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Started by Gunnslinger8 , Feb 03 2012 11:36 PM

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Poll: Burial or Cremation? (44 member(s) have cast votes)

Burial or Cremation? Have you changed your decision after SCI?

  1. Burial (8 votes [18.18%])

    Percentage of vote: 18.18%

  2. Cremation (26 votes [59.09%])

    Percentage of vote: 59.09%

  3. I'll let my loved ones decide (2 votes [4.55%])

    Percentage of vote: 4.55%

  4. I have not made a decision yet (8 votes [18.18%])

    Percentage of vote: 18.18%

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#1 Gunnslinger8

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Posted 03 February 2012 - 11:36 PM

I was just curious when it comes to your wishes after you pass away. I personally always wanted to be cremated, the main reason being I would rather have my mother use all that extra cash on herself, as you know coffins, tombstones, burial sites etc can be VERY EXPENSIVE. 

I have concerns though, my mother is deeply religious and I keep wondering if she will choose burial even after I have emphasized, literally a hundred times that I want cremation. I said the stupidest thing once (yeah I know I say them all the time) when we were discussing my choice to be turned to ashes, I said HEY MOM I AIN'T JOKING I WANT TO BE CREMATED DO YOU UNDERSTAND, IF YOU DON'T DO IT I'M GONNA BE PISSED! 

Is there anyone who has changed their decision to cremation because you don't want to be buried in your condition? 

Edited by Gunnslinger8, 03 February 2012 - 11:38 PM.

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Posted 03 February 2012 - 11:58 PM

Cremation and not just because of the money. I would rather all the people I love get together at a memorial, which usually is more of a celebration of your life, then to come up to a casket where I lay and cry. Dripping their tears on me isn't going to help anyone in my book.
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#3 Zack

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Posted 04 February 2012 - 12:28 AM

I've paid for my cremation a few years ago. Nothing here worth leaving Family. I Don't want to be dug up in a few hundred years and called an Archeological Find! :D
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Posted 04 February 2012 - 12:34 AM

I never gave it a lot of thought, even after my accident, but after I watched "Six Feet Under" on HBO, the thought of embalming/body preparation and burial gives me the heebee jeebies. I don't have enough insurance to do either, but my mom is against my wishes. If I come into enough money to ever fully cover the expenses, I will be cremated and have my ashes incorporated into a concrete sundial and be placed where I'll get as much sunshine as possible.

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Posted 04 February 2012 - 12:50 AM

Burn me to a crisp, either here or where I'm headed . . . what's the difference?
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Posted 04 February 2012 - 01:02 AM

I could care less.

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Posted 04 February 2012 - 01:13 AM

im thinkin cremation after what i went through after my accident, felt like i was buried then lol

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Posted 04 February 2012 - 01:19 AM

You know, I never even gave this topic a thought before (SCI influencing burial decisions). It's interesting though. I think I'd still have a burial. No open casket though. I feel like that'd be a very strange, difficult funeral.
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Posted 04 February 2012 - 01:58 AM

My choice, directive, is not on your list...my body will be donated/given to the SCI studies department at the University of Irvine for research purposes...figured I wouldn't need it so why not let them study a well used paralyzed body, perhaps gain some knowledge/insight that might be used to benefit others.
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Posted 04 February 2012 - 04:14 AM

Cremation with my ashes spread in my favorite places I've been (that means close to the Pacific Ocean).

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Posted 04 February 2012 - 04:37 AM

My choice, directive, is not on your list...my body will be donated/given to the SCI studies department at the University of Irvine for research purposes...figured I wouldn't need it so why not let them study a well used paralyzed body, perhaps gain some knowledge/insight that might be used to benefit others.


After they're done though, don't they cremate what's left?

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Posted 04 February 2012 - 06:26 AM

I've planned my demise - cremation followed by a party on a sunny evening in Paris next to the Seine, posh frocks and lots of champagne then when everyone is pissed they can scatter my ashes anywhere in Paris. I hope they will scatter me bit by bit in all my favourite places.
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Posted 04 February 2012 - 08:31 AM

Definitely cremation. I want my titanium to bugger up the bone grinder they put you through after the bonfire. Posted Image

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Posted 04 February 2012 - 08:42 AM

It's not something I think about a lot cos' I hope it's a long way off.

I voted burial. My family know I want to be buried but not in a churchyard. There is a woodland burial site I would want to be put. I f it should be full when I go then I want something similar. I don't like the idea of a headstone, too depressing. I rather like the thought of slowly returning to the earth ' whence I came '.

