[Rose Grant]

Taking it all back...Thanks for the input and letting me join your conversations.

This post has been edited by Rose Grant: 23 February 2010 - 09:04 PM

[wheeliebear75]

As to the schedule that depends on him & who ever takes care of him & what schedule they've got going.

Many of us find it difficult to sleep. I for one get the sensation of ants crawling around from point of injury down so it can be very hard to ignore when I am just laying there.

Staying as busy as possible is key I think. It isn't so much what it is that keeps the person busy just that they're doing something besides collecting dust & twitting their thumbs.

Why is he hearing voices that are not actually there? That is what schizophrenia is........audio hallucinations and/or the hearing of voices that do not exist.

Antidepressants help people who have a chemical imbalance........if he is having dark thoughts he may need to go seek counseling but whether or not meds of any sort would help is debatable & should be left for he & the Dr. to decide. I personally don't think they do much good unless of course the person in question has a chemical imbalance or tended to suffer from depression before they were injured.

It's EXPENSIVE to be disabled......& many people don't realize this & think a big settlement has them set for life.......but the $ dwindles ever so quickly. He needs to be careful of people who may try & get him to pay for stuff figuring "he's got plenty of money to cover it".

So your friend is the one who spilled his soda on his lap? If've done that before.......I'm also legally blind & not very well coordinated so I've knocked over more drinks than I care to remember......don't think I could count that high anyway. I knocked over my BF's tea & it went all over his lap & he was wearing light gray cotton shorts........he looked like he'd had an accident.

[Rose Grant]

So your friend is the one who spilled his soda on his lap? If've done that before.......I'm also legally blind & not very well coordinated so I've knocked over more drinks than I care to remember......don't think I could count that high anyway. I knocked over my BF's tea & it went all over his lap & he was wearing light gray cotton shorts........he looked like he'd had an accident.
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No actually I just commented on Justin's Post about it. Because I thought it may give him some perspective from the other side of things since. I went out with my quad friend for the first time (my first time) the other night for dinner. But no my friend is not the one that spilled his soda on his lap...but we had some other trials.

Thanks for the input.

[Rose Grant]

Should have been more clear on the "walkie"...it's what my friend calls AB's . Hope I didn't offend anyone.

[Rose Grant]

Why is he hearing voices that are not actually there? That is what schizophrenia is........audio hallucinations and/or the hearing of voices that do not exist.

Antidepressants help people who have a chemical imbalance........if he is having dark thoughts he may need to go seek counseling but whether or not meds of any sort would help is debatable & should be left for he & the Dr. to decide. I personally don't think they do much good unless of course the person in question has a chemical imbalance or tended to suffer from depression before they were injured.




I don't know how to make the quotes come up like everyone else does when they respond to what someone else says....

Anyways, he doesn't seem to talk about hearing voices or seeing things. More like there's another person in his head...I suppose he kind of does have two people in his head; makes sense that there is the AB and the Quad.

This post has been edited by Rose Grant: 23 February 2010 - 08:41 PM

[guido]

Rose Grant, on Feb 23 2010, 05:34 PM, said:

I don't know how to make the quotes come up like everyone else does when they respond to what someone else says....

Hi Rose

It depends on whether you're using Internet Explorer, Safari or Firefox, but...

THere are 2 places you can click <Reply>

1. at the end of every post - which lets you quote that post in your reply.

If you click this REPLY then you will see something like this - but in square brackets [ ] - at the start of what they said
quote name='Rose Grant' date='Feb 23 2010, 05:34 PM' post='150562'
and followed by /quote - also in square brackets [ ]
Make sure these are around what you want to quote

For example, your quoted text at the top looks like this in the reply box

[quote name='Rose Grant' date='Feb 23 2010, 05:34 PM' post='150562'
I don't know how to make the quotes come up like everyone else does when they respond to what someone else says....
[/quote

2. at the bottom of each thread- which either gives you a clear reply box or lets you reply to multiple quotes if you have clicked on the <Quote> button at the bottom of each of the relevant posts

Hope this helps?!

[guido]

In response to your original question, I think most of the answers would be best coming direct from your friend.

It's quite a common question on the forums: how do I ask? or will I offend? or is it okay to ask? We may all have SCI but we are still different, so some SCI people will be grouchy buggers and best left to their own devices, whereas others are easy going, and won't be easily offended: we've heard it all before!

If you ask something straight, what's to get upset about? You can always say "I hope you don't mind my asking" or "Tell me to butt out if you'd rather not discuss this." Then you are showing your intention as good, and this is what counts. He'll make a call on what he's happy to discuss.

If he has a problem, don't feel like you have to provide every solution, because taking on that kind of responsibility can change the dynamics of a relationship in unexpected ways. You can discuss things, facilitate things, find sources of information / activity for him to follow up; discussion can provoke thought processes on his part and he may ask your advice or opinion, as well as others. I always feel that the main drive has to come from the person who wants the change for it to work.

Careful not to muddle your relationship. You say you're married so your friendship is strictly just that, but even to me, your post came across as ambiguous on that front. A habit of direct communication from the start will help with this.

[Rose Grant]

1. at the end of every post - which lets you quote that post in your reply.

If you click this REPLY then you will see something like this - but in square brackets [ ] - at the start of what they said
[/color]quote name='Rose Grant' date='Feb 23 2010, 05:34 PM' post='150562'
and followed by /quote - also in square brackets [ ]
Make sure these are around what you want to quote

For example, your quoted text at the top looks like this in the reply box

Rose Grant, on Feb 23 2010, 05:34 PM, said:

at the bottom of each thread[/b]- which either gives you a clear reply box or lets you reply to multiple quotes if you have clicked on the <Quote> button at the bottom of each of the relevant posts

Hope this helps?!

i think i may have figured it out...thanks!