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[jessalynn23]

Hi everyone!
My best friend asked me to be maid of honor. Im really excited for her but I am so scared at the same time.
I don't know if it's walking down the aisle or getting into a dress or running into people who have not seen me yet since before my injury. Does anyone have any advice? i kinda dont want to mess up the pretty picture they used to have of me as mouse grid

[M@CHINE]

i know how u feel, especially when people haven't seen u since the accident. what u should do is try your best to appear happy and un-nerved. also everyone else in the wedding is gonna be nervous 2. chances are they will be more focused on the wedding, eventhough its hard to contain your thoughts of anxiety.

[qbounce]

A shot of Jack Daniels or your favorite Vodka should warm you right up. Better make it a double. After that, who really cares What others think.

Truth be told, if these people haven't seen you since BEFORE your accident, most likely they won't be seing you much later on down the line either. So, just enjoy yourself, and make up some crazy dare devil story if anyone wants to know how it happened, like:

1). I got shot out of a human cannon and they over callibrated my landing.

2). I was attempting to break the land speed barrier on a down hill bicycle slope.

3). I was in the Doheney Hot Dog Eating competition, and . . . well . . . .

[M@CHINE]

lol

[sciiaf]

I'm going to give you my honest two cents...if you are uncomfortable about being up there infront of people, uncomfortable with seeing folks you haven't seen since the injury than by all means kindly say no. I think it is more than OK. I've gotten to the point where I just have to be honest with folks that there are certain situations that I am not OK with right now. My family wanted to take all the kids out to some children's theater performance. I didn't want to go but felt obligated because it was a christmas outing, family get together. But really, sitting in a theater where the seats have been removed so I can squeeze my chair in, being in an audiecne w/ a bunch of lil kids where you know they can't help but stare and wonder...I just can't do it. Not a big deal. guess what I'm saying is if you are not comfortable with it, that is OK. You can be involved in her wedding in other ways too (why not organize the bridal shower?)

The one thing I disagree with is that you would NOT be messing up the wedding picture. Not unless you made your eyes crossed and stuck out your tongue!

jessalynn23, on Dec 25 2009, 05:09 PM, said:

Hi everyone!
My best friend asked me to be maid of honor. Im really excited for her but I am so scared at the same time.
I don't know if it's walking down the aisle or getting into a dress or running into people who have not seen me yet since before my injury. Does anyone have any advice? i kinda dont want to mess up the pretty picture they used to have of me as mouse grid

[chickadee]

Well, if you DO go through with it, it might not be a bad idea to get a 'lay of the land' with the bride. Meaning, for instance, does the bride intend to have anything on the floor (I think it's called rice paper, but I'm possibly mistaken)? Rice paper, for me, has been kind of evil - combine carpet with thin, delicate paper that rips at every chance... Oh, and I didn't like rolling in sparkles either. I had to pick them out of EVERYTHING for days. Heh, or candles tied up with tulle on the tops of the pews - I knocked one off and got wax in my lap. Almost pulled the whole thing down.

Maybe find out how the church layout works as well. My cousin got married in a very small church, and had a gaggle of bridesmaids. It might be nice to stay on the same level as the other bridesmaids, meaning they're not going up the steps near the altar while you're stuck at ground level. If you're to give a speech, making sure that you don't need to go to a podium in order to talk.

One thing my cousin did at her wedding that made all of the maids feel comfortable was they all got to pick the 'style' of their dress, but it was the same color. This might be nice if you have some weird bumps that could be hidden better with, say, an empire waist. Or having sleeveless dresses if you're really buff in the shoulders, like me. That sort of thing.

I dunno - I hope you do it, to be honest. I'm betting that if you work with the bride, she can help you avoid some pratfalls that might make you more nervous or self-conscious. Good luck, dear, and let us know how it turns out!

[gsp23]

I agree with chickadee about getting the lay of the land. The aisle runners can be an issue so talk to her about those. Also see if you can get into the building so you can ensure it all really is accessible and that you can turn around where they are planning on putting things. I assume there will be a rehearsal but would still be good to get to the place and see for yourself what its like so you can think ahead of what can be done before the rehearsal. One thing that comes to mind is the amount of space that will be at the front if you need to turn your chair around or not and making sure to not smash into anyone in the process or making people group up so you can get in/out. If there is enough room then talk to her about spacing people out in whatever way makes it easier for you.

Being in a chair alone is not going to mess up any photos, if that was a concern for the couple then you wouldnt have been asked so dont be self conscious about that and have the confidence and pride that a maid of honor deserves to have.