244 replies to this topic

[meadow]

most annoying:
'you're so lucky you dont have to do P.E.'

[wheeliebear75]

I've had heard that one also! Well at my 2nd high school.....the 1st one had A.P.E. so I did that + in hindsight switching was a mistake.

[wheeliebear75]

Murray, on Oct 14 2009, 07:40 PM, said:

Dave -

ABSOLUTELY! Plus it's a helluva lot more fun to interact with people who are real ... who don't have preconceived notions about right and wrong. God, I love kids. They're better than my dog - and that's sayin' somethin'!

Had a 3 yr old tell me her mommy had taught her AND her 1yr old brother to walk.......and that she was sure her mommy would be more than happy to show me how to do it too. Relax mom was mortifyied & I just chuckled & explained that I had learned how to walk but then I had an accident that gave me a really bad owie & so now I can't walk anymore.

[dangerousdave]

A blast from the memory brain cells.
Got my leg over a drain by the curb. Bend down and angle the bag out, release the tap, and out flows the urine.
Little boy - Hey mister what you doin.
Me - I can't pee through my whilee like you, got to use a tube and a bag.
LB - Ohhh
Mum - pulling LB away, you disgusting man.

Wouldn't it be nice to stand up against a tree like we used to do. Not once do I recall being called a disgusting man for doing so.

Out and about on my electric 3rd wheel and a boy with muscel problem on crutches keeps looking over and says can I have a go. Got the nod from his mum, so I moved over to a chair with my beer.
Explained the controls and told him to take it easy. Off he went.
I could hear him coming back by the Screams from Running Bi-peds.
This is great can I have another go, why not says I as my mate was coming back with another beer.
Needless to say, I got it in the neck for the rest of the weekend from friends who were nearly or actualy run over by a kid doing 15/20mph at a rally.

[Murray]

dangerousdave, on Oct 16 2009, 03:28 AM, said:

Wouldn't it be nice to stand up against a tree like we used to do. Not once do I recall being called a disgusting man for doing so.

Ah, yes .... to pee on a tree again. Now, those were the days. Except when I tried to run from the old man when it was beat down time.

[Ratticis]

My brother told me he doesn't know how I manage to cath all the time like that. Told him I don't really have much of a choice.
And she was right, that's sooo disgusting! How dare you have to live!
Uptight bitch

[Mac na Ceardadh]

When asked why I'm in a wheelchair, I usually reply that I hate wearing out shoes. That usually stops 'em cold.

[Mac na Ceardadh]

knightrider, on Sep 26 2009, 06:58 PM, said:

fatcrx, on Sep 26 2009, 06:47 PM, said:

a guy i used to know seen me in the pub and asked me if i could walk. Yeah i can walk i just thought id go out in the wheelchair for fun, what a stupid question, he was drunk tho.

Oh i get that all the time when i'm out, stupid question lol. Or it's "wish i had one of those" and this one is guaranteed to happen on a night out, "I hope you're not drink driving in that"

I have a t-shirt that shows a crashed wheelchair at the curb outside the pub, lad crawling down the walk. Caption says "If found walking, please remind me that I'm paralyzed".
I wear it to the pub.

[Ratticis]

I once had a cop threaten to give me a ticket cus I didn't have my seatbelt done up. I told him to piss off.

[reaven85]

I hate it when people tell him "Lucky! I wish I had one of those!"

shoafy once told someone "wanna trade?"

[Ratticis]

I usually give them suggestions about how to get one.

Had some douchebag a couple weeks ago tell me that there shouldn't be handicapped parking spaces cus we shouldn't be driving cus his taxes pay for our cars and we're just a drain on society and no one under 60 should be aloud to have a wheelchair. Here's the kicker, I found out later that said moron was unemployed and getting UI or EI or whatever they call it now.

[LeahC]

Ratticis, on Oct 21 2009, 10:59 PM, said:

I usually give them suggestions about how to get one.

Had some douchebag a couple weeks ago tell me that there shouldn't be handicapped parking spaces cus we shouldn't be driving cus his taxes pay for our cars and we're just a drain on society and no one under 60 should be aloud to have a wheelchair. Here's the kicker, I found out later that said moron was unemployed and getting UI or EI or whatever they call it now.

Haha I love that, I want someone to say that to me so I can completely agree and ask where do I sign!

