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[rjourney]

Hello - i just wanted to take a little time out to intorduce myself... i changed my name just the other day from jonahs friend, to rjourney. it just seemed a little more appropriate...

anyways, i kinds came bounding onto the scene like a nut two weeks ago when my friend had his accident, so now that i've had some time to calm down i thought i'd give the proper intro.
here goes.

my name is kelly, i'm 31 years old. i have know J for a long time, he is kinda like a little brother to me (our parents have been dating for a looong time) and he is amazing. lights up a room and all that good stuff. He had a diving accident at the beach and has a c4-c5 incomplete injury. he is working really really hard at rehab right now and is doing great. there is still some trouble with his breathing but it's being worked on. His attitude is really good, of course with ups and downs. we know this is just the begining but his spirit has not been broken. he is a fighter! so that is great.

for me personally this site has been so wonderful! I learned so much here! when j and i spoke for the first time, and he realized i'd been doing lots of reading... the look in his eye! it was really nice... i think he knows he can count on me and thats is worth more to me than anything else =)

so i think thats it (kinda!)...thanks for listening and for the support and education!

Kelly

[ParaforGod]

Hi Kelly,
Its good to hear from you and how nice it is that your friend has you. Friends can make a world of difference. The person who was suppose to be my best friend at the time of the accident she was and still is a nurse. At rehab we were told we would find out who our true friends were when we got home and it was true. This person who I thought was my best friend we did everything together. She didn't call or come around and when I would have to go to the hospital she would hardly talk to me and that was only if I said hello first. About three years ago I was in the hospital really sick and I stopped breathing. My daughter had got really upset about the way she act as if she didn't care and my daughter said something about it. I remember this person sitting by my bed and saying that she didn't come around because she didn't know how to deal with it. I told her that was a copout and she knew it. I told her if it had been her that she knew I would have been there and that I didn't want to hear her excuses. I knew the only reason she was there was because my daughter had said something about the way she had done. Don't misunderstand me. I wish her no harm. Then I had other friends who stepped right up and have been here ever sense the accident. I said all that to say your friend is lucky to have you and you him. Keep caring the way you are and its good to have you back.

[rjourney]

ParaforGod, on Aug 1 2007, 03:17 PM, said:

Hi Kelly,
Its good to hear from you and how nice it is that your friend has you. Friends can make a world of difference. The person who was suppose to be my best friend at the time of the accident she was and still is a nurse. At rehab we were told we would find out who our true friends were when we got home and it was true. This person who I thought was my best friend we did everything together. She didn't call or come around and when I would have to go to the hospital she would hardly talk to me and that was only if I said hello first. About three years ago I was in the hospital really sick and I stopped breathing. My daughter had got really upset about the way she act as if she didn't care and my daughter said something about it. I remember this person sitting by my bed and saying that she didn't come around because she didn't know how to deal with it. I told her that was a copout and she knew it. I told her if it had been her that she knew I would have been there and that I didn't want to hear her excuses. I knew the only reason she was there was because my daughter had said something about the way she had done. Don't misunderstand me. I wish her no harm. Then I had other friends who stepped right up and have been here ever sense the accident. I said all that to say your friend is lucky to have you and you him. Keep caring the way you are and its good to have you back.

Thanks!!

[wheeliebear75]

Do you know what I think the BIGGEST difference is pre and post SCI for me in regards to friends is? Before I got hurt I had lots of people I considered my friends....I even had to arrange my time just to be with all these circles of friends. Now I have more time and less # of friends. But the people who are my friends now are not around because I helped them move last week. They're choosing to hang out with me because the like who I am as a person. I lost almost all the people I had considered friends......but since they only wanted to hang out if I could walk.......I guess they weren't my friends after all. I'd rather have a few very close friends who are tried and true......then a rolodex or PDA ful of people who don't care care about me when push comes to shove. You're a tried and true friend......and we can all use more of those......able bodied or not.