[Apparelyzed]

Ten responses to being stared at

1. Stare back until they look away or blink, then loudly announce: "I win again! Champion of the staring contests!"

2. Nudge somebody nearby, whisper "Is that person staring at me?" and point surreptitiously. Repeat until target is throrougly discomforted, just as you usually are when people point and whisper and stare.

3. Say "I know! Isn't it fa-bulous?" and toss your hair, smooth your shirt, or modestly admire your manicure. "I know that people can't help staring at my marvellous wardrobe / hair colour / cell phone. It's a good thing I don't mind attention."

4. Flutter your eyelashes, giggle, and say "Do you fancy me, then?" in a carrying voice. "You're staring so much, I think you must be in love. Tee hee."

5. "Keep staring. I might do a trick."

6. (Especially after no.5. above.) Fake a seizure, sudden pain, or death rattle, followed by yelling "Ha! Fooled you!"

7. Ask them if they've found Jesus in their lives.

8. Make disgusting faces until they look away. If called on your rudeness, apologise and explain that your doctor's prescribed these therapeutic face exercises, and offer to demonstrate.

9. Attempt to engage them in friendly, normal conversation about the weather. If this doesn't work, start to drool mid-sentence.

10. Ask them if they can spare some change.

[bigsmiles]

Yes i hate it when people stare, i seem to find it hard to keep my mouth shut (well thats most of the time really ) Well what with the stares and people asking is that your Dad Number 10 sounds good,might earn a few bob

[Jilly]

I like number 2. Give em a dose of it back! Hee Hee!!

[milosh]

simon... like 'em all! ;)

i myself simply don't notice even if they stare.

[livewriter]

I don't pay starers any attention normally but occassionally I'll stroll over and say:

Oh you must've read my book and recognize me from the cover. Care for an autograph?

They rarely admit not reading it...

If they ask the title cause they can't remember I say "The seven effective ways to break someone from staring"

HEY I NEVER WROTE A BOOK.

[DaveP]

Is it just me, or are we "Magnets for Nutters"?

Last year I was in a bar and this fella wouldn't stop staring at me. I just ignored it but one time, he caught my eye and smiled to get my attention. He then took off his hand and threw it at me! My first reaction was to throw it out the window into the swimming pool, but the sliding windows were only open a foot or so, and I was worried about breaking a window. I took him his hand back and then he started crying, telling me his dog had died etc etc...

Another time I was at a lovely beach-side restaurant with some friends and this woman started staring at me and smiling, like she had just escaped from a mental institution (not PC, I know!). I thought, "Here we go again. What does this one want now?" I nudge my friends and said watch this... I smiled at her and said hello, so she came closed, but too close! She stood right next to me and then moved behind me. This freaked me a bit and she was acting weird. I asked her why she was standing so close to me. She said, "Your aura is so big and colourful that I want to stand inside it!"

I was in Australia on holiday and met some locals and was having a bit of a laugh, when this fella sits down next to me and starts crying. I can't remember what happened next... something to do with the "Bundies & Coke". Note - never try the Australian Bunderberg Rum - it drives people mad!

Just this year I was in a bar with a lovely girl I was trying to chat up (now my girlfriend) and this drunk Scouser (for you Yanks a Scouser is someone from Liverpool, also known as a Mickey Mouser) started staring at me and then came over. Just what I needed! I gave him the normal polite chat and then said, "Listen mate, I'm trying to chat up this gorgeous girl so can you leave us alone?" He then asked if I needed help to get it in as he could give me shove, which made my blood boil. I said, "You've almost cured my paraplegia! Say that again so I can get out of this chair and knock you out." He didn't see the funny side and wanted to fight!

Is it just me, or are we magnets for nutters!?!

[lune14]

Dave I so want to respond but I'm too busy laughing my atrophied butt off!!


That's the funniest stuff I've heard yet!!

[LadyPilot]

Apparelyzed, on Sep 10 2006, 05:20 PM, said:

Ten responses to being stared at

1. Stare back until they look away or blink, then loudly announce: "I win again! Champion of the staring contests!"

2. Nudge somebody nearby, whisper "Is that person staring at me?" and point surreptitiously. Repeat until target is throrougly discomforted, just as you usually are when people point and whisper and stare.