[chickadee]

Ratticis, on Oct 21 2009, 04:59 PM, said:

...

Had some douchebag a couple weeks ago tell me that there shouldn't be handicapped parking spaces cus we shouldn't be driving cus his taxes pay for our cars ...

Wait... are you telling me if I move to Canada the gov't will pay for a new car? Because I'm getting really sick of my truck lately.

[Ratticis]

Apparently. Was news to me too

[Tetracyclone]

dangerousdave, on Oct 16 2009, 06:28 AM, said:

A blast from the memory brain cells.
Got my leg over a drain by the curb. Bend down and angle the bag out, release the tap, and out flows the urine.
Little boy - Hey mister what you doin.
Me - I can't pee through my whilee like you, got to use a tube and a bag.
LB - Ohhh
Mum - pulling LB away, you disgusting man.

Wouldn't it be nice to stand up against a tree like we used to do. Not once do I recall being called a disgusting man for doing so.

DAVE, YOU DISGUSTING MAN. I CANT BELIEVE YOU WOULD DO IT AGAINST A TREE IN PUBLIC. DISGUSTING.

fEEL BETTER NOW THAT ALL IS EQUAL?

Out and about on my electric 3rd wheel and a boy with muscel problem on crutches keeps looking over and says can I have a go. Got the nod from his mum, so I moved over to a chair with my beer.
Explained the controls and told him to take it easy. Off he went.
I could hear him coming back by the Screams from Running Bi-peds.
This is great can I have another go, why not says I as my mate was coming back with another beer.
Needless to say, I got it in the neck for the rest of the weekend from friends who were nearly or actualy run over by a kid doing 15/20mph at a rally.

[agentwalker]

had a cracker at work a few times. as I come out of the lift upstairs there's a door and directly to the left is some stairs. I've started going for the door and someone's been coming up the stars and thieve virtually froze and looked at me then said you coming this way ?

nearly said something along the lines of "No sorry i'll give the stairs a miss this week"

Edited by agentwalker, 24 October 2009 - 02:26 PM.

[Meadowlarkmark]

"If you just have enough faith in Jesus..."

[hopelesslydevoted]

Someone said to me and my husband in wal-mart- "I wish I could sit in a chair like that all day" Kelby just shoke his head- Like WTF?

[hopelesslydevoted]

linda, on Oct 10 2006, 09:47 PM, said:

My daughter and I have had all of the tings you have mentioned happen, Neither she or I find it rude or out of the way! We view it as the other person eather is curious or not understanding the disability. For an example just today my daughter and I was in the grocerie store, an elderly lady began talking to us. In the conversation we mentioned that my daughter is a vegitarian, the lady then asked if my daughter was in the wheel chair because of eating meat. We found it quite funny! people are just curious, I dont think most mean any harm. My daughter will tell people if they have questions to please ask her, no matter what it is. After all....... No question is a dumb question! I think we all want people to be more understanding of the diffrent types of injurys and what health issues go along with them, so how will we build awareness? not by getting upset if another person askes a question! even if it is a question you think is dumb.My daughter always says that a person who is comfortable in their own skin will not be uncomfortable or have issues with another questioning his/her abilities or disabilities. Please excuse my miss apellings!

I was wanting to reply with something like that- thank you.

[SoliK]

This thread has been so helpful for me. I just started dating an amazing man (T6 complete). Since I have never know anyone with a SCI prior to him I have been worried about offending him by saying the wrong thing or doing something dumb, especially before our first date. He's been wonderful though.. On our first date he said something like...Why don't we just meet at the mall and just walk over to the restaurant? Then I kept stressing whether to open the door of the restaurant for him or just see what happens... Then he opened the door for me. I realized at that moment that I everything was going to be fine....and since then I've been just "going with the flow" with him. On our second date he asked if he could walk me home.... When I mentioned that to a friend of mine she wanted to correct me by saying...No...he didn't walk you home...he rolled along side of you... I got mad! So I gave her a lecture on things that are ok to say.. I'm also learning to just ignore little snide remarks or assumptions people I know make just because he's in a wheelchair. He is more "abled" than anyone I know... I know I still have a lot to learn...but he is worth it and hope he's in my life for a very long time.

