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[ParaforGod]

I was just wondering if family and friends forget and ask you to move your body around or make remarks like you can feel for instance I will be in bed and if my mom is needing me to move over she forgets somtimes and will say can you move over just a little. I laugh and say sure mom which way do you want me to move. She then laughs and says Oh I forgot. Today my aunt had to have a patch over a sore where she was in the hospital and she ask If I have a sore does the pacthes hurt me. I said I don't know I can't feel them. We laughed. I think its funny. Does anyone else have this happen?

[itsjustme]

For some reason people in the medical professional are always apologizing to me in case they hurt me. HELLO!

[elisabeth]

Haaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!! Happens ALL the time and it's always great for a laugh. My family and friends make comments like that quite often and I find it quite endearing because it means that they aren't actually thinking about the disability when they think of me. I'm just the same old Elisabeth I've always been...

[ParaforGod]

Hi itsjustme,
I know what you mean the professionals act that way with me I tell them I want brake. I then say my daughter throws me around like a rag doll. She doesn't do it in a way to hurt me she is just use to moveing me around so when the proffessionals are here and she moves me they take in a deep breath and then when they see Im ok they try to move me the way she did and they still treat me as if Im going to break. My daughter and I just laugh.

Elisabeth I couldn't agree with you more!

[Becca82]

My partner always gets the if you would just like to take a seat over there comment, which always makes us laugh.
And the nurses (who we have known for nearly 3 years now) still say you will just feel a little prick when giving a jab which is always great!

And...im the worst, i dont know how many times ive asked mark to move his feet when im doing the hoovering, or trying to put his shoes on etc!
i ask him if he wants to go for a walk quite a lot also., well what am i supposed to say, fancy getting pushed somewhere???

oh well its all fun and games.

oh and my partner does it too by the way, if he pushes himself into a wall or something he will always say ouch, on the basis that if he could feel it then it probably would have hurt!!!

[lovinghim]

it does happen all the time with me and my partner, 6 months into our relationship we pulled into a petrol station and as i jumped out of the car i said ' you put the petrol in and i will run in with the money' and it that split second i thought he cant, i felt terrible but he sat there and laughed at me. i still now put my foot in my mouth from time to time but we laugh it off. but the best was my mum when she first met him. he drove from england to wales to see me and my mum said to him '' that was a long journey i bet your bum feels numb, we both looked and burst out laughing,

[Jennii]

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I find it quite endearing because it means that they aren't actually thinking about the disability when they think of me. I'm just the same old Elisabeth I've always been...

Indeed. Heh'.

I remember when I was about 6 or 7-years old we had just recently included our puppy (at the time), "Hibou" (pronounced ee-boo) into the family. One morning while I was getting ready for school Hibou was chilling on the footrest of my wheelchair. My Grandmother came in and started talking to me, I turn around, and while responding my leg starts to spasm in a nervous kicky-toe-tappy-like motion right infront of the dog. It didn't hit her, but I guess from my Grandmother's view it looked too close for comfort and she lectures "JENNIFER! Quit kicking the dog like that! What's wrong with you!?". I tried explaining I couldn't help it and she was all, "Of course you can help it, haven't you any sens—Oh, wait… I—I completely forgot!" and bursted into laughter.

Ah, yes… one of many events. ^_^

Edited by Jennii, 23 April 2007 - 07:10 AM.

[Kit]

I do this to my friend sometimes, at first I was all but now we laugh about it.

[justin]

Most defently the other day my dad and friend left me in the suv. With the wheelchair in the very back so i had ro sit there and yell till i finally got ahold my mom. So when i got in the house my dad was just sitting on the couch watching tv like nothing happen. my mom went in there and said did u expect justin to just get up and walk in here. my dad was like im sorry i totally forgot u where paralized. In i said well dang i like your additude dad your thinking postive u just think im going to get up and walk away

Edited by justin, 23 April 2007 - 05:18 PM.

