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[Saxsen]

im 17 and i had a crush on a guy for a really long time and he lived far away but liked me 2. we rarely see eachother and hes one of my best friends.And i found out he had a girlfriend. So I made a new years resolution to get out there and find someone. But im not really good at that stuff. i have lots of guy friends, but none of them like me like that. my mom gives me advice but it would never work, shes so forceful and doesnt understand. Neither do my friends. Im just not sure how to go about finding someone, and get into that dating situation. Any tips???

By the way ive been in a wheelchair since i was four, so im not new to the whole wheelchair thing.

[rattrap]

A friend of mine says,
"You're still really young. Actually you're not even a legal adult yet. Just continue living life and doing what you like and you are bound to meet someone with similar interests down the road (: "

Edited by rattrap, 01 January 2012 - 10:08 PM.

[A trophy guy]

 rattrap, on 01 January 2012 - 09:51 PM, said:

A friend of mine says,
"You're still really young. Actually you're not even a legal adult yet. Just continue living life and doing what you like and you are bound to meet someone with similar interests down the road (: "

That is pure lip service. That is what every single person says to every other person who has ever lamented about lonliness/sexual frustration. They are purely hollow words.

[A trophy guy]

 Saxsen, on 01 January 2012 - 07:13 PM, said:

im 17 and i had a crush on a guy for a really long time and he lived far away but liked me 2. we rarely see eachother and hes one of my best friends.And i found out he had a girlfriend. So I made a new years resolution to get out there and find someone. But im not really good at that stuff. i have lots of guy friends, but none of them like me like that. my mom gives me advice but it would never work, shes so forceful and doesnt understand. Neither do my friends. Im just not sure how to go about finding someone, and get into that dating situation. Any tips???

By the way ive been in a wheelchair since i was four, so im not new to the whole wheelchair thing.

Just out of curiousity, what was this advice that your mother gave you?

[Saxsen]

She told me to be very upfront and arrogant. thats how she acts, but thats not me. i know her track record and thats y i dont use her advice. :-)

[A trophy guy]

 Saxsen, on 01 January 2012 - 10:39 PM, said:

She told me to be very upfront and arrogant. thats how she acts, but thats not me. i know her track record and thats y i dont use her advice. :-)

LOL, yeah I can see why. Being arrogant turns me off BIG TIME in a girl...

Edited by A trophy guy, 01 January 2012 - 10:43 PM.

[rattrap]

 A trophy guy, on 01 January 2012 - 10:19 PM, said:

 rattrap, on 01 January 2012 - 09:51 PM, said:

A friend of mine says,
"You're still really young. Actually you're not even a legal adult yet. Just continue living life and doing what you like and you are bound to meet someone with similar interests down the road (: "

That is pure lip service. That is what every single person says to every other person who has ever lamented about lonliness/sexual frustration. They are purely hollow words.

This website is used for helping people. Is there really a need to insult somebody else's advice?

[A trophy guy]

 rattrap, on 01 January 2012 - 10:55 PM, said:

 A trophy guy, on 01 January 2012 - 10:19 PM, said:

 rattrap, on 01 January 2012 - 09:51 PM, said:

A friend of mine says,
"You're still really young. Actually you're not even a legal adult yet. Just continue living life and doing what you like and you are bound to meet someone with similar interests down the road (: "

That is pure lip service. That is what every single person says to every other person who has ever lamented about lonliness/sexual frustration. They are purely hollow words.

This website is used for helping people. Is there really a need to insult somebody else's advice?

I insulted nothing (or at least that was not my intention). You are right, this site is about helping people and I merely gave my opinion that your "advice" was not helpful in the slightest. I apologize, Rattrap, for the perception of insulting you or your advice.

[quadinva]

 rattrap, on 01 January 2012 - 09:51 PM, said:

A friend of mine says,
"You're still really young. Actually you're not even a legal adult yet. Just continue living life and doing what you like and you are bound to meet someone with similar interests down the road (: "

I second this. When you go on the 'hunt' to find somebody you end up trying to hard and being unnatural. Love will smack you in the face when you least expect it. I know everybody says that, but everybody says the sky is blue...sometimes the consensus is right.

-Bags

[Lou05]

just be confident, whether youre looking or youre not. not cocky or arrogant just confident on your personality, dont be afraid to flirt or crack a dirty joke. take it from someone whos dated a lot. even as a quad this lil thing gives me all i need to talk and make someone else see past my wheelchair. good luck.

[Irish Wheels (Jessica)]

I'm 17 years old and was diagnosed with cancer at 6 months old that left me paralyzed from the chest down. I've had a few boyfriends before and it has been 2 years since my last relationship. I've been trying to develop a relationship since my last one, but I feel that my disability scares them off. I was just wondering if anyone has any tips to make guys see past the wheelchair and see the fun loving, independent girl I truly am.

[Scrappy]

 Saxsen, on 01 January 2012 - 07:13 PM, said:

im 17 and i had a crush on a guy for a really long time and he lived far away but liked me 2. we rarely see eachother and hes one of my best friends.And i found out he had a girlfriend. So I made a new years resolution to get out there and find someone. But im not really good at that stuff. i have lots of guy friends, but none of them like me like that. my mom gives me advice but it would never work, shes so forceful and doesnt understand. Neither do my friends. Im just not sure how to go about finding someone, and get into that dating situation. Any tips???

By the way ive been in a wheelchair since i was four, so im not new to the whole wheelchair thing.

This is what I wrote on this other girls post... I've been in a chair for 2 yrs and I havnt had trouble getting girls.. I might jus b cursed haha but the best advice I culd give you is to be happy smile a lot enjoy life be yourself be cool be funny and have fun.. I think having fun and enjoying happiness in life and appreciating people you care about are the most important things in life

[Rolilancou]

I agree with everyone's opinion. Thankfully you haven't had a relationship with a prick or someone that would ruin that beautiful experience because you're too young, at this age most probably no guy would take you seriously and honestly why would you want that? to see how it feels like to be with someone?....believe me, you don't, you'd regret it later.
I know it's just to date and go out and do all those things dating people do but most of the time it will be a temporary thing. Now, meeting a nice young man that will respect you and care for you for who you are is the most meaningful thing. Absolutely be yourself and don't try too hard because that's just being fake.

Never see your wheelchair as an obstacle because that's the only thing the guy will see and will never want to even try and know you. From an AB point of view, I have never seen the wheelchair on my fiance, that's what made me more interested in him and finally made me fall in love with him.
Hope everyone's advise here helps

[tsh3406]

Your experiences as a teen, good and bad, will shape you as an adult. No need to miss out on those experiences just because of a number. Get out there, be a beautiful young thing and get the attention you deserve. Do you drive?