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[mcwriter]

I am curious to know if anyone else cares for someone who talks in their sleep?

It is often an issue for the carer to get enough rest, and if you happen to be a spouse or significant other and sleep in the same bed or room and this is already an issue, add to that all the things that wake us up during the night. There are times when they can't sleep, they are sick or in pain, yes, but then there are the times when their body spasms somewhere and they are still asleep but it wakes you.

Now add to that talking in their sleep and you aren't sure if they are actually awake or not until the content of what they say dawns on you that they are dreaming. Lovely. I find myelf having a conversation with my husband while he is dreaming and in the morning has no idea what I am talking about.

Fun.

[ClaraTaylor]

I talk in my sleep, most often it seems about hamsters (evil little things) and have before yelled at my boyfriend that we must never ever send our daughter (that we don't have) to the transvestite ballet dancer. I asked him if it wakes him: it used too but now his brain zones it out.
Has your husband always talked in his sleep?

[Trinity]

http://sleeptalkinman.blogspot.com/

[ClaraTaylor]

Trinity, on 18 July 2011 - 07:44 AM, said:

http://sleeptalkinman.blogspot.com/

*Much laughter* I had forgotten all about that chap!

[mcwriter]

Trinity, that link was sooo hilarious!

When my husband talks in his sleep and it wakes me up, I'd swear he was also awake at first because he answers me. But then he will say something or ask me a question that doesn't make any sense and then it dawns on me that he is still dreaming. I never get enough info to know what's going on in the dream, though. He seems like he does it more when he has had a long stretch of really crummy sleep like a series of short naps over days. It's weird. I try to go back to sleep right away and then in the morning if I mention it, he wants to know what it was all about and I can't remember much.

hahaha ---maybe we're both dreaming and having conversations in our sleep with each other only in separate dreams! What a hoot.

[pinkcloud]

clara, people who take acid dont have trips that scary or funny, bless ya heart

ohh heck mcwriter, you started something here...

This is soooo embarrassing for me.

I dont just speak in me sleep, I 'see' things.....

Like telling someone I bought them a new bike....and pointed at the front room table..and i got real upset because they laughed and said it was a table i remember nothing....now i just get ignored and agreed with, that is unless i try to make them use a cigarette rolling paper as a sheet for me bed.... the shame....

McWriter hey just think of the most bizarre conversations you have with Mr McWriter...good stuff for your book I reckon

Edited by pinkcloud, 19 July 2011 - 07:34 PM.

[ClaraTaylor]

pinkcloud, on 19 July 2011 - 07:27 PM, said:

clara, people who take acid dont have trips that scary or funny, bless ya heart

Hey they're just the ones I can say in polite society!

I'm just glad I don't sleep walk any more... mother would find me in the garden, down the road, and try as I might to put pjs on every night come 03:00 they'd magically disappear. I also used to try and clean the house (if by clean you read organise rooms into colours), turn the sofa round, empty the kitchen cupboards and arrange everything by height or alphabet.... Sometimes I am amazed my parents didn't lock me in a room at night.

[LeahC]

I see things too, PC. I woke up the other night and could've sworn there was a goblin hanging out of my wardrobe. It was a sheet. Always happens and I remember them too. Once I gave my then-partner a bra off the floor and told him it was a ham sandwich haha x

[ClaraTaylor]

LeahC, on 19 July 2011 - 10:24 PM, said:

I see things too, PC. I woke up the other night and could've sworn there was a goblin hanging out of my wardrobe. It was a sheet. Always happens and I remember them too. Once I gave my then-partner a bra off the floor and told him it was a ham sandwich haha x

*much laughter* Oh I'd love to know what the brain thinks when it comes up with this stuff.

Sorry Mc Writer that we're no good at solving your being woken up (except perhaps ear plugs) but at least you now know what ever your husband says it's probably not as weird as us fruit cakes!!

[LeahC]

This morning I thought there was a little girl's dress hanging off my door handle. Creepy ha x

[pinkcloud]

LeahC, on 19 July 2011 - 10:24 PM, said:

I see things too, PC. I woke up the other night and could've sworn there was a goblin hanging out of my wardrobe. It was a sheet. Always happens and I remember them too. Once I gave my then-partner a bra off the floor and told him it was a ham sandwich haha x

Leah...i think many a bloke would like to think of ya bra as a sandwich little girls dresses though, i be scared of that, like its was a ghost or something

clara...better naked than one of leah sheets..goblins wrapped around ya may have been a bit scary at 3am to your neighbours...mind you would be a good deterant for any pervs waiting up to get a night time special (and i dont mean hot coco drink)

[mcwriter]

Good grief, you all have quite the variety of things, don't you?

