[Tony2gunsgal]

When playing around I tell my boyfriend I will kick his ass wheelchair or not. He responds that I will have to catch up with him to do it...lol

[Ratticis]

My brother (jokingly) tells me he'd kick my ass but I wouldn't feel it anyway. Like he could I tell him I'm gunna run him over

[wheeliebear75]

Mac na Ceardadh, on Oct 21 2009, 06:00 PM, said:

knightrider, on Sep 26 2009, 06:58 PM, said:

fatcrx, on Sep 26 2009, 06:47 PM, said:

a guy i used to know seen me in the pub and asked me if i could walk. Yeah i can walk i just thought id go out in the wheelchair for fun, what a stupid question, he was drunk tho.

Oh i get that all the time when i'm out, stupid question lol. Or it's "wish i had one of those" and this one is guaranteed to happen on a night out, "I hope you're not drink driving in that"

I have a t-shirt that shows a crashed wheelchair at the curb outside the pub, lad crawling down the walk. Caption says "If found walking, please remind me that I'm paralyzed".
I wear it to the pub.

Oh now that IS a funny shirt!

[wheeliebear75]

Tony2gunsgal, on Oct 25 2009, 05:18 PM, said:

When playing around I tell my boyfriend I will kick his ass wheelchair or not. He responds that I will have to catch up with him to do it...lol

I get threats of getting dumped out of my chair.....to which I thank them for the heads up.....now I know who's toes to "accidentally" back over.

[riseaboveitgirl]

You guys are tooooo funny! I am new to the board. I am not wheelchair bound but am losing the use of my right leg due to l5 s1 and blew out c5 6 c67 on my spinal cord so live with some pretty nasty pain and debilitation.. Anywayzzzzzzzzzzzz,, I am trying to reschool myself for the future and want to get into counselling for spinal cord injury and paralysis patients as obviously very few people get the whole lifestyle and support amongst peers is essential.

Thus, I have been reading your posts and am quite motivated to get my butt into gear and get started with my online further education.

Sorry I have nothing insightful to say but I get the general drift of what I believe is fair to be ticked off about re: people's comments. I remember after my first child died at birth many people told me OH WELL YOU CAN HAVE ANOTHER ONE or WHEN LIFE HANDS YOU LEMONS YOU MAKE LEMONADE OR when my little girl first had to deal with the public about her life threatening peanut allergy adult social worker said to her OH THAT MUST SUCK I LOVE PEANUT BUTTER... So I guess we all have had enough crappy experiences to write a book ...and that is just what we should all collectively do.... a self help manual for the public about getting over their inability to communicate compassionately.

[Tony2gunsgal]

I think part of what sucks is that it's not that all people are not compassionate, they just feel so akward (as if the wheel chair or whatever loss or situation is not obvious) and stupid things come out as an effort to make the situation feel more comfortable. They arent always aware that the discomfort is really them not the person who already lives with the reality every day. So when something is said it's not really for our and/or our partners benifits it's for them. And then u have the mean people who just suck and are stupid...lol

Oh and some days when he is feeling fiesty, he tells me he wants me to kick his ass (wink, wink) and he would let me catch him...he is a dirty old man, but he's mine...hehehe

[LeahC]

I went for a carvery earlier and when I was getting in the car and taking the wheelchair apart I ended up flinging it and the side guard flew out of reach. I asked a man in a van to get it and he said 'oh you must have a hard life' lol

[Murray]

LeahC, on Oct 28 2009, 12:13 PM, said:

I went for a carvery earlier and when I was getting in the car and taking the wheelchair apart I ended up flinging it and the side guard flew out of reach. I asked a man in a van to get it and he said 'oh you must have a hard life' lol

That took a little homework - Either I'm dumb or a Yank or a dumb Yank ( which is probably redundant to you Brits) - but I didn't know what the hell a carvery was, so I checked with a gal my wife knows who's from Canterbury. She quickly informed me that it would be similar to what we call a deli on this side of the pond. There - done my good deed for the day. Unless you include telling off a dental assistant for saying that I was "inspiring". God, I hate that.

