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[moonstar]

Hi to you all,

I haven't been on for a while so completly lost touch with you all, my pc went down for a while and my husband has been very up and down with his health.

He has had a long term chest infection, sadly he lost his battle on saturday, it happened very suddenly at home with me holding his hand as he wanted. I am so heartbroken i cant imagine life without him, my children have taken it very badly, I dont know when I will be back online what with my numbness and trying to arrange the funeral but I hope i can still visit once in a while when I feel able.

xmoonstarx

[juls]

I know nothing I say can help but I just wanted you to know that my love and thoughts are with you and your family. xxoo

[juless]

Moonstar,

I am so sorry to hear that my prayers are with you and your family.

juless

[roo]

moonstar,
am so sorry to hear of your sad lost ,please know that myself and my family will be thinking of you and your family,and you will all be in our prayers,god bless xx

[miss piggy]

moonstar
I am so sorry to hear your sad news .I have sent you a pm . I am thinking of you and your children x

[Joed]

Moonstar....

Heartfelt prayers for you and your family.

[Quadvet]

Moonstar, that is shocking. I'm sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you. I hope you continue to visit the forum.

Edited by Quadvet, 17 April 2007 - 10:59 AM.

[bigsmiles]

My condolences to you and your family at this very sad time.

[edlee]

I hope you will accept my deepest sympathy in this trying time. Ed

[cer221]

Moonstar
Sorry to hear about you're lost. My prayers go out to you and you're family.

[ParaforGod]

Moonstar,
I am so very sorry for your loss you truly you have my smpathy. I can't say I know how you feel, but I know how I felt when I lost my husband in the accident. Im sure you do feel lost, never felt so alone, sick and so much more. I know what you mean thinking you can't go on living without him, but I know through prayers and love God will give you the strength. My prayer is that you will get to the point where when you think of all the wonderful memories instead of feeling sad for your loss you can smile, laugh, and have peace. I know you will get there because you were so blessed to have him, and he was so blessed to have you!

[DaveP]

Hi Moonstar

Something that has helped me to deal with the death of loved ones in my life is I strive to celebrate their life and remember the good times and the funny things that happened. I don't "commiserate" their death - I celebrate their life!

At funerals I go around and get people to tell stories and laugh about some of the funny things that went on. I think this is the way we should remember our loved ones - with happy fond memories, not mournful ones. Afterall, it's niced to think people will remember us fondly, not painfully.

I also try to think how they would want me to behave, and respect them this way. For example, when my brother died, I know he wouldn't want us to be crying and upset - he'd much prefer us to be in the pub, having a few beers and laughing about some of the crazy things he got up to.

Good luck - stay strong!

[sandyrun]

Moonstar,

You have my deepest sympathy. My heart goes out to you and your family. If you need someone to talk to, just send me a message; or, you know we all will be here for you as an extended family. God Bless you and your family is my prayer. With Tender Thoughts, Sandy

[Katherine]

Moonstar;

My thoughts and prayers are with you. May God give you peace in your loss. I know there are no words to ease your hurting. But know you are not alone. There are many of us who care about you. Message me anytime.

Katherine

[Mary]

Dearest Moonstar....that is so so sad...my deepest sympathy to you and your children. Just know your family is in my prayers and i pray God grants you the peace of mind you so desire at this particular hard moment......

[lune14]

My warmest thoughts to you and your family.

[Quadvet]

Thinking of you today Moonstar. I've had some pretty heavy losses over the last few years and know that each day can be a battle. Peace be with.

Edited by Quadvet, 17 April 2007 - 10:58 AM.

[bensinjury]

So sorry for your loss, May god's peace be with you...you are in my prayers.

[moonstar]

Thankyou all so much for all your kind thoughts and messages, it has given me a lot of comfort reading them , i am in a very bad place at the moment, i cant believe this has happened he was my soulmate, his funeral is on friday, think i will fall apart.

I am so full of anger it scares me, i have always been a very placid person.

Gonna go now, cant see the keyboard

xmoonstarx

[Quadvet]

Moonstar~
I hear ya on the anger part. All the best in dealing with that, and the funeral. Wish there were more, but my prayers are with you. Stay in touch here.