I remember back when my kids were babies and the joke was that new mom's were not going to get actual sleep or hot food for quite a few years. It's always funny up until about the third night of getting up several times during the night and maybe after the first week you realize that eating an actual hot meal might never be in the cards again.

I've had a few hot meals...at restaurants, once upon a time and for some reason only when the kids aren't home now I if I get to sit down and stay there I might actually get to blow on a few bites. I can live with the food thing, but as for sleep, I don't know.

My husband has a big thing about married couples and sleep. He believes that couples should not sleep apart and the only reason they would is if they had a fight, but he is also one to promote the thing about never going to sleep mad at each other. Where does this leave me then? Hmm.

If some little thing wakes me up I can go right back to sleep, but when it gets to three times in a row I am wide awake. It's extremely frustrating if one is really exhausted. I've tried the couch a couple of times and boy, was that hell in the morning! Or was that the smell of napom. Well however you spell that.

I've tried a different room entirely as well and this seriously affronts him. I've tried the nap in the afternoon when I was so tired I wanted to just drop, but then the phone rings or some idiot thinks they oughtta knock on our door to sell me something or ask me to sign a petition or expect me to listen to their campaign speech or whatever. It only happens when I try to take a nap and never when I am already awake, go figure.

Arghhhh. I thought no sleep was when your kids were young or for when they were late and forgot to call, not just because your spouse wakes up every half hour, or he has spasms in his sleep and elbows me in the head or if he does actually sleep he has to talk to some invisible dream characters that only inhabit our house when he is in REM!? They are the worst and I've half a mind to yell at them myself and try to make them leave the next time they decide to engage my husband in some strange conversation. Ha!

Wonderful...just lovely...I've just admitted to having half a mind, thank you very much:) That's what not enough sleep gets you.

[ClaraTaylor]

How would he feel about two beds in the same room? You're still "together" and have a cuddle before sleeping, but it leaves you with your own space so that his spasms or such like movements do not affect you and you might be far enough away (with ear plugs?) so that his chattering away wont wake you?

Failing that tell him straight - you just can't function without a decent nights sleep. How can you care for yourself let alone him and imagine the damage a few years down the line? My parents have been happily married for 28 years and I (at 26) can't remember them ever sharing the same room. Father used to work late, mother had the babies to wake up too in the night and both of them snore like pneumatic drills. BUT it seems to have worked! Father goes into mothers room (they have the space to both have double beds) every morning with a cup of tea for her and .... *laa laa laa hands in ears*

Any whoo..

[pinkcloud]

oh i know its awful you aint getting good sllep but i couldnt help so funny how you tell the events, but only because i can laugh at eself and think 'ohh no cringe i do that too like your Roy.

I feel its real romantic your mr mcwriter wants to sleep with you, me crap ex husband always never went to bed with me (later found out it was because he was a speed freak ) and me first partner...i willed him to go out and ork nights just so i didnt have to be near him..strange for years after i slept at the very end of the bed..so me arm was dangeling over the side of it.even with me nice boyfriend i would hold his hand at night and be far apart on waking.

I happy to say i dont no more, so it does have an impact on some people
, yet hearing claras story made me realise that yes, it actually can be a real nice idea for seperate beds too (lalala moments thought that was just me )

I think this a great idea..seeing as Roy probably sleeps thorough you could go to your bed just after he falls sleep..or when your woke in the night.

[mcwriter]

I don't know, I pretty much think I doomed to about the same amount of sleep my husband gets at night. Of course HE can manage a nap in the daytime and I'm jealous about that, but I regress...

Any bit of noise wakes me up too. Last night we had to listen to a neighbor's dog bark incessantly for a couple of hours until I gave up and headed to the kitchen to make some coffee. Why not? I knew I was going to be up for the rest of the day anyway, right? Well it doesn't matter what I do, I still manage to feel like pooping out around 3pm. I've tried to eat differently, I've tried the nap which I told you is the only time something happens, I've tried more caffeine and none of those work, something will invariably startle me awake or I will drag for a couple of hours--I guess that means I recharged somehow? Doesn't seem possible, but after I get over the 3pm fatigue, it is a distant memory until bedtime rolls around again. How odd.