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[ClaraTaylor]

Afternoon my wonderful friends.

I'm in the process of packing my house away and moving (hopefully) into a room in a house occupied already by two lads (one being my boyfriend), they of course have been there for years now and so already have enough mugs to go around.

The practical stuff doesn't bother me (pots / pans / sofa / etc) as we'll pick what we want from the collection and recycle the rest.

I was just wondering if you had any suggestions of how to make a move go easy? I'm going to go on the basis that if I can't fit it all in my car (aka my personal stuff) in one trip than I need to get back in the boxes and get rid of stuff that I don't /need/ as it wont fit in the room (which they currently filled with car parts / junk / more car parts). The room is a single bed type sized room (as in we could get a double in there but... nothing else would fit).

Does anyone have a system of how they throw stuff away? I have so many memories but of course so little space!

Also - any suggestions on how to make a move go smoothly would be appreciated. Last time I moved was from my parents house to this empty shell which I managed in one trip in my little Vauxhall Viva HA (even though the boot may have been tied down with rope).

P.S. If anyone is a Robert Rankin fan (science fiction) and lives in the Leicester / Loughborough area yell now to receive a mix of 16 of his books (hard back and paper back). Some have been signed by the author but that shouldn't affect the value too much.

[edlee]

I'm not altogether sure of whether to be congratulating you on the move or commiserating with you. Seems only yesterday that you were looking for a new roomate to move into your place,, and now you're moving out.

Well,, none of my business anyway... I think you have it right in the one carload per move idea. Any more and you're hoarding. If you need to take more,, consider a truck as your next vehicle.

Trouble with getting the truck is that everyone will want to borrow it ( and you) for their moves. You might consider storing the stuff that doesn't fit in your new abode, in your car,,, what else are back seats for???

Hope your move goes well.
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[ClaraTaylor]

Bit of a 50/50 there Ed. Decided that I couldn't cope with my mother (aka landlord) s behaviour and indeed attitude to the house.

That and when your own mother doesn't believe how much pain you're in... yeah always good to feel loved.

[Tetracyclone]

Clara,

i moved several times in the process of downsizing. I decided i could not throw away precious stuff "lightly". They required ceremony to show respect for how I have lived my life. It was time consuming but I discovered, in the process of reading old journals, that my life had been very little as i remembered it. I had distorted events outrageously. That was well worth the time.

How did I end up with a BF who throws nothing away? And now I cannot move out to my own place because i am disabled. The Goddess of Irony is pissing her pants with laughter.

Edited by Tetracyclone, 06 June 2010 - 10:09 PM.

[Ches]

Storage is cheap..
Pack up everything you can't take or throw away..
Throw it in storage for a year or so.. in the meantime reflect on the things you actually remember owning... come to terms with the fact you need NONE of it..
go back.. dig out the one or two things you cant seem to forget, and have a garage sale to get rid of the rest.

[StillFingers]

Ches, on Jun 6 2010, 03:51 PM, said:

Storage is cheap..
Pack up everything you can't take or throw away..
Throw it in storage for a year or so.. in the meantime reflect on the things you actually remember owning... come to terms with the fact you need NONE of it..
go back.. dig out the one or two things you cant seem to forget, and have a garage sale to get rid of the rest.

Linda and I did the same when we moved her mom (she has Alzheimers) into our place. It took us two years (due to work issues; lack of free time), ended up keeping only a few things; mostly photos n stuff, the rest went to Good Will and the Salvation Army (both charities) and our local library...and two dumpsters...prior to storage some books, electronics and cooking items went to friends.

[Ches]

Yeah it what I did too. While in hospital my friends n family packed up my entire apartment. I came back home and didnt have the same sq ft to unload the boxes in...Ive pulled out a few things I wanted to keep here and there but tthe majority of it means nothing to me now. I cant even remember why I held on to some of it to begin w/. I think it's much easier to clean out your material possession when you don't opt to throw them out immediately.


Clara, would you mother allow you to keep belongings in her house for a few months while you settle in? That seems ideal.

Edited by Ches, 06 June 2010 - 11:58 PM.

[Ratticis]

Here just about everyone has at least 1 truck.

[ClaraTaylor]

Ches, on Jun 7 2010, 12:57 AM, said:

Clara, would you mother allow you to keep belongings in her house for a few months while you settle in? That seems ideal.

