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Posted 30 September 2006 - 09:57 PM
hi everyone this is aislings hasband thanks for helping her out with all her prombles it really did help her but not me its been a hard year for me all you poeple know what its like been stuck here in the wheelchair really pisses me off because i cant play with my kids that i love so much and i thought theyll lose theyer dad so did aisling the night of the crash she did think shell lose me but i pulled thourgh if i didnt i wouldnt be here talking to you guys. i donnt remember much of the crash only when i woke up about 3 weeks later and she told me poor thing had to tell me she came into the room and she said "theres something i need to tell you and dont get mad or freck out" than she told me and off course i frecked out who wont when theyre told theyll never walk again or work again all i could say is no im not i cant and i told her to piss off. the doc came in and i asked him when icould go home but he told me i could i had to go to another hos for a year and i naerly died. about a year later i got to go home and off coruse kids hated me and they where scared but they love me now thanks to you guys. two weeks ago the man who crashed in to us got away with what he did he didnt get baned thats why im pissed of with everything. ok that was graet got everything out and i feel alot better
bye paddy
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Posted 01 October 2006 - 12:00 AM
Hey Paddy.... 
Glad you stopped in...and don't it feel good to get some things off your chest in a safe place? I can understand your anger....SCI sucks.
I hope to see you around more. You'll find a lot of people here who understand...even the things we never say are understood...so I know you'll find a lot of support and encouragement.
Glad you stopped in...and don't it feel good to get some things off your chest in a safe place? I can understand your anger....SCI sucks.
I hope to see you around more. You'll find a lot of people here who understand...even the things we never say are understood...so I know you'll find a lot of support and encouragement.
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Female. Incomplete para following a cord stroke in '03. Spina-bifida, severe scoliosis. 18 surgeries total...five spine-related: Three fusions w/hardware, two tethered cord releases.
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Posted 01 October 2006 - 01:54 PM
Hi Paddy,
Welcome to the board
Could I ask you to register though, with your own username, otherwise it can make the posts confusing with two people using the same account.
Best regards
Simon.
Welcome to the board
Could I ask you to register though, with your own username, otherwise it can make the posts confusing with two people using the same account.
Best regards
Simon.
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Posted 01 October 2006 - 01:55 PM
Hi Paddy
Chin up mate. You've taken a major kick in the bollocks and it hurt. Now you need to get your shit together and get your head together, and re-build your life. You have a wife and kids that depend on you for strength and guidance, so get a grip and give yourself a kick in the arse.
The painful truth is, you can whinge and moan until the cows come home but it'll make no difference - it only makes things worse for you and your loved ones. You need to accept that you now have a different set of cards and rules to live by, so learn to make the most of what you have - not complain about what you don't have any more.
You're a Paddy and you guys are tough! You have a history of dealing with the most adverse situations life can throw and you guys always face it with a smile and a sense of humour. Use your famous sense of humour, your Irish charm and your determinations to sort yourself out - I imagine you have relatives that have dealt with worse and come off smelling of roses! You can do the same!
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Lay a brick today and lay another tomorrow, and keep on building your new life. You can do it!
Chin up mate. You've taken a major kick in the bollocks and it hurt. Now you need to get your shit together and get your head together, and re-build your life. You have a wife and kids that depend on you for strength and guidance, so get a grip and give yourself a kick in the arse.
The painful truth is, you can whinge and moan until the cows come home but it'll make no difference - it only makes things worse for you and your loved ones. You need to accept that you now have a different set of cards and rules to live by, so learn to make the most of what you have - not complain about what you don't have any more.
You're a Paddy and you guys are tough! You have a history of dealing with the most adverse situations life can throw and you guys always face it with a smile and a sense of humour. Use your famous sense of humour, your Irish charm and your determinations to sort yourself out - I imagine you have relatives that have dealt with worse and come off smelling of roses! You can do the same!
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Lay a brick today and lay another tomorrow, and keep on building your new life. You can do it!
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Posted 01 October 2006 - 08:52 PM
paddydfireman, on Oct 1 2006, 04:33 PM, said:
hey davep its paddy
ya man your right i shouldnt be like this i should be happy im here but im not i dont know why but im not. i shoyld be on top off the world thanks man you made me think about waht you said
ya man your right i shouldnt be like this i should be happy im here but im not i dont know why but im not. i shoyld be on top off the world thanks man you made me think about waht you said
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Posted 04 October 2006 - 10:54 AM
Hi Paddy
Something else for you to think about...
I was told that people that've become SCI'd due to being victims of other people's mistakes don't recover psychologically as fast as those who are responsible for their own injuries, as the victims of accidents tend to want/need to blame someone, whereas those who were responsible for their own injuries have no one to blame but themselves so accept and move on quicker.
Could this be the case with you, as you were the victim of another driver's accident and he just recently got away with the charges against him?
Try to understand where your anger is coming from and deal with it, not re-direct it on to your loved ones, as that only pushes them away and will leave you more isolated and frustrated.
Compare this situation with a big fire! As a fireman, you don't walk away from a big fire that may threathen your life - you fight it with all you have!
One more thing - I want to hear some jokes from you! Surely a Paddy Fireman has some funny jokes and stories to tell!
Something else for you to think about...
I was told that people that've become SCI'd due to being victims of other people's mistakes don't recover psychologically as fast as those who are responsible for their own injuries, as the victims of accidents tend to want/need to blame someone, whereas those who were responsible for their own injuries have no one to blame but themselves so accept and move on quicker.
Could this be the case with you, as you were the victim of another driver's accident and he just recently got away with the charges against him?
Try to understand where your anger is coming from and deal with it, not re-direct it on to your loved ones, as that only pushes them away and will leave you more isolated and frustrated.
Compare this situation with a big fire! As a fireman, you don't walk away from a big fire that may threathen your life - you fight it with all you have!
One more thing - I want to hear some jokes from you! Surely a Paddy Fireman has some funny jokes and stories to tell!
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Posted 05 October 2006 - 08:35 PM
hey davep
yes this is my case and of coruse i blamed my family for it i didnt go to the hearing but im glad i didnt go my brother want and he got my best freind to tell me and i was upset and didnt want the kids near me or my wife but im getting there and your help has worked. i do have some stories but i could take all night to tell you but ill do it anyway when i started working in the fire station i was 18th left school early coruse my mam and dad werent happy thought it would be easy ya right it will long nights never had time to go out and even when i got mairred i ended up working on my wedding night but the hardest thing off all was i missed the birth off my first son and my 2nd but i got to see my 3rd son being born now i was happy. than the crash happened and my boss killed me cos he knew i was speeding i just got a new car and wanted to show off and i end up with a broken neck
yes this is my case and of coruse i blamed my family for it i didnt go to the hearing but im glad i didnt go my brother want and he got my best freind to tell me and i was upset and didnt want the kids near me or my wife but im getting there and your help has worked. i do have some stories but i could take all night to tell you but ill do it anyway when i started working in the fire station i was 18th left school early coruse my mam and dad werent happy thought it would be easy ya right it will long nights never had time to go out and even when i got mairred i ended up working on my wedding night but the hardest thing off all was i missed the birth off my first son and my 2nd but i got to see my 3rd son being born now i was happy. than the crash happened and my boss killed me cos he knew i was speeding i just got a new car and wanted to show off and i end up with a broken neck
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