[Justin14]

I know most Mom's are over protective but since I was hurt my Mom is like a Mother bear...For the first month I was home she even slept in my room and watched me..now she just comes down stairs to my room pretty much every hour...i've also got a 17 year old sister Piper and a 8 year old sister Paris who are pretty much just a bad...my Dad and 18 year old brother Jaison show they care but know how to let me be till I need them...the girls are nutty with asking me if i'm ok every few minutes...I don't want anyone to get me wrong I'm very greatful for them...they're what get me threw and are willing to do anything for me...I just want them to back off a little with the hovering...how do I tell them without hurting them???

This post has been edited by Justin14: 17 February 2010 - 07:02 PM

[Texas Angel Ang]

Haha, I went through the same thing, but only with my mom. Just tell them... "look I love you guys and all but I need some alone time. I'll let you know when I need you " if that doesn't work... tell your dad and brother to tell them to back off.

[Skrads]

Its almost 2 years since my accident and 16 months since I came out of rehab and its only been the last couple of week that my mum has backed off, but thats because my dad told her to. I am pretty much fully independent have have a large group of friends who I see regularly. I am hardly ever at home. I used to have mum doing everything for me and if I was out for too long, she would always ring to find out where I was. Dad ended up talking to mum which helped, basically explaining that I was 22 years old and would be leaving home and she can't expect to look after me forever.

[maisy1996]

my dad was the one that was SUPER over protective, my mum had to keep telling him to let me just get on with it and if i need help then i will realise on my own. my only advice would to be tell your dad and get him to tell your mum, then its not coming from you haha. they will soon realise and back off : )

[airart1]

you'll miss it when it goes away.............

[Ratticis]

Been there. Best way to tell them is to just tell them strait, I appreciate your help, but please, let me be and if i need help I'll ask. My dad always says he has a hard time watching me struggle with things, but knows if he did it all for me he would only make it worse for me. He also says he's amazed with how i manage to do certian things and how i've addapted. I'm sure the're not doing it to be a pain in the ass, but at the same time, they need to know how you feel about it so they can at least make an effort to give you some breathing room. Good luck

[nitrosport_5]

My mom was like this at first I think, but has since let up a lot. My dad was the complete opposite and it helped me so much. He would only do small things for me forcing me to do stuff on my own ansd figure out new ways to do stuff easier. There was a lot of rough times but it made me independant. Just let your family know that you need to be on your own and going about as anybody else. Let them know the less they do will only benefit you in the long run.

[dangerousdave]

Try pasting some of those bullet hole transfers on your door together with some of those NRA or what ever that gun organization is called
Or borrow a gun from a mate and make your own holes

Only joking

Give em time and they will losen up there attensions - they are suffering to remember

[pistol_pete]

airart1, on Feb 18 2010, 05:21 AM, said:

you'll miss it when it goes away.............

I reckon you are right airart.
No one hovered over me.
My wife would come into my room every few minutes, not to check if I was alright but to tell me to, "get your arse out of bed and do something you lazy shit".
Tough love but love none the less.

Mums will be mums. Just tell her you love her but its doing your head in. She'll be happy when she sees how much independence you can achieve,

[Ratticis]

I asked my brother to pass me the bag of chips i was eating after I had forgotten them on the table while transfering into bed and he looks at me and goes "get 'em yourdselfm what, are you a f*@kin' invilet" I laughed my ass off then ran over his toes after getting back up to get 'em myself

[fatcrx]

Just listen to Mr T
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_rBidCkJxo...feature=related

[Boggs52]

fatcrx, on Feb 19 2010, 05:31 PM, said:

Just listen to Mr T
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_rBidCkJxo...feature=related

I was lucky, most of my family lived at least 3 thousand miles away from me when I was injured (North Pole, Alaska, 1988), so I never had to deal with that sort of thing.

Funny, a few years ago I brought my mother out to live with me here in Arizona. I remember the standard family joke for years was "Well, since I am the only one in a wheelchair at least I will not be expected to take care of the old bat when she needs it" LOL. As it turned out, I was the only one responsible enough to do so. He final few years were good though.

[jclark]

I live with my parents and my mom use to do that when i first came home and the best way i found to handle it was to completely wear her out doing stuff for you and after a bit she won't even want to ask you if you need help because she'll be sick of it.

[mellowgator]

fatcrx, on Feb 19 2010, 05:31 PM, said:

Just listen to Mr T
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_rBidCkJxo...feature=related

that's so good. i'm sending to my mom on mother's day. thanks

mellowgator