[Tony2gunsgal]

When playing around I tell my boyfriend I will kick his ass wheelchair or not. He responds that I will have to catch up with him to do it...lol

[Ratticis]

My brother (jokingly) tells me he'd kick my ass but I wouldn't feel it anyway. Like he could I tell him I'm gunna run him over

[wheeliebear75]

Mac na Ceardadh, on Oct 21 2009, 06:00 PM, said:

knightrider, on Sep 26 2009, 06:58 PM, said:

fatcrx, on Sep 26 2009, 06:47 PM, said:

a guy i used to know seen me in the pub and asked me if i could walk. Yeah i can walk i just thought id go out in the wheelchair for fun, what a stupid question, he was drunk tho.

Oh i get that all the time when i'm out, stupid question lol. Or it's "wish i had one of those" and this one is guaranteed to happen on a night out, "I hope you're not drink driving in that"

I have a t-shirt that shows a crashed wheelchair at the curb outside the pub, lad crawling down the walk. Caption says "If found walking, please remind me that I'm paralyzed".
I wear it to the pub.

Oh now that IS a funny shirt!

[wheeliebear75]

Tony2gunsgal, on Oct 25 2009, 05:18 PM, said:

When playing around I tell my boyfriend I will kick his ass wheelchair or not. He responds that I will have to catch up with him to do it...lol

I get threats of getting dumped out of my chair.....to which I thank them for the heads up.....now I know who's toes to "accidentally" back over.

[riseaboveitgirl]

You guys are tooooo funny! I am new to the board. I am not wheelchair bound but am losing the use of my right leg due to l5 s1 and blew out c5 6 c67 on my spinal cord so live with some pretty nasty pain and debilitation.. Anywayzzzzzzzzzzzz,, I am trying to reschool myself for the future and want to get into counselling for spinal cord injury and paralysis patients as obviously very few people get the whole lifestyle and support amongst peers is essential.

Thus, I have been reading your posts and am quite motivated to get my butt into gear and get started with my online further education.

Sorry I have nothing insightful to say but I get the general drift of what I believe is fair to be ticked off about re: people's comments. I remember after my first child died at birth many people told me OH WELL YOU CAN HAVE ANOTHER ONE or WHEN LIFE HANDS YOU LEMONS YOU MAKE LEMONADE OR when my little girl first had to deal with the public about her life threatening peanut allergy adult social worker said to her OH THAT MUST SUCK I LOVE PEANUT BUTTER... So I guess we all have had enough crappy experiences to write a book ...and that is just what we should all collectively do.... a self help manual for the public about getting over their inability to communicate compassionately.

[Tony2gunsgal]

I think part of what sucks is that it's not that all people are not compassionate, they just feel so akward (as if the wheel chair or whatever loss or situation is not obvious) and stupid things come out as an effort to make the situation feel more comfortable. They arent always aware that the discomfort is really them not the person who already lives with the reality every day. So when something is said it's not really for our and/or our partners benifits it's for them. And then u have the mean people who just suck and are stupid...lol

Oh and some days when he is feeling fiesty, he tells me he wants me to kick his ass (wink, wink) and he would let me catch him...he is a dirty old man, but he's mine...hehehe

[LeahC]

I went for a carvery earlier and when I was getting in the car and taking the wheelchair apart I ended up flinging it and the side guard flew out of reach. I asked a man in a van to get it and he said 'oh you must have a hard life' lol

[Murray]

LeahC, on Oct 28 2009, 12:13 PM, said:

I went for a carvery earlier and when I was getting in the car and taking the wheelchair apart I ended up flinging it and the side guard flew out of reach. I asked a man in a van to get it and he said 'oh you must have a hard life' lol

That took a little homework - Either I'm dumb or a Yank or a dumb Yank ( which is probably redundant to you Brits) - but I didn't know what the hell a carvery was, so I checked with a gal my wife knows who's from Canterbury. She quickly informed me that it would be similar to what we call a deli on this side of the pond. There - done my good deed for the day. Unless you include telling off a dental assistant for saying that I was "inspiring". God, I hate that.

[edlee]

Thanks Murray,,, I didn't know who to ask.
ed

[Ratticis]

When my brother passed away many years ago at 6 weeks old they had certain 'people'tell them that unless they baptised the corpse he would go to hell! WTF is wrong with people, and I use the term loosely.