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#1 MaggieT

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Posted 10 February 2010 - 04:21 PM

ok so i have not been here in a while....things have been a lil crazy here, i have a new job, bobbie is still at the same one, spring is just around the bend so we have been getting my bike ready to go back on the road, bobbie has had a lil spill with depression the last few months so we have been coping with it the best we can...he is fine but spring cannot get here fast enough!!!
other then all that we are wonderful!!

so i am writing today because of a dream i had.....i have been with bobbie for the last 7 years, you would think that at least once....just once i would have had a dream about him being in the chair or someone in a wheelchair.....well...no i have not...and the dream i had last night was the 1st....

i have never meet another couple, face to face, in person, where the spouse is in a wheelchair, i live in halifax you would think we have but that as well is a no!!

anyway i have to tell someone about this!!

in my dream, we meet a middle aged lady and her husband, he was in a wheelchair (dream is a little fuzzy cause i woke about 4 hours ago) not sure what they did for work but they were well known, the husband more so then the wife, had a nice house, no kids! and they were happy......somewhere in my dream something happened and just before i woke up, the lady said to me......"just because my husband is in a wheelchair does not mean that i have given anything up.....i am happy and i have sacrificed nothing to be with him".......then i woke up..... i remember those words clear as day....

i love him he is my best friend and could never see myself with anyone else, ever, and his wheelchair, well, i don't see it the way other people do, im used to it, its there, im not bothered by it, i don't even notice it 99.9% of the time, the times i do is when he has run over my toes!!!!......but it really got me thinking.....about what it is saying to me......i just wanted to share with you all in hopes might give some insight to what that might mean.....i have an open mind so nothing will throw me off....i think all dreams we remember after we wake are telling us something and we remember them for a reason.......I have not told bobbie cause he is at work and was gone when i woke!!

thanks everyone!
talk soon!! <3
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#2 Tetracyclone

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Posted 10 February 2010 - 04:30 PM

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#3 fatcrx

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Posted 10 February 2010 - 06:16 PM

You think thats crazy last night i dreamt i was having filthy sex with two sexy ladies, the short blonde one said close your eyes while i do something filthy, Then i woke up. I dunno wot it means, i keep having the same dream over and over only with different girls and different places, the girl in the black french knickers the other nite was especially tasty and just as she was bout to give me her mobile number i woke up, im sure these dreams mean something
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#4 DannyR

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Posted 10 February 2010 - 07:51 PM

Sounds like you are overthinking your dream! Either that or trying to convince yourself that you're ok. Maybe you need to talk some things out something is weighing on your mind and sometimes it helps to talk with someone who is not as close to the situation as you are. Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about but I would seek out a friend to talk with. Sometimes spouses are forgotten about when people get hurt and this affects your life as much as anybody and it sounds like you really love bobbie.I know my wifes life has changed. Good luck.

#5 guido

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Posted 10 February 2010 - 08:54 PM

Do you dream in colour or black and white?

You won't know thinking back (unless you've already been asked the question), but you'll start to notice colour in your dreams now. It's quite cool.

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Posted 11 February 2010 - 12:02 AM

Please don't put to much stock in your dreams. Sometimes, when I actually remember my dreams, they're a cross between a movie I watched the night before, only with people I know superimposed as the main characters, and in familiar local settings.

Whenever my father comes around the house with a chainsaw swaying back and forth overhead, wearing someone elses face for a mask, I'm sure to wake up shortly after . . . I hope!!!
When we remember we are all mad, the mysteries disappear and life stands explained. - Mark Twain

#7 gordonr

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Posted 11 February 2010 - 01:10 AM

What do YOU think it means?

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#8 dangerousdave

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Posted 11 February 2010 - 03:20 PM

Does anybody else find their dreams depressing

I'm never in my chair and I'm always doin things that I no longer can do
Yes some times I remember color dreams
Yes I some times wish it was the real me climbing the cliffs at Chedder Gorge
Oh....well...........

#9 apollock2006

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Posted 12 February 2010 - 05:03 AM

in my dreams, sometimes i'm in my chair or disabled and others i'm like before and can do whatever. then some dreams are just wtf. maggie, you have a great outlook on the 'situation' for lack of a better word and are a great wife to have. i thought i found the one but she turned out to be a 'whore' also for lack of a better word.

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Posted 12 February 2010 - 05:16 PM

View Postapollock2006, on Feb 12 2010, 05:03 AM, said:

. i thought i found the one but she turned out to be a 'whore' also for lack of a better word.

me too.
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#11 Ratticis

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Posted 14 February 2010 - 03:49 AM

View Postfatcrx, on Feb 12 2010, 10:16 AM, said:

View Postapollock2006, on Feb 12 2010, 05:03 AM, said:

. i thought i found the one but she turned out to be a 'whore' also for lack of a better word.

me too.
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Maggie, sounds like maybe yer seeing yourself in 30 years

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