[Jodie Lynn]

I was out shopping last Thursday with my brother and his wife, now take in mind these are the ones i usually go shopping with ever since my accident we come out of Home Depot and get to the car, i sit in my chair and watch as they both get in the front seats sit and shut the door i am just sitting there looking at them like HELLO I can get in the car but my wheel chair has to be put into the trunk in thier car, so i stand and get in the car sitting in the back seat and I ask them hey ya'll did yousin forget about me I busted out laughing so hard for this is the first time in two years this has ever happened I couldn't stop laughing they both jump out and go to put the chair in the trunk, I am still laughing so hard, this is the first time they have literally forgotten that i was not able bodied.. Was so Hilarious, still funny as heck LMAO

[mephibosheth]

Funny story:
One of my old home-care nurses was a bit... hmm how do I put this nicely... she concentrated on the simple things in life (& I mean simple!). Anyway, one morning she was just standing there with a blank look on her face, staring at the ground (evidently this was her 'thinking' face), then she pipes up with:
"You know those sticks they but on people who lose their legs?"
"You mean prosthetics?" I asked..
"Yeah!" she replied, "Would they work for you?"

Oh dear... I had to laugh!

[ParaforGod]

Thanks Guys these stories are great you have made me have a great laugh.

[Captain Pike]

My spouse works all day, so if I don't have help I'm generally on my own. One of the reasons I live where I do was so that I could keep an eye on my dad who is getting old and forgetful. I live just a few doors down from my father.

It's a funny thing: the two of us constitute a complete human being. He can't remember shit, and I can walk. So we roll and stroll to the local supermarket. He can reach up and get an item off-the-shelf, and I can remember why we came to the store.

Sometimes though, he'll say stuff like "does that feel comfortable?", after he has helped me with my slippers, or "aren't your feet cold, want me to cover them up?" Stuff like that, and I tell him "Dad, I can't feel my legs". Then he sort of reexperiences the whole realization of what's happened to me all over again. That is kind of sad. The good thing about this is that I know that he still sees me as his son, a capable, able-bodied man.

[ParaforGod]

Captain Pike, on Apr 28 2007, 02:39 PM, said:

My spouse works all day, so if I don't have help I'm generally on my own. One of the reasons I live where I do was so that I could keep an eye on my dad who is getting old and forgetful. I live just a few doors down from my father.

It's a funny thing: the two of us constitute a complete human being. He can't remember shit, and I can walk. So we roll and stroll to the local supermarket. He can reach up and get an item off-the-shelf, and I can remember why we came to the store.

Sometimes though, he'll say stuff like "does that feel comfortable?", after he has helped me with my slippers, or "aren't your feet cold, want me to cover them up?" Stuff like that, and I tell him "Dad, I can't feel my legs". Then he sort of reexperiences the whole realization of what's happened to me all over again. That is kind of sad. The good thing about this is that I know that he still sees me as his son, a capable, able-bodied man.

Thats great Captain Pike

[Avocado Baby]

Yeah people forget with me all the time. My brother quite often will stop the car and wait for me to get out, forgetting that he needs to get my chair for me. I've never been able to walk so its not like it's a new thing!

I usually find it funny though and take it as a compliment as it means my disability isn't something people are always consciously thinking about.

[spinesong]

Captain Pike, on Apr 28 2007, 11:39 AM, said:

My spouse works all day, so if I don't have help I'm generally on my own. One of the reasons I live where I do was so that I could keep an eye on my dad who is getting old and forgetful. I live just a few doors down from my father.

It's a funny thing: the two of us constitute a complete human being. He can't remember shit, and I can walk. So we roll and stroll to the local supermarket. He can reach up and get an item off-the-shelf, and I can remember why we came to the store.

Sometimes though, he'll say stuff like "does that feel comfortable?", after he has helped me with my slippers, or "aren't your feet cold, want me to cover them up?" Stuff like that, and I tell him "Dad, I can't feel my legs". Then he sort of reexperiences the whole realization of what's happened to me all over again. That is kind of sad. The good thing about this is that I know that he still sees me as his son, a capable, able-bodied man.

i love it. that is priceless and something so precious about it.