Can I just say a big "Thank You" to all posters on behalf of my family for the kind thoughts, messages and prayers that were left on this website for us after the death of my nephew. I lost count of the number of times when I went to the computer the message "You have a Pesonal Message" appeared.
The family are now trying to support Alan's Mum & Dad as best they can and although I have experienced death many times in my life, I was not prepared for the wrench and struggle that this would cause. It seems that each day that passes, another reminder springs to our view of Alan.
Only yesterday, someone said to me "that is us half way through the year, it will soon be CHristmas." I had not thought of that and can only say that I am not in the least looking forward to it - I shall breathe a sigh of relieve when December/January are over.
People say the first Christmas is the hardest - I shall let you know!! Now, I have to get through my 17th anniversary in May of my 1st accident and then the 1st anniversary on New Year's Day of my 2nd accident. Wonder how many folk can have that record!!
Bad enough one crippling accident - I was greedy and took 2!!!
Anyway, thanks for the messages and as you can see I am "dabbling," however, waiting for the "exciting" post that will fire up my fingers and get me posting.
ATTENTION OF COACH
Sorry - I have been a bit negligent in reading your postings of your book, however, I keep slogging on and trying not to get too embarrassed (or excited) at what you write about!!!!
Regards.
Gary & Family
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A BIG THANK YOU TO EVERYONE
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Gary Anderson
, May 18 2006 07:44 AM
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Gary Anderson
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Posted 18 May 2006 - 07:44 AM
ALWAYS REMEMBER - The darkest hour is only 60 minutes long and what won't kill you will make you stronger.
cauda equina lesion resulting in lack of ability to walk. Spinal cord undamaged and intact. NOW ABLE TO HOBBLE AROUND ON 2 STICKS AFTER LOADS OF PHYSIO.
cauda equina lesion resulting in lack of ability to walk. Spinal cord undamaged and intact. NOW ABLE TO HOBBLE AROUND ON 2 STICKS AFTER LOADS OF PHYSIO.
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Posted 18 May 2006 - 09:16 PM
Hi Gary,
Yeah.... that first christmas is going to be hard....and his birthday. I can only imagine the devastation your nephews parents are going through. I think that to lose a child (of any age) would be the WORST thing any parent could ever go through. Death is hard enough to deal with without it being a life youve created yourself.
Its going to be a tough holiday period for you all.
Yeah.... that first christmas is going to be hard....and his birthday. I can only imagine the devastation your nephews parents are going through. I think that to lose a child (of any age) would be the WORST thing any parent could ever go through. Death is hard enough to deal with without it being a life youve created yourself.
Its going to be a tough holiday period for you all.
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Posted 18 May 2006 - 10:04 PM
Hi Gary,
We lost my dad on 10/10/01 and I hate that date, he had survived several accidents in his life, he was 75% disabled, but 100% adamant not to let it beat him. As we have been told, the good die young, not that it helps to be told that.
He was only 61 when he died followed about 9 weeks later by his uncle who was only 10 years older on Christmas day, and everyone said to us that we would miss him on his birthday, at Christmas etc, we find that we miss him at totally different times, when the car breaks or fails the MOT and we want to know how to mend it, when we need to do plumbing, electrics, all sorts of things where we would have asked his advice or just talked to him.
Christmas and holidays are usually full of so many other things going on that it passes quickly, I hate the 10/10 as the date stands out like a sore thumb, but you all loved Alan, so the same would apply no matter when it happened. Keep talking about him, keep remembering him, we must, between us, mention my dad every single day, so he lives on with us. Things he said, things he did, lessons he taught us, the annoying things he did.
He spent over 30 years in chronic pain, to then be taken so early from us, we will never know why or understand, but we are coming to terms with it because it is the only choice we have, but when ever I do anything, I still think if my dad new I was doing that what would he say, and I'm nearly 40, so his body has gone but his spirit and soul are still with us.
I hope this helps, I know nothing can ease the pain at the moment, but talking really does help, you keep the persons memory alive and other people get to know him through you talking about him.
None of us will ever know why people have to die at what appears to us to be the prime of their lives, but a lady once told me that there is a baby waiting to be born, and cannot be born until there is a spare spirit/soul available, and that when we die our soul goes to a new baby, to start again. After my dad died my cousin had a little boy and he is the spitting image of my dad, he smirks like my dad, it is weird, but it gives me some sort of comfort to think that just maybe my dad's spirit has gone to Mitchell and lives on again.
Love to you all,
Maria.
We lost my dad on 10/10/01 and I hate that date, he had survived several accidents in his life, he was 75% disabled, but 100% adamant not to let it beat him. As we have been told, the good die young, not that it helps to be told that.
He was only 61 when he died followed about 9 weeks later by his uncle who was only 10 years older on Christmas day, and everyone said to us that we would miss him on his birthday, at Christmas etc, we find that we miss him at totally different times, when the car breaks or fails the MOT and we want to know how to mend it, when we need to do plumbing, electrics, all sorts of things where we would have asked his advice or just talked to him.
Christmas and holidays are usually full of so many other things going on that it passes quickly, I hate the 10/10 as the date stands out like a sore thumb, but you all loved Alan, so the same would apply no matter when it happened. Keep talking about him, keep remembering him, we must, between us, mention my dad every single day, so he lives on with us. Things he said, things he did, lessons he taught us, the annoying things he did.
He spent over 30 years in chronic pain, to then be taken so early from us, we will never know why or understand, but we are coming to terms with it because it is the only choice we have, but when ever I do anything, I still think if my dad new I was doing that what would he say, and I'm nearly 40, so his body has gone but his spirit and soul are still with us.
I hope this helps, I know nothing can ease the pain at the moment, but talking really does help, you keep the persons memory alive and other people get to know him through you talking about him.
None of us will ever know why people have to die at what appears to us to be the prime of their lives, but a lady once told me that there is a baby waiting to be born, and cannot be born until there is a spare spirit/soul available, and that when we die our soul goes to a new baby, to start again. After my dad died my cousin had a little boy and he is the spitting image of my dad, he smirks like my dad, it is weird, but it gives me some sort of comfort to think that just maybe my dad's spirit has gone to Mitchell and lives on again.
Love to you all,
Maria.
Wife of an incomplete SCI - level C5/6 - accident lifting boards above his head in work caused popping sensation in his neck and this was the result. He uses a wheelchair part of the time.
Never say never, and definately do not quit, its usually worth the trying in the end.
Never say never, and definately do not quit, its usually worth the trying in the end.
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