[edlee]

Thanks Murray,,, I didn't know who to ask.
ed

[Ratticis]

When my brother passed away many years ago at 6 weeks old they had certain 'people'tell them that unless they baptised the corpse he would go to hell! WTF is wrong with people, and I use the term loosely.

[LeahC]

Murray, on Oct 28 2009, 10:36 PM, said:

LeahC, on Oct 28 2009, 12:13 PM, said:

I went for a carvery earlier and when I was getting in the car and taking the wheelchair apart I ended up flinging it and the side guard flew out of reach. I asked a man in a van to get it and he said 'oh you must have a hard life' lol

That took a little homework - Either I'm dumb or a Yank or a dumb Yank ( which is probably redundant to you Brits) - but I didn't know what the hell a carvery was, so I checked with a gal my wife knows who's from Canterbury. She quickly informed me that it would be similar to what we call a deli on this side of the pond. There - done my good deed for the day. Unless you include telling off a dental assistant for saying that I was "inspiring". God, I hate that.

It's a roast dinner but they carve the meat in front of you and you do your veg and sauces/gravy yourself :-D

[Murray]

Ratticis, on Oct 28 2009, 03:49 PM, said:

When my brother passed away many years ago at 6 weeks old they had certain 'people'tell them that unless they baptised the corpse he would go to hell! WTF is wrong with people, and I use the term loosely.

HA! Which term? W -, T - , F - or wrong .... maybe people? Tell ya' what - some folks just don't git up before breakfast. I lost a son several years back and a fella at the memorial service had the poor judgment to place his hand on my shoulder caringly and say, "You know, Lynn - It was God's will." I almost decked him. What are ya' gonna do? Some folks are just a couple bricks shy.

[Ratticis]

I was refering to people. Stupid stupid people.
They got that 'gods will' crap and 'well at least he died before you got too attached'

This post has been edited by Ratticis: 28 October 2009 - 11:21 PM

[topperf]

Murray, on Oct 29 2009, 12:13 AM, said:

Ratticis, on Oct 28 2009, 03:49 PM, said:

When my brother passed away many years ago at 6 weeks old they had certain 'people'tell them that unless they baptised the corpse he would go to hell! WTF is wrong with people, and I use the term loosely.

HA! Which term? W -, T - , F - or wrong .... maybe people? Tell ya' what - some folks just don't git up before breakfast. I lost a son several years back and a fella at the memorial service had the poor judgment to place his hand on my shoulder caringly and say, "You know, Lynn - It was God's will." I almost decked him. What are ya' gonna do? Some folks are just a couple bricks shy.

... Directly into the all-time top 1 of 'no he f*@king didn't!?' ...

[Murray]

topperf, on Oct 28 2009, 04:25 PM, said:

Murray, on Oct 29 2009, 12:13 AM, said:

Ratticis, on Oct 28 2009, 03:49 PM, said:

When my brother passed away many years ago at 6 weeks old they had certain 'people'tell them that unless they baptised the corpse he would go to hell! WTF is wrong with people, and I use the term loosely.

HA! Which term? W -, T - , F - or wrong .... maybe people? Tell ya' what - some folks just don't git up before breakfast. I lost a son several years back and a fella at the memorial service had the poor judgment to place his hand on my shoulder caringly and say, "You know, Lynn - It was God's will." I almost decked him. What are ya' gonna do? Some folks are just a couple bricks shy.

... Directly into the all-time top 1 of 'no he f*@king didn't!?' ...

...Yep, sure did. I remember the moment now and then, and wish to hell I'd have laid him out. But, that was then. Gotta get on with biz ... in spite of "them".

This post has been edited by Murray: 29 October 2009 - 04:17 AM

[Tony2gunsgal]

Ratticis, on Oct 28 2009, 06:18 PM, said:

I was refering to people. Stupid stupid people.
They got that 'gods will' crap and 'well at least he died before you got too attached'

OMG at least he died before you got too attached? I hope they weren't talking about a child...otherwise I am fearful for how attached they MAY be to their own kids...cause I don't have kids, but pretty sure you get attached from the very beginning...you know if you have a heart...

[E-DOG]

HEY BABY, NICE LEGS!

[ClaraTaylor]

You know those people that instantly glaze over when talking to you even though they just asked you a question?

