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[Ewilson055]

I am a C5 complete and my accident happened last year. Rehab was tough yucky meals, getting bothered all the time with nurses and doctors and I was always freezing. Once I got home and started to not feel so sick and could sit up longer, I pushed myself to use a power assist chair. I also have a caregiver who is around my age and she helps get my butt up. She helps me with steps towards me accepting my injury. My biggest thing is being around people my age who are confident and good influences. I still have all my able body friends, made friends with the nurses and therapy people at rehab and other injuried people. I always get sad because I was a dance teacher and it was hard to give it up. All my dreams went out the door. once he has more time under his belt then he can help others. That always feels good. Plus if he is like me, it is really almost impossible to commit suicide. I promise everything will get better for him. It's a fight but its worth it. You never know what will happen in the future. He can always call me, it feels good to talk about your injury and we also learn from each other.

[Lexco]

Terrible Texan, on 14 October 2011 - 10:01 PM, said:

He will lose friends, as all of us here have, but if we do, they weren't true friends anyway, but he will gain new ones. i'm 44yrs old & have been placed in a nursing home 6yrs ago & will most likely die in one. i have come to accept it. the sooner he accepts his disability, the sooner he can move on & make his own path in life. this website is helpful for all sci info, & to meet new people in the same condition. if hes going thru something, someone here has been threw it. have him join, & let us help ease his mind.

Graham and I always said new sci's should go 1-1 with another sci experience and answers are needed for the first part after critical care.
I met Graham in a Nursing Home 12yrs post accident and luckily it was love at first sight for us, and I got him out as soon as I could.
I broke my back in three places from lifting and such but I stayed at it. Back when he left they wouldn't support us because they were going to loose funding.
He was 41 when I got him out and my promise was I'd never put him back. He broke his neck playing rugby, the team lost and his ex wife said I won't be able to handle this so I may as well go now. So keep smiling at the ladies and as them out for a coffee, never know one might say yes.
Maybe you could look at Group Housing with 3or 4 people sharing and apply for funding for care packages.
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[style71]

It's normal for the depression. Family and getting him out of the house will help a lot.

[Abdifatah28]

Early this year I was a inpatient at Ladywell mental institution after I took a huge dose of paracetamol tablets. I've been in a wheelchair six years I went to school I was active I had friends,but I couldn't get over the fact that for the rest of my life I was going to sit in a wheelchair and it just build up to the point where I couldn't take it anymore .Being in that place was the best thing that happened to me I saw people in there living with big problems some not distinguishing fantasy from reality, and I also fully realised what people meant when they said suicide isn't a solution.What your son wants is to feel better ,but suicide doesn't lead to that it leads to nothing the end of your life and existence.He doesn't want to commit suicide believe me he needs help to cope better and come to terms with his new life maybe a professional can help

Edited by Abdifatah28, 11 November 2011 - 07:19 AM.