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[mcwriter]

Have I got you thinking yet?

After a couple of weeks in Rx hell, meaning that it was getting them written correctly trying to get a pre-authorization for a different med and eventually giving up, and finally getting them filled with unusually long and frustrating wait times (hours). (Let's not even mention how many trips back and forth while also trying to work this around my job, too.)

My husband has been extra miserable with having to come and go more than usual, a different pain med, the weather, you know the story. And I have been juggling what should have been simple things, but due to the half-brains of other people involved, it turned into such a complicated chain of events.

After all, I am out and about doing my level best to keep a smile on my face and deal with people (who you wonder how they even made it from home to work that day)
---while I politely help them think logically through a simple process that they can't seem to accomplish correctly on their own,
---I sweetly point out their errors and have to instruct them how to correct it,
---I still have to backtrack from their wrong information,
---they cannot seem to give straightforward answers and therefore cause an exorbitant amount of additional time and grief
---let's don't forget being outright lied to
---I must endure the apologies by persons who actually think I believe them
---And all the while I watch my gas gauge go down further and further for absolutely nothing, repeating the route back and forth because these people just don't seem to care if they do their jobs correctly or not, it's like all their effort is in trying to pass part of everything on to the next person. Ugh.

My husband has been giving me such praise and been so sweet while I've done my diligent best to get things taken care of, fuming all the way. He tells me how great I am and how lucky he is and really, "Who's the One With the Patience?"

I am the one who goes out and puts up with stuff like those mentioned above and then I come home and try to unwind from the tension in every fiber of my body that I used to keep from ripping the lips off every smile of every person I have encountered to accomplish getting what my husband needs.

He endures what his body puts him through, and he puts up with me and he makes everything worth it. God, I love that man! He is everything I am not. He gives my brain a rest after dealing with idiots and gives me intelligent conversation, and you have no idea what relief that gives. He observes me, every nuance, every detail and knows exactly what I need and when I need it. And when it comes to just the time I need to peel myself off the ceiling, do a little therapeutic typing on here or whatever, he gives it to me.

Yeah, I may do a lot of things, I do my own enduring, but he's the one with the patience...and how it warms my heart.

[Mrs. Anderson]

Today I was out at brunch with my hubby and a couple of friends. These ladies sitting next to us got up to leave and tapped me on the shoulder telling me how "admirable" my patience was. All of this in front of my husband! He's been injured for less than a year and is very sensitive about feeling like a burden because he has always been so independent. I really don't consider him a burden; he is my best friend and has been since we were 16 years old. I would be so lost without him.

One of the ladies said that seeing me with my husband made her realize that she should be nicer to her brother. This made me feel awful! If you don't want to take care of your brother then don't! If you realize that you aren't being nice to him, then stop caring for him. I guess I don't view myself as being "patient" with my husband; I view myself as not being a jerk....

[The Wife]

As far as his medical stuff goes Chris is definitely the one with the patience.

We've finally found a doctor who understands what Chris is going through, after several who'd just given up on Chris ever being much more than a talking vegetable.

Dr. J has made such a huge difference. Knowing that he has someone, besides his super-hot wife (lol) who is really in his corner has given Chris a lot of confidence. He knows Dr. J is going to fight for him, even making a house call one night when Chris was in pain, but the local ER considered it a non-emergency.

[Edinburgh Colin]

The Wife, on 17 June 2011 - 06:00 AM, said:

As far as his medical stuff goes Chris is definitely the one with the patience.

We've finally found a doctor who understands what Chris is going through, after several who'd just given up on Chris ever being much more than a talking vegetable.

Dr. J has made such a huge difference. Knowing that he has someone, besides his super-hot wife (lol) who is really in his corner has given Chris a lot of confidence. He knows Dr. J is going to fight for him, even making a house call one night when Chris was in pain, but the local ER considered it a non-emergency.

Sounds like Dr J is a cool, compassionate guy and as you say you're lucky to find him as many doctors "just don't get it" if they are not specalising in spinal. Glad to hear he is having a positive effect on your husband.
Cheers,
EC