3. Say "I know! Isn't it fa-bulous?" and toss your hair, smooth your shirt, or modestly admire your manicure. "I know that people can't help staring at my marvellous wardrobe / hair colour / cell phone. It's a good thing I don't mind attention."

4. Flutter your eyelashes, giggle, and say "Do you fancy me, then?" in a carrying voice. "You're staring so much, I think you must be in love. Tee hee."

5. "Keep staring. I might do a trick."

6. (Especially after no.5. above.) Fake a seizure, sudden pain, or death rattle, followed by yelling "Ha! Fooled you!"

7. Ask them if they've found Jesus in their lives.

8. Make disgusting faces until they look away. If called on your rudeness, apologise and explain that your doctor's prescribed these therapeutic face exercises, and offer to demonstrate.

9. Attempt to engage them in friendly, normal conversation about the weather. If this doesn't work, start to drool mid-sentence.

10. Ask them if they can spare some change.

11. Would you like my photograph?

I like No. 1 the best!!

[juls]

I went clothes shopping today...I always start off well in the morning, i try to look friendly, smile at people that stare etc.. but by the end of the day, when my neck is really hurting, i give people dirty looks, say just loudly enough to my friends that so and so is staring at me or i just stare them out until they look away. It's hard dealing with people staring at you all the time...i mean really, whats to look at??? (sorry, i'm feeling a bit down!)
I've never come across that many nutters Dave...maybe it's just you?? Do know what you mean about bundie though...steer clear

[Alin Steglinski]

12.jealous of my reclining rig eh!

[Vicki]

Loved number 7!

Bear in mind, I'm from 'down under' (where the rum is a killer ). I've been stalked by religious freaks all trying to get me to 'see the light'! I point out my body is buggered but I'm not blind. I drive a chin controlled metal motorised wheelchair. Geez I could do some damage to their shins with my footplate. I figure they're still trying to 'find the light' so I leave them alone.

Thanks for the laugh apparelyzed!

Cheerio
Vicki

[CaptDave4499]

I usually stare back

[John Anderson]

6 is good, Simon...I should try it sometimes

[Alin Steglinski]

13.we are an emerging futuristic species. we do not rely on "legs" as they are obsolete.

This post has been edited by Alin Steglinski: 04 October 2006 - 01:40 AM

[Alin Steglinski]

14.like my tilt recline system eh...

This post has been edited by Alin Steglinski: 28 June 2007 - 01:36 AM

[nomis]

People used to stare at me but now they don't. The whole world has changed its attitude towards me. I'm jealous. Aren't I good enough to be stared at?

[LuckyinKentucky]

Don't worry nomis the world has'nt changed too much you're place in it has just shifted. I may have been much like yourself a couplafew years ago... A young man in a chair whom to many inspires the question why. For those who either lack the discrestion or intelegence this time of personal inquiry requires the dead lock of the stare. Now being a more seasoned w/c user you fit into a much easier realm of explination for the common staring moron, but what about the young uns nomis surely they still lock in?

[nomis]

Kids don't stare. They look with intent curiosity and interest.
It's the parent telling the kid not to stare that is vulgar.

[edlee]

I think that 7 and 10 would work the quickest with even the densest starer.

I have , so far, not been bothered by starers. I don't know if it's that they aren't stareing or if I just don't notice. Doesn't bother me when I do see it happening, tho.

Besides, if someone wants to take a long look at me, I take it as a compliment on my startlingly good profile.
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[Survivor35]

I've been known to blow kisses... it usually stops the staring pretty quickly, especially if its another woman... hehehehehe. They just dont know how to react....

[Big Valley]

I always figure I have to represent the rest of the disabled community when I am out so I wouldn't want to say or do anything that might make me appear as the bitter person people think we must be. If I snap at someone for acting rude all they are going to take from that is "he must be angry at the world. What an A-hole."

So if someone was looking at me at it continued I would just say straight forwardly, "hello."

I can't to weird about it as I stare myself. But like them I am just checking out the hardware. Most power chairs are like ATVs now and the manuals come in so many lightweight designs with different options I want to see what someone else has going on.

So many people are only use to seeing nursing home elderly standard chairs the sight of something better grabs your attention.

