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[Flower]

Dear All,

Thank you for reading this post. I am a Psychology student doing my dissertation project based upon the experiences of relationships and dating of individuals with physical disabilities.

I aim to explore the views (positive OR negative) of society, the role of culture and the media, in its impact of one's experience.

If you are interested, and have one hour to spare please let me know! It can take place face to face or over the phone.

I feel its SO important for everyones voices to be heard, and this study will be providing a platform to do just that. I can also e-mail/post you the results once completed.

If you are interested, or would like to know more, please let me know!

Kind Regards, Farah (Flower)

[Flower]

 Tortfeasors, on Dec 16 2009, 08:15 PM, said:

some contacts at Michigan State University who might be interested:

MSU Council for Students with Disabilities --> appelge1@msu.edu

MSU Adapted Sports Club --> rennpag2@msu.edu

academic blog of PhD student in philosophy/bioethics --> www.philosophercrip.com

Thanks a bunch! Much appreciated!

[cripple]

Don't think I'd be much help right now, my girlfriend of two and a half years just left me a couple of months ago and I am still taking it pretty bad! Especially finding out she i meeting up with a guy tomorrow, who she has only been talking to a couple of days. And, heres the kicker, the guy looks like me, and not just a little bit! He is basically me, but not in a chair! *sighs*

[Texas Angel Ang]

 cripple, on Dec 16 2009, 05:49 PM, said:

Don't think I'd be much help right now, my girlfriend of two and a half years just left me a couple of months ago and I am still taking it pretty bad! Especially finding out she i meeting up with a guy tomorrow, who she has only been talking to a couple of days. And, heres the kicker, the guy looks like me, and not just a little bit! He is basically me, but not in a chair! *sighs*

sorry to hear that!!! Someone better will come along, I know everyone always says that, I get tired of hearing it too. I'm no longer looking for love... letting it find me.

[Tetracyclone]

 Texas Angel Ang, on Dec 16 2009, 08:22 PM, said:

 cripple, on Dec 16 2009, 05:49 PM, said:

Don't think I'd be much help right now, my girlfriend of two and a half years just left me a couple of months ago and I am still taking it pretty bad! Especially finding out she i meeting up with a guy tomorrow, who she has only been talking to a couple of days. And, heres the kicker, the guy looks like me, and not just a little bit! He is basically me, but not in a chair! *sighs*

sorry to hear that!!! Someone better will come along, I know everyone always says that, I get tired of hearing it too. I'm no longer looking for love... letting it find me.

Tex, I couldn't find anyone between ages of 30 and 50, and only found my sweetmeat after giving up. Much to be said for not trying, when it comes to love.

[Flower]

That's really unfortunate to hear. Thank you for reading my post, and sharing that with us, it's clearly something very personal to you. The wound is fresh, so these words of encouragement may seem like nonsense right now, but time and faith are allegedly great healers.

Over time we begin to realise more of WHO we are, as we begin to find our place in the world. Heartbreak is inevitable, it's one of those obstacles that hit you when you least expected, but it's SO important NOT to let it define you. As individuals, we are full of character and blessed with life (albeit sometimes its not one we would've chosen for ourself, but nonetheless...), and though it may not seem like it now, what has happened to you makes you wiser, stronger and knowledgable. I'm not a wheelchair user, but i've had my fair share of relationship downturns, but I ALWAYS think, the sun sets, and the sun rises, every day, every week, every year. And that's what I do. Getting on with things, take each day at a time. That's not to reassure you that a quick cure exists, but to say, nothing is impossible. You will be able to find happiness, or it shall find you!

Sorry - i didn't mean to go on there. lol...but I wanted to ask, whether you would be intrested in taking part? If you do not feel able to then that is fine - there's no pressure nor obligation. Let me know, and i'll send it to ya!

Hope to hear from you soon, Flower.

[qbounce]

 cripple, on Dec 16 2009, 04:49 PM, said:

Don't think I'd be much help right now, my girlfriend of two and a half years just left me a couple of months ago and I am still taking it pretty bad! Especially finding out she i meeting up with a guy tomorrow, who she has only been talking to a couple of days. And, heres the kicker, the guy looks like me, and not just a little bit! He is basically me, but not in a chair! *sighs*

Crip,
Think of it this way: your Ex went in search of a fake replica of YOU in order to make HER happy? Hey man, you're the "real deal!" You must have made one hell of an impression on her that she should search YOU out in a different form.--lol

Now, she's done you a favor by freeing you to find another woman who's deserving of your love. And, although not much makes sense now, it will all fall into place in due time.

[LuckyinKentucky]

well said qbounce

[cripple]

WOW! Thanks everyone, I was not expecting such a response to my moans! Yeah, I understand what you are all saying, and I have no doubt that in time I will eventually get over her.. I just can't see it happening anytime soon! Yes I'm young, but this wasn't a crush, I truly love her and am really struggling letting go. Just takes time I guess, I don't even want to get over her though... *sighs*

Anyways..

I wouldn't mind taking part in your thing Flower, but I do live in Scotland, so it will all have to be done over e-mail, msn or Skype!

so yeah, its up to you..


p.s. sorry for the late reply!

Edited by cripple, 19 December 2009 - 02:11 AM.

[Flower]

[quote name='cripple' date='Dec 19 2009, 02:04 AM' post='142589']

Hey! Would you still be interested in taking part? I'll email it to you?

Let me know asap.

Flower

[jules]

Sent a PM

[dom]

 cripple, on Dec 19 2009, 02:04 AM, said:

WOW! Thanks everyone, I was not expecting such a response to my moans! Yeah, I understand what you are all saying, and I have no doubt that in time I will eventually get over her.. I just can't see it happening anytime soon! Yes I'm young, but this wasn't a crush, I truly love her and am really struggling letting go. Just takes time I guess, I don't even want to get over her though... *sighs*

Anyways..

I wouldn't mind taking part in your thing Flower, but I do live in Scotland, so it will all have to be done over e-mail, msn or Skype!

so yeah, its up to you..


p.s. sorry for the late reply!

Hey Mate sorry to hear that, won't give you the old-there are plenty more fish in the sea line but what worked for me is to think of all the things you 'did'nt' like about her as opposed to the things you did and use your freedom to do the things YOU wanted to do but could'nt as you were with her

[Slowlegs]

I'be keen to participate - just I am in New Zealand.