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[greybeard]

Jules put this comment on my page tonight. I know she won't mind me posting it. I've no doubt she would appreciate a few supportive messages. Three weeks in hospital AND losing your job would be hard for anyone to take.

"Hey GB, still really struggling tbh, been in hospital for last 3 weeks, had lots of bleeding in my lungs. Been forced into medical retirement by horrible bullying boss too. Thought bleeding had stopped but it started again today. xx"


Please take care of yourself Jules. Hope you recover soon.

[wheeliebear75]

Feel better Jules!

[davjed]

Jules, hang in there....this is just a pit stop.........you have more laps to run.....Best Wishes for a quick return to the race.....

[Edinburgh Colin]

Dear Jules, so sorry to hear you are struggling again. To get kicked when you are down by a heartless boss is unbelievable.
I hope they are keeping you comfortable and you are not getting too stressed, thinking of you and the family.
EC

[airart1]

bummer, what a streak of bad luck, get well soon, jules! hoping for a quick recovery......

[Quad65]

Many happy hopes for a quick recovery from across the pond in America. I don't know you, but I can understand your pain and frustration. Get well soon!

[Zack]

Dear Jules,
I will Pray God let's me absorb some of your suffering, that your bleeding Stops, And your Home Soon! "You will over come this!"

Stay Strong

[Aparr]

Jules~

I'm sorry to hear of your trouble again. I hope you have a speedy recovery and are out of the hospital very soon. It has to be awful unless you have a good looking male nurse. However, males nurses are far and few between. So there is no sense in hanging around there ... Get better and head on home!

What goes around, comes around and your creep of a boss will get his (or hers) at some point. You'll be able to better yourself when the time is right.

You're a fighter and a survivor so hang in there and take care of yourself.

[ClaraTaylor]

Jules! This just isn't allowed. You're the hero to many many many of us, all this worshipping should be making you invincible so long as you stay away from the cyptonite. I even have your photograph on the slide show that scrolls on my computer when I am feeling down and useless. Why? Because I have NEVER met a woman as strong and as determined as you. You should have seen my little dancing feet every time the radio crackled through as one of the ambulance crews updated me on your location at the Leicester Marathon and how you were speeding past. Seeing you do that sparked a little bulb inside me because you have proven that NOTHING is impossible.
And you will always remain my hero not matter what bullies try to put you down with thinking you're better off at home planning your next adventure or doctors issue "cautious" advice. You keep proving them wrong.

We'll be here patiently crossing every finger and toe we can for a very quick recovery.

Love you x

[jenny407]

Dear Jules, I'm so very sorry to hear of your troubles. I'm sorry your health is causing you problems yet again ... and I find your boss totally incredible!! What an idiot.

I do think of you and wish you the very best, sending good vibes to you, energy and all the very, very best!

[lavenderthistle]

Oh Jules, I'm really sorry to hear this. I wish you comfort and a speedy release from the hospital. I send you positive vibes and happy thoughts. Rest well

[Bethann]

Hope you feel better soon Jules!

[araitn]

I'm sending good thoughts your way Jules!

[Doodle]

Heres a as I am not very good with words! But I wish you better health soon!!

[mellowgator]

jules,

you are the most awesome woman i know. keep up the fight you'll show them all!



mellowgator

[Tetracyclone]

Finally your future is freed up from that bully. Bright things beckon while I join with Clara crossing fingers and toes. Darn. Gimped toes won't do it but fingers on right hand will!

[jules]

Thanks everyone, Clara your message just bought a few tears, I will fill you all in on the work situation. I have basically been bullied by a new boss who has come on the scene, she has picked on me broken DDA by making up a rule that I am not allowed to have any help to do anything in the department, saying I was not allowed to get changed in the toilets to go out training, after I have finished my hours, when other people go out running at lunchtime and get changed in the toilets.