I almost always engage little kids who stare so they can see I am nothing to be afraid of. All they ever ask is "why are you using that?" And I reply in a simple answer they can understand, "I hurt my legs real bad and they don't work now." All the details they need at that point and it satisfies them. But parents do freak out when they hear their kids ask questions and that is wrong. Makes them feel like they did something bad and not to talk to disabled people.

This post has been edited by Big Valley: 28 June 2007 - 09:58 PM

[glamisgirl]

Right after my accident it really bothered me, I was asking them what the f...ck they were looking at, my husband not to hot on that. Now if it really bothers me I take a picture of them with my cell phone, most people usually snap out of it and are embarrased.

[Alin Steglinski]

this might be not on topic to this specific thread so its on its own thread now http://www.apparelyz...?showtopic=4383

This post has been edited by Alin Steglinski: 29 June 2007 - 04:05 AM

[wheeliebear75]

Say out loud "Wow this new ocular magnetic alloy their using is amazing!!! I've never been the center of so much attention." Fallow it up with your best debutant eye flutter as though you've just been spotted by a camera crew.

[xeena]

DaveP, on Sep 11 2006, 02:28 PM, said:

Is it just me, or are we "Magnets for Nutters"?

Last year I was in a bar and this fella wouldn't stop staring at me. I just ignored it but one time, he caught my eye and smiled to get my attention. He then took off his hand and threw it at me! My first reaction was to throw it out the window into the swimming pool, but the sliding windows were only open a foot or so, and I was worried about breaking a window. I took him his hand back and then he started crying, telling me his dog had died etc etc...

Another time I was at a lovely beach-side restaurant with some friends and this woman started staring at me and smiling, like she had just escaped from a mental institution (not PC, I know!). I thought, "Here we go again. What does this one want now?" I nudge my friends and said watch this... I smiled at her and said hello, so she came closed, but too close! She stood right next to me and then moved behind me. This freaked me a bit and she was acting weird. I asked her why she was standing so close to me. She said, "Your aura is so big and colourful that I want to stand inside it!"

I was in Australia on holiday and met some locals and was having a bit of a laugh, when this fella sits down next to me and starts crying. I can't remember what happened next... something to do with the "Bundies & Coke". Note - never try the Australian Bunderberg Rum - it drives people mad!

Just this year I was in a bar with a lovely girl I was trying to chat up (now my girlfriend) and this drunk Scouser (for you Yanks a Scouser is someone from Liverpool, also known as a Mickey Mouser) started staring at me and then came over. Just what I needed! I gave him the normal polite chat and then said, "Listen mate, I'm trying to chat up this gorgeous girl so can you leave us alone?" He then asked if I needed help to get it in as he could give me shove, which made my blood boil. I said, "You've almost cured my paraplegia! Say that again so I can get out of this chair and knock you out." He didn't see the funny side and wanted to fight!

Is it just me, or are we magnets for nutters!?!

its just you

[xeena]

My response to stares.....
'Youve never seen a celebrity before? well your in luck,and yes you can have my autograph"
That really throws them

[SuperDaz]

I just ask them if they wanna swap!!

[Alin Steglinski]

SuperDaz, on Jun 29 2007, 04:56 PM, said:

I just ask them if they wanna swap!!

he he... i am starting to look into getting a powerchair for myself, my mobility is bad, i have autistic quadriplegic spastic cerebral palsy, i can only walk VERY VERY short distances unaided (under 10 feet) anything under 30 feet i grab onto moms arm to help stabilize me and in case i fall over more than 30 feet mom pushes me in a manual wheelchair :/ me and my friends like to switch out, if one of my friends is not in their powerchair guess who is... me!

This post has been edited by Alin Steglinski: 29 June 2007 - 10:00 PM

[rommel25]

Really don't care or notice anymore. Except kids , I love when kids stare and try to get the parent(s) to look too and the parent(s) can't get away fast enough. The "starers" don't bother me it's the ones who force themselves NOT to look are the ones I like to follow around in stores and such .

[edlee]

Somebody is watching someone else at any given time. Who cares if it's me??

What's the big deal,anyway? Are you planning a bank heist, and don't want witnesses, or are you just on a shoplifting spree?

Honestly, if you weren't looking at them you would never know.
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