The way she's having tantrums hot and cold I doubt I will be back from work today before she's started throwing stuff away (or at least just been poking around the house to build up information for her next argument, probably start on about the wheels of the chair being on the carpet). Father is on holiday this week (if he's on holiday he wants to have fun... so he doesn't take her. Takes two mates instead!) and my brother has been telling mother for ages now that she to take responsibility for the house up keep rather than letting it fall down and blame me when I try to repair it.... so he wont be any good at calming her down!

Boyfriend was meant to be asking his house mate if my taking the room was okay last night (they were about to rent it to another mate but he naffed off to Scotland) but I've heard nothing so will presume that I need to find somewhere else.

[Tetracyclone]

Clara,

I've sent one of my little flat-sprites (a one-dimensional creature who can search real estate quicker than a cockroach) to assist you. I could only show him your picture for identification, so keep your head to one side for awhile. Luck and no worries.

now, time to lighten up on this stereotype you suffer from that a Mom is supposed to do more than let you live. Any mom who does not kill her offspring when they are young and whiny is a great mom. If you think she may sift through your stuff get some fun stuff for her to look at. Sex toys in glitter and loud colors... Pornography? You know best what would just embarrass the snot out of your mom- it might just be the classic rubber poop on the floor or dead rubber mice in the drawer. Borrow a friends pet snake?

Revenge is an honorable way to engage with family members.

Edited by Tetracyclone, 07 June 2010 - 03:06 PM.

[ClaraTaylor]

Tetracyclone, on Jun 7 2010, 02:15 PM, said:

Clara,

I've sent one of my little flat-sprites (a one-dimensional creature who can search real estate quicker than a cockroach) to assist you. I could only show him your picture for identification, so keep your head to one side for awhile. Luck and no worries.

now, time to lighten up on this stereotype you suffer from that a Mom is supposed to do more than let you live. Any mom who does not kill her offspring when they are young and whiny is a great mom. If you think she may sift through your stuff get some fun stuff for her to look at. Sex toys in glitter and loud colors... Pornography? You know best what would just embarrass the snot out of your mom- it might just be the classic rubber poop on the floor or dead rubber mice in the drawer. Borrow a friends pet snake?

Revenge is an honorable way to engage with family members.

If only she brought me up! Things would be so much simpler... I was farmed off to my grandparents until I was old enough to go to school.

[Ches]

Any word from the boyfriend, about the available room?

[spot]

I've been in the same position of not knowing where I am going to live. (But I was a bit younger and an AB at the time. I also had a car to live in for a few days.) I wish I could help you. But I'm a bit far away. All I can offer is my best wishes. Sorry.

Edited by spot, 08 June 2010 - 04:01 AM.

[ClaraTaylor]

Ches, on Jun 7 2010, 08:21 PM, said:

Any word from the boyfriend, about the available room?

Not yet.

[ClaraTaylor]

Still no news, which leads me to think that his house mate is not keen on the idea (don't blame him - who wants a girl messing up their life style). I'll be hunting through the newspapers and estate agents for somewhere tomorrow (rained too hard to day to leave the office). Also tomorrow I have a friend coming over to help me sort out my car parts.

Mother sent me a text message earlier (first contact with her since her tantrum) it read simply "when r u leaving"

Nice.

[spot]

Oh, that may be the problem with your boyfriend's house mate - he is afraid of all the car parts. Is there adequate storage space for all the parts or will he be forced to share most of his room with carburetors and generators?

[ClaraTaylor]

spot, on Jun 10 2010, 02:40 AM, said:

Oh, that may be the problem with your boyfriend's house mate - he is afraid of all the car parts. Is there adequate storage space for all the parts or will he be forced to share most of his room with carburetors and generators?

I've thrown so many parts away last night - the rest I've packed into my car (the one I'm restoring) so they are out of the way until I'm settled down (I'll be moving them into a friends shed so boyfriends house mate wont have to share anything with them). I will however be keeping my tool kit in my bedroom when I move.... The rest of the car parts I'll sort out tonight.

Looks like we've had the green light to move in with my boyfriend and his mate! Unfortunately my boyfriend is revising for exams as he's got a huge one next week and I'm so worried about him spending time sorting out this room (he's admitted that he will have to dig a path through to start sorting out - and you thought my car part storage was bad!) rather than revising. As much as I want to leave this place as soon as possible I want to try and convince him not to spend his time sorting when he should be revising. So maybe I can move out next weekend when all of his exams are finished. (When his exams have finished he'll be moving back with his parents so he wont be there until University starts again, hopefully they wont mind my visiting every night!)

I am so tempted to throw away all of my clothes except a few essentials, means there will be more space for books in the back of my car!! It will be interesting going and buying a new bookshelf / desk / wardrobe. Never done that before - any recommendations?