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[Justin14]

My Mom who has been my main caregiver has decided to go back to work...For the last week we've been trying to find someone to be at home to help me...Both my parents are Pediatrians so my Mom has some experiance hiring nurses but the last week has been such a pain...We've met with 15 people and it's either been her or me not liking them...I want someone kind of young so we can have a little in common and I met one I really liked but my Mom didn't like her because she was only a CNA and she wants a RN...I'm looking for some tips on finding someone and just ranting a little at the same time.

[Tetracyclone]

Question: Have you asked your mother her reasons for wanting an RN? Do you really need that level of expertise? Sometimes in the US RNs feel they are above doing the little things that make home care pleasant. Sure is motivation for getting stronger. Your Mom probably knows the ropes, so i hope you find someone who pleases both of you.

Edited by Tetracyclone, 28 February 2010 - 08:36 PM.

[kiwiquad]

Kinda crazy if you ask me..but then she IS your Mum. I'm a higher break than you, & 80% of my employees, (that I've taught over a 26yr period) have had little or no caring/nursing experience at all. Your mouth & a phone should be quite surfice. Besides, what RN is likely to be compatible to you at 14, for your mental stability & happiness?
Advertise..good luck.

[qbounce]

No offence to your Mom, but all my "caregivers" were neither RN's or CNA's. You'll be lucky. if after hiring someone, you still decide they fit the bill with their work ethic.

My advice, take the CNA and see if she works out first. After all, she's there to help YOU while your Mom's out of the house. You should be comfortable with whom the person helping you is.

But, know that a degree or a title doesn't make someone a better person. You still have to train each one for your individual needs, regardless.

[Justin14]

deb4604, on Mar 1 2010, 09:31 PM, said:

Justin,
I think it also depends on what your needs are. Are you just hiring someone on your own or are you working with an homecare agency? If so, you need to consider what your needs medical needs are. For example, if you need medications and can't administer them yourself, you need someone who can legally give them to you. Also, do you have an SP cath? I know anyone (okay, most people) can be trained to change/replace them, but again legally there may be issues.
I know that in NYS an aide would certainly be able to provide your personal care, but wouldn't be allowed to do the above tasks.

No we're not using a agency...I have a super pubic catheter...I did get my Dad to take over hiring and he sided with me and we got the CNA...I don't think we'll have a ton in common but she's 21 and next to the rest of them I think I'm more likely to click with her....She's coming in tomorrow and Friday for a trial thing.

[Tetracyclone]

We learn to get along with a lot of different kinds of people... because we have to depend on them. Before I was ever injured my friend with MS educated me. She said, "We learn to be positive and entertaining because if we are not fun to be around then people will not take care of us."

Often you have to sift through several tries before you get a good fit.

[Justin14]

In the first two days it seems to be a nice fit...She's real nice and it's very nice to get some space between my Mom and myself...We've been together pretty much 24/7 since I came home.

[Tetracyclone]