Oh you poor sweetheart how did you end up disabled?
> I decided to mount my self onto someone else's car in a cheap trick to avoid paying the bus fare to work
You're so brave.
> Most people call it stupidity to be honest with you.
That's so sweet, you're so brave.
> So how'd you end up so Blond?
That's so sweet, you're so brave.
> Did I mention I'm heavily constipated right now?
That's so sweet. You must be so brave
> Your sugar over dose is sending me into a diabetic coma make it stop!
That's so sweet, you're so brave.


Those may not have been the exact lines I used when I met a vague friend of my mothers. But they were pretty close. Why did mummy not tell ME her friend was mentally retarded?? Surely you'd tell your friends before you introduced them to me that "oh by the way she's a cripple" ? It's not fair! Make them wear labels!

[Ratticis]

"I know this girl you should meet. She's in a wheelchair too!"
And . . . ?

[E-DOG]

Ratticis, on Oct 30 2009, 10:47 AM, said:

"I know this girl you should meet. She's in a wheelchair too!"

Ain't that terrific?
I wonder if she's as happy about it as I am.
YOU DUMB f*@k!

[ClaraTaylor]

Ratticis, on Oct 30 2009, 05:47 PM, said:

"I know this girl you should meet. She's in a wheelchair too!"
And . . . ?

No way! Can you introduce me? Because it sounds like we have sooo much in common!!


All time favourite from today s birthday party.... "why are you not dancing?" (Firstly because it was country dancing at a watered down level, secondly because...."

[allister]

Earlier this year I was God Father to my best frisnds two sons.
During the service ,the Vicar asked all four God Parents to join him at the font.
Looking me right in the eyes , he said
" Can we all be upstanding whilst the God parent confirm their commitments "

This post has been edited by allister: 31 October 2009 - 12:40 AM

[Ratticis]

"You can't do ***, you're in a wheelchair!"

A while ago I was out somewhers and asked someone working there where the bathroom is. I follow their directions down a looong hall to find the bathroom. All I have to do is go up this flight of stairs to get to it.

[Murray]

... the vicar?! What a fine man of the cloth. I hoped you tripped his ass as you rolled by!

[MaggieT]

im AB and the one thing i hate the most is when i tell people for the 1st time that my boyfriend is in a wheelchair and they look at me and tell that
"its takes a special kind of person to be with someone in a wheelchair!!"
and then there is the sex question, i have asked people "well can you still have sex???" and that ends it there with there cheeks pink and what not!! lol

[Ratticis]

"You're like that because you don't take care of yourself"
Told to my by a nurse about 2 seconds before I told her to f*@k off. Of course it's all my fault, gravity played no factor at all.

[ohio4282]

We were grocery shopping over the weekend. My fiance dropped something and a woman sent her child over to pick it up for him.

The kid starting asking questions about what was wrong with his foot, and my fiance told him nothing was wrong with his foot, that he had an accident and hurt his back and couldn't walk anymore because of it.

The mom yelled over to stop asking questions, that the boy should help people like that, but don't talk to them.

D'oh! At least now I'm catching on to why some adults can say such stupid things.

[Ratticis]

One time I was in a grocery store and this old bitch stands right in the centre of the narrow aisle and stares at me like I murdered 15 people and raped a goat. She watched me the whole time I came down there and never moved. I say 'excuse me' and she snaps 'go around!' I ran over her foot and carried on.

[semirameris]

"your so brave, if I was you id kill myself"

My favorite reply is " well excuse me a minute then and ill just go roll in front of that bus"

[faribeauty]

A couple of years ago I was over at my friends house and I was wearing shorts at the time sitting on the couch with my friend watching a movie with her parents. Her mom looked over at me when I grabbed the blanket on the couch and said, "Heather if your feet get cold let me know." I stared at her like what? My friend fell off the couch laughing! I just said "Idk let me check" I reached down and felt my feet laughing. The look on her face was priceless.
I make fun of myself a lot just because I think people need to see that I have a good sense of humor and stuff like "you're so brave" doesnt bother me! However, if its some random person that doesnt really know me at all says shit like that...I get frustrated. Its a two sided coin you can't be really happy I suppose, but at least you find humor in the situation.