ones who are "inspired" by his overcoming aka going about his day in spite of the fact it's sitting down.

Well, I have had a few people come up to me with the "oh you're such a great person for dating him!" and if its someone I care about, I tend to try to explain that being with him doesn't make me a good person. What's going on is that I am with him because I love him, and I just don't care if he's in a wheelchair, he's bald or he's blue. But if the person that says it to me it's someone random that I'm never going to see again, I don't even bother.

I guess I have been quite lucky though. Most of my friends never said any of the above. Even if they did think it, which I will never know and I don't care to know. But I like to think they're sensitive enough people to understand the situation, and they just think of him as my boyfriend, as another human being, and that's all.

That's probably why it caught me off guard when X started with that pity discourse of hers....