[axl from down under]

So Sorry to hear of your loss


"Where there is love,
there is life,
for love endures...
love remembers...
love survives"


Tanya
Australia

[miss piggy]

Dear moonstar
I will be thinking about you and your family tomorrow(friday) .x

[bigsmiles]

Do not stand at my grave and weep



Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die!



Mary Frye (1932)



Stay strong

[Quadvet]

Moonstar -

I reckon it's a bit late on this day of the funeral, but I wanted to let you know you've been in my thoughts and prayers today. I hope you are okay.

Edited by Quadvet, 22 April 2007 - 09:56 AM.

[xeena]

Hi Dear...I pray for strength and comfort for you in this trying time..just know this...."you are Not alone'God's got your back"

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[moonstar]

HI EVERYONE, THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR KIND MESSAGES, THEY MEAN A GREAT DEAL TO ME. WE HELD ALANS FUNERAL ON FRIDAY, IT ALL WENT TO PLAN, IT WAS THE HARDEST THING I HAVE EVER HAD TO DO, I THOUGHT THAT BEING OVER WOULD PERHAPS HELP, IT DIDNT, I AM GOING THROUGH A CONSTANT ARRAY OF EMOTIONS ALL DAY AND NIGHT. I FIND MYSELF WANDERING THROUGH THE HOUSE IN A DAZE, I AM SO LOST. THE PAIN IS UNBEARABLE, A LOT OF MY TIME I WAS CARING, NOW WHAT DO I DO? MY CHILDREN KEEP ME VERY BUSY BUT THERE IS SUCH A HUGE HOLE IN MY HEART, I AM SO ANGRY HE WAS TAKEN FROM US SO SOON. I LOST MY DAD TWO YEARS AGO VERY SUDDENLY WITH NO WARNING, I HAVNT DEALT WITH THAT YET, LIFE IS SO CRUEL, THANKYOU FOR BEING HERE xmoonstarx

[Quadvet]

Moonstar;

Thanks for posting. I'm glad you can get your feelings out. Such a difficult time. Especially with losing your father so fresh on your heart. I've found in my research that there is a quite definable process of grieving in such circumstances. I feel your pain and anger. All the best in dealing with this. I hope you find an outlet, such as here. His loss must be a huge pain also for your children. You're right, "LIFE IS SO CRUEL". It just doesn't seem fair...

Take care, return soon.

[Tamzin]

You're in our prayers and thoughts... Thank you for opening up and sharing what you're feeling right now.

[bigsmiles]

moonstar, on Apr 23 2007, 12:26 AM, said:

HI EVERYONE, THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR KIND MESSAGES, THEY MEAN A GREAT DEAL TO ME. WE HELD ALANS FUNERAL ON FRIDAY, IT ALL WENT TO PLAN, IT WAS THE HARDEST THING I HAVE EVER HAD TO DO, I THOUGHT THAT BEING OVER WOULD PERHAPS HELP, IT DIDNT, I AM GOING THROUGH A CONSTANT ARRAY OF EMOTIONS ALL DAY AND NIGHT. I FIND MYSELF WANDERING THROUGH THE HOUSE IN A DAZE, I AM SO LOST. THE PAIN IS UNBEARABLE, A LOT OF MY TIME I WAS CARING, NOW WHAT DO I DO? MY CHILDREN KEEP ME VERY BUSY BUT THERE IS SUCH A HUGE HOLE IN MY HEART, I AM SO ANGRY HE WAS TAKEN FROM US SO SOON. I LOST MY DAD TWO YEARS AGO VERY SUDDENLY WITH NO WARNING, I HAVNT DEALT WITH THAT YET, LIFE IS SO CRUEL, THANKYOU FOR BEING HERE xmoonstarx

These are all natural feelings of the grieving process, you must be feeling an emotional roller coaster and this will be like this for a long long time I imagine. Continue being strong for your children as they need their Mum more than ever before, and never be afraid to have a good cry or scream when needs must.

[edlee]

He is still with you. Remember him and he always will be. When the grief passes the love will remain.

My best wishes to you and your family.

Ed