[Carly/Kevin]

What was it like when you guys came out of the hospital to go home from rehab? How did it feel and how differently did people act towards you? I think the real world kind of scares me again. I'm not sure what to expect once I am back into society.

[Joed]

There probably will be times when you will feel a bit overwhelmed. For me, it was actually being home again in familiar surroundings, yet in an unfamiliar body. I had my bad moments, not many, but they get sorted out over time.

As far as other people in society...it's not that bad. I think most people have come a long way in their attitudes about disabilities, as more and more people with disabilities gain accessibility and become more visible.

But I'd have to graciously disagree with the above poster, in that it's not a myth....there are still those who are ignorant and still locked into old thinking and fears. They are few and far between, however, and when you do meet up with one 'of them' , you just have to stand strong in what you know, and shake it off.

You might find that some of your friends may stop coming by like they used to, and when they do...it's uncomfortable for them. Some friends may just need more time...but you need to be prepared that there may be some who just cannot get past it.

But for the most part, people are wonderfully supportive, helpful and curious. But let's face it, we can get too much of that too! When I go shopping, inevitably someone will ask me (and several times) if I'd like help getting my bags out into the car. I will usually decline, but after being asked by the same person 4-5 times, it becomes uncomfortable for everyone. There have been times, I'll admit, when I've just accepted their help, as it becomes apparent to me that they need to do this more than I need it done! It makes them feel good that they've done a 'good deed'....and being realistic, there may possibly be times in the future when I could really use that help, so overall, I'm grateful that there are people who aren't afraid to at least approach and ask.

I think you'll see more positives from society than otherwise. You'll become acutely aware of the physical obstacles that still exist...and it will make you angry at times too. I guess we've all learned to be little ambassadors when the need arises...so that's a good thing, as we all need to do our little parts in changing things for the better.

When you do come home, Carly/Kevin, just remember that the rough spots you encounter will smooth out over time. There's a tendency to think that this must be how it will always be....and that's just not true. You're still learning new ways to live in this new body, and so it stands to reason that much of the adjustments will be achieved with practice. When feeling overwhelmed, try to remind yourself to stop, take a reality check, a deep breath, and know that it won't always be this way. God knows it can only get better, right?

Having said all that......THERE'S NO PLACE LIKE HOME!

Welcome home! Although I know you're not there yet....I hope it goes very well for you, and we'll soon be reading your posts telling us all about it.

[benok]

Hello there!

I also believe it will be a slow process. It took me two full years to be fully independent. And up to now, I am still learning a lot of things and techniques. What is nice is that there are so many good things written here from grizzled veterans.

I have been lately doing office work but on an on call basis. It was the first time I saw my friends again and reactions were mixed. Some people consider PWD as a big issue while others dont give a big deal. Some would stare at you while others would show you compassion. I think reactions would vary. I even met an ex-girlfriend and she was happy for me.

Just strengthen your muscles and at the same time avoid any risky situations that can harm you. Good Day!