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[MissLea93]

I know that the title makes me sound idk sad
and eager but im in NOOOOOO rush what so ever to
have children. lol. I am an 18 year old t12
para/complete. . .but i cant wait to be a mom<3
Yeah i know i am young and at one point i never
wanted kids but i honestly cannot wait. haha
I dont plan on going out and having kids- i dont want
to bring a child into this world without being able
to support him/her/them and love them the way a mother
should ya know. . .anyways-

i just wanted to make it clear that everyone knows i dont
plan on having kids right now-

I was just wondering if people here could just tell me
what its like to be a parent in a wheelchair-
what pregnancy was like- or if any body out there like
myself cant wait to be a parent also

I think pregnancy is a beautiful thing. it fascinates me-
and i would like to know what its like before it happens.

thanks.

[paraguy1]

I cant tell you whats its like but I will say my biggest regret in life is not becoming a parent. So dont let the chair hold you back I am a t11 para and you can do anything you set your mind too.

[A trophy guy]

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Edited by A trophy guy, 04 January 2012 - 01:45 AM.

[KayDub]

I've never had kids, but down the road I definitely want them. Until I met my fiance I'd always been skeptical of it, I love kids and I even work with them, but the idea of having my own kids made me feel uncomfortable. I'm kind of the opposite of you when it comes to thinking about pregnancy :-) I think it was because I had a hard time seeing myself in a relationship with a guy that got to that level and I was also a lot younger. I don't plan on having kids until I'm least in my late 20s because to me, having a solid career and being financially sound are important. Also I think it's important to have a chance to explore the world and do things you can't necessarily do when you have kids like travel internationally and work different jobs and just explore the world. Not saying doing those things and having kids is impossible but it's much more difficult. Right now I like living in Colorado half the year and Australia the other half of the year, it'll be much harder when my fiance and I have children.

But definitely don't let being a para stop you from thinking you'll be able to have children someday. I was about to make a comment about the importance of thinking through having kids and possibly waiting until you're older (NOT because of maturity, many young people are very mature, but because of how important a stable income and home life are to a child). Then I read your whole post and saw you're not trying to rush into anything you're just thinking it through :-) I know there's loads of parents on this forum who can chime in about being a parent with an SCI. There's paras, quads, the whole spectrum of SCI that have fathered or given birth to children. Other people with SCI adopt or raise step children or parent non-biological children.

I know it sounds cheesy but don't let people make you think your SCI can stop you from participating in any activity in your life now or down the line, giving birth to and raising children included!

Edited by KayDub, 04 January 2012 - 02:28 AM.

[AliGibson]

Having my daughter was the best thing I ever did.....but I wouldn't have wanted to do it unless I was in a stable relationship and finances were ok.
For a long time I didn't think I'd find someone who would accept me and love me enough to get married & start a family......but the right man came along and now our daughter is 4 yrs old!

I have set up a website (details below) to share my experiences - take a look if you like.

Good luck, but you're right.....there's no rush!

Ali

[DorieAnthony26]

Hello I'm new to this sight. I am 28 years old who is dating my boyfriend who has a c-6/7 sci.
We want to have a baby so bad but like most women who are in the same place as me he does not ejaculate. And with me my problem is I do not get my period on a regualr basis which makes things even harder. Is if there any thing we can do to help it stay hard and to help him get off. And does any one know if there is any place that has low cost treatments or will let you make payments. Taking care of Anthony is a full time job but I also ha e my 90 yr old grandfather who is wheel chair bound who I care for as well so we are on a fixed income. So its not easy to get a job and let alone right now with his anger and emotional issues makes it eve. More difficult. Is any one void.g through the same thing as me, it would be really nice to just have some one to talk to who understands!! Dorie

[Heather1984]

My son just turned 5 months old a few days ago so i'm still in the early stages of figuring out how to be a parent from a chair. My pregnancy went perfect, my regular doctor did send me to a high risk specialist just to be extra careful. I stay at home by myself and take care of him with no help. With him being so young I haven't found anything I can't do with him. Once he starts to crawl that will be something I have to figure out. I get on the floor and play with him just like a "normal" mom. I try to do everything by myself, but I do ask for help when I need to.

[PianoLady]

Hey! Pregnancy can have its bumps like anybody else's. ScI's are considered high risk from the get go. They also worry about the pain going to your brain during delivery that you can't feel and your brain receives--they think you may go into shock. I suppose that is possible but I had both of my children naturally, I could push enough and all went well. The only problem is...How do you know if your in labor? I made a lot of extra doctors trips and then one was it. Always pay attention and you will do as fine as anyone else.
I am a single mom for 2 years, my children are 21months and 5 years old, and its a challenge but so worth it. You just have to teach your children to respond to your voice! and always think at lease 10 steps ahead of them, so they don't get into any serious trouble.
I have been the one who taught my son to walk, run, climb stairs, dance and play ball--so truth be told, if they can listen they can learn anything. I love talking babies, so here if you want to chat more

[trynity7]

Im glad you brought this up because I have been thinking alot about it too. Before my injury I didnt trip on it, I figured there would always be time but the years been flying by and now im going to be 27 and I have this injury and I dont even know my body anymore. It really makes me think. But your really young still. Enjoy

[Heather Jackson]

I can't wait to have a baby!! I'm like u