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[Wicket]

Are men or women more likely to to be involved in a relationship where one of the two has a spinal cord injury and if so, which one? Are men or women more likely to stick by a person with a spinal cord injury?

Edited by Wicket, 30 October 2009 - 12:05 AM.

[Ches]

People dont really seem to care Im in a wheelchair. Looks take you far! I honestly havent been dateless since day one.

[StillFingers]

I'll echo what Ches said and add, get your personal/spiritual/professional self together the best you can, the complications/wheels, SCI, aren't necessarily the issue. Being a scruffy kinda guy, not-your-vogue-model, looks do help, as does a fit body...but if shallow fluff is your game, grab a hand full of bills and go to the local strip club or bar...enjoy...you get out what you put in; relationships are like most things in life, it takes effort.

Edited by StillFingers, 30 October 2009 - 12:38 AM.

[hooplady]

One of the first things my b/f asked when he was conscious (and he had to write a note since he was still on the vent) was "Are you going to stay with me?" Wow, that was a tearjerker moment! My answer was "I'm not going to leave you just because of a silly thing like being paralyzed, but I'm sure as hell not going to stay with you for that reason either."

...and so far so good!

[Ches]

hooplady, on Oct 29 2009, 07:59 PM, said:

"I'm not going to leave you just because of a silly thing like being paralyzed, but I'm sure as hell not going to stay with you for that reason either."

Smart Girl, I like your style!

[russ1]

Wicket, on Oct 30 2009, 12:01 AM, said:

Are men or women more likely to to be involved in a relationship where one of the two has a spinal cord injury and if so, which one? Are men or women more likely to stick by a person with a spinal cord injury?

That's an easy one to answer - I think you'll find that if you assume that in each relationship there's one man and one women then there will be an equal number of men and women involved in a relationship where one of the two has an SCI!!! If you're asking if there's more men or women who have SCI's who are in relationships then that's easy too -it's men simply because there's a much higher number of men with SCI's than women.

[Ches]

Russ is a genius, and one of my favorite posters......always keeping it real.

[Ratticis]

It's pretty tough to find anything when you're stuck in the f*@king hospital for 8% of your life and 77% of the total time since getting f*@king gimped. But that's probably my fault. Would be nice if I had a f*@king doctor who didn't disappear for 3 days at a time cus his wife's a whore and would give me a strait f*@king answer instead of making f*@king promises then f*@king me over!

[allister]

In your relationship, who has the SCI?
Are you:
A female with SCI with an AB husband/boyfriend [ 1 ] [4.35%]
A male with SCI with an AB wife/girlfriend [ 5 ] [21.74%]
An AB female with a husband/boyfriend who has SCI [ 6 ] [26.09%]
An AB male with a wife/girlfriend who has SCI [ 1 ] [4.35%]
None of the above/single [ 10 ] [43.48%]

Total Votes: 23


Being born on the 13th, I always was an awkward child.
I Fall into the latter group as "None of the above."
I am the SCI my hubby is the AB
We were a couple for 17yrs prior to the SCI.
25th anniversary in Dec 09.

So why in the 21st century do some folk still presume that all couples are male/felmale?

come on guys update yourselves not just your pc's.

[Tetracyclone]

Ratticis, on Oct 30 2009, 02:09 PM, said:

It's pretty tough to find anything when you're stuck in the f*@king hospital for 8% of your life and 77% of the total time since getting f*@king gimped. But that's probably my fault. Would be nice if I had a f*@king doctor who didn't disappear for 3 days at a time cus his wife's a whore and would give me a strait f*@king answer instead of making f*@king promises then f*@king me over!

OOO Ratti, you are having a very bad day. Sorry and may tomorrow be better.

allister, on Oct 30 2009, 05:51 PM, said:

In your relationship, who has the SCI?
Are you:
A female with SCI with an AB husband/boyfriend [ 1 ] [4.35%]
A male with SCI with an AB wife/girlfriend [ 5 ] [21.74%]
An AB female with a husband/boyfriend who has SCI [ 6 ] [26.09%]
An AB male with a wife/girlfriend who has SCI [ 1 ] [4.35%]
None of the above/single [ 10 ] [43.48%]

Total Votes: 23


Being born on the 13th, I always was an awkward child.
I Fall into the latter group as "None of the above."
I am the SCI my hubby is the AB
We were a couple for 17yrs prior to the SCI.
25th anniversary in Dec 09.

So why in the 21st century do some folk still presume that all couples are male/felmale?

come on guys update yourselves not just your pc's.

An another thing, there was no option for an SCI with a disabled or limited partner.

[Wicket]

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People dont really seem to care Im in a wheelchair. Looks take you far! I honestly havent been dateless since day one.

Looks help but any relationship based on physical appearance is superficial and won't last long. I was referring to long term relationships; people that stick it out over the long haul. Guess I should have been more specific?

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"I'm not going to leave you just because of a silly thing like being paralyzed, but I'm sure as hell not going to stay with you for that reason either."



Smart Girl, I like your style!

Have to agree with Chez on this one. Wise words.