My husband says he doesn't care what happens after he has gone. When we lived in a property without mains drainage he used to joke that I should just drop him in the septic tank..........Well I think he was joking Posted Image


The problem with not letting family etc know your wishes. Even if it is ' I don't care ' is that when it happens it can cause problems and bad feeling because everyone has their own opinion.

Better to get it said IMO.
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Posted 04 February 2012 - 08:51 AM

Definitely cremation. I want my titanium to bugger up the bone grinder they put you through after the bonfire. Posted Image


Maybe we can request to recycle our titanium for another poor sod's chair. Posted Image

One things for certain, if the urn DOESN'T contain the metal, then it ISN'T my ashes! Posted Image

Edited by qbounce, 05 February 2012 - 07:50 AM.

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Posted 04 February 2012 - 09:19 AM

donate my organs, if they are of use, seeing as my blood is no good any more they may not, then I think my ashes to be scattered ooh where? ummmmm; my beloved birth, place where I lived before my accident, Moseley Village Birmingham; or down at Hamble le Rice in the Solent, Southampton where I'd have happily moved to. *sigh. In truth I'll know nothing about it so I'll prob settle for a spot by the tree in the local cemetery near to my lovely brother and who ever else is there by then.
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Posted 04 February 2012 - 12:06 PM

I don't want to be buried or cremated.


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Posted 04 February 2012 - 05:21 PM

I use to think cremation but I don't know anymore. I guess it won't make much difference one way the other. I would like to take care of everything before so my kids don't have to make those decisions...better make my mind up huh :unsure:

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Posted 04 February 2012 - 05:58 PM

cremation for me,

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Posted 05 February 2012 - 05:12 AM

Burial!! I think being buried sounds better than being burned. Either way, it's just a body. I won't be there!:)
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Posted 05 February 2012 - 10:29 AM

Yeah I'm kinda surprised, I didn't think there were that many members who decided on cremation over burial, but maybe I shouldn't be. I wanted this poll question to get members who haven't thought about their wishes after they pass to discuss this with their family or significant other even if it is an uncomfortable subject.

I have chosen to donate my organs also, but my liver is probably too damaged for anyone. I don't care what is done with my remains after they take what organs that are salvageable, they can go in the garbage as far as I'm concerned. Maybe I shouldn't care about what happens after my death, like I said I decided on cremation before my accident, but I am more adamant about it now. Perhaps I don't want to be buried this way subconsciously. When my time comes, I HOPE IT'S QUICK AND PAINLESS.
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Posted 06 February 2012 - 04:00 PM

I wonder if there be someone who can burn me up then take the ashes an make a way cool pinata......I'd like to be made into a party favor whats fun fer all ages.

But in the end my family will put up a big fuss and put me in a box.....I just hope they leave the lid off...Pitty the poor soul what has to tuck all my hair in the casket....(prolly have 8-9 locks hangin' out the side).

On the donate the organs deal....Nope, they came wif me, they go wif me....selfish eh?
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Posted 06 February 2012 - 04:11 PM

My body is being donated to science - whether that be to help find cures in the future or for a few new doctors to practice cutting bits up I don't mind.
The remains are then usually cremated - at which point I request that my little pot is filled with an assortment of coins (random different years), a computer mouse, a biro, and a tape measure. Good luck future archaeologists working that out!

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Posted 06 February 2012 - 07:49 PM

I going to have my crippled carcass dragged out into the woods and leaned up against a tree to rot and have the critters scatter me around. No sense in wasting good money or fuel cremating or burying this decrapit old body. :)
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Posted 06 February 2012 - 10:24 PM

I shall answer with a quote: "Buried, offering my body back to the flora and fauna of which I have dined my whole life." - Neil Tyson
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Posted 07 February 2012 - 04:35 AM

In the words of Alan Jackson Fill my boots up sand put a stiff drink in my hand and Prop me up by the jukebox when I die!!

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Posted 01 June 2012 - 09:33 AM


I have prepaid my cremation. I think buried is a waste of money and six feet of ground. I also did not want to leave the decision/expense to my family.
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Posted 01 June 2012 - 06:38 PM

Definately burial. My grandparents who brought me up died when Ii was six, then 10 and my mother (who had been fairly absent until then) had them cremated. Consequently, I've never had anywhere i felt could go to and talk to them when I've needed it over the years, and i want my family to have the comfort of somewhere to visit where at least a part of me is left, but i have told them not to let it be a burden, i.e. if they dont want to visit it then dont

Edited by Wobbly, 01 June 2012 - 06:40 PM.

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Posted 02 June 2012 - 06:51 AM

Taxidermy

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Posted 02 June 2012 - 07:42 AM

Well i have a worm phobia :-( so i guess that counts one of them out? :D
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