She sent me such a nasty email one day that I was crying in the toilets at work for an hour, which started a bleed, when I told them I was bleeding I was told to go to A&E on my own, nobody informed my husband and I was made to push myself across the car park to A&E alone whilst haemorhaging. I was only given 6 weeks to prove that I could do 25 hours a week, I was averaging over 20. I was asked to go to a case conference with my boss, another senior member of staff, HR and occupational health, I was told it was to discuss how to manage my illness. I took my respiratory nurse with me as support. When I got there it was more like a firing squad, occupational health were on my side saying that 6 weeks was far too short a time, every suggestion that they made, like a phased return to work or further reduced hours, my boss said no, until HR said that the only option left was for them to terminate my contract on ill health grounds, she said that is what she wanted. I was in bits, I was told to terminate my contract I would have to go in front of a panel and basically beg for my job, but the chances are they would terminate because that is what my boss wanted. I couldn't win, the chances are that all the stress of going through the panel would make me ill, and if I did she would have made my life hell. So it was with a heavy heart I decided to take medical ill health retirement so I get my pension, I took all of my annual leave a few days later which took me up to January 18th, after which I was signed off sick.

On January 3rd I was taken seriously ill with major bleeding in my lungs, I have been in hospital ever since, I have got no doubt that all the stress with my job has had some part in my deterioration, and I still don't know why my boss decided to bully me. I have since heard from people who have worked with her before that she is a bully and has a history of bullying.

I was hoping that the bleeding had stopped but yesterday it started again, the growths in my lungs have all grown and are putting pressure on other tissue and are eating into nerves and blood vessels causing the bleeding.

I am stilll fighting on though, and am so grateful for all of your support.

Jules
xx

[ClaraTaylor]

Sounds that leaving was the best thing you could do. The extra stress just wouldn't have been worth the fight when you have so much more to live for than work. She's a jerk. And I'm sure will step in plenty of dog poo until suddenly she stinks so much that no one wants to be around her.

Thank you for keeping us updated xxx

[Tinbasher]

This sounds like disability discrimination leading to constructive dismissal.

Have you taken advice/

[Edinburgh Colin]

As Doodle posted as they're the best.
Colin

[DannyR]

I'm with Tinbasher it might be worth looking into when you are able. You are probably better off not being in such a bad situation. Just know this you are a better stronger person than that boss could ever hope to be. Be better soon.

[Ches]

Sorry to hear Jules.. Wishing you an awesome recovery.. I wish I had more to offer on the matter..

You'll always be our 'Jewels'

[StillFingers]

Jules, you are in my thoughts, in all of your hearts

[jules]

Tin, thanks for saying that, I have been considering it myself. I will get better or at least stronger first before I take on the fight. I was given off the record advice by the OH Dr who said she had broken DDA by saying I was not allowed any help. I have got copies of all the emails that I found either rude/offensive or just plain nasty!

Its 18 years of training down the pan, but I instantly had offers to work elsewhere on a bank contract, the same place where they said she was a bully.

I will keep you updated.

Jules
x

[sherbs]

Thinking of you Jules, xx

[McTavish]

Jules what goes around comes around and that boss will get what she deserves in due course . Get better soon, my thoughts are with you.

[qbounce]

I don't blame you for focussing your energy on your health first.
Sometimes that's all we can do.
Everything in due course, jules.
Just get better, kay!

Q~ the hiku master . . . NOT!

[goose]

Jules.....you are the Energiser bunny of the forum! You keep on going even when they try to knock you down. Your body is just needing a little rest and TLC....LISTEN to your body. I'm sure after some rest you'll be back up and fighting. Watch out world...here comes Jules!!!

[jules]

Thanks for all of the kind messages, I am still in hospital, need to have a bit of a top up of blood because my HB levels have got a bit too low. I still can't shift the infection that has caused the bleed. The growths have all increased in size and are now pressing on other tissue in my lungs and also getting stuck on my pleural membrane which does explain the amount of pain I am in. We are trying to get my pain under control by increasing my sustained release morphine that I am on, but I am frequently needing IV morphine at the moment. The good news is that my porta cath (the permanent iv line that I had placed in my chest is working well, I am currently using it for my iv fluids and also my antibiotics and morphine when required.

Thanks again guys

xxx

[Tetracyclone]

Jules,
We have a phrase over here for what the bully did for/to you: She has freed up your future (which I am confident you have).

Now you are free to take a job with nice people, which this world is full of.

Next job look for someone just like Clara in the office!

I am sending soothing energy to ease your pain and way to recovery.