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[Moondancer]

Hi, I am so glad to have found this fantastic site/forum. I hope to learn a lot from you all. I am engaged to a wonderful, caring man who I love with all my heart. He has a C7-C8 injury, paraplegia and I have got quite a bit to learn. He answers all my questions, but there are some things that I have trouble asking him. Although he is more than willing to answer all my questions, I feel that I need to ask some things to other women in this situation. I want to make him so happy and live life to the fullest. He is very active and nothing holds him back. Perhaps I can ask find some of my answers here. Thank you for being here. Moondancer

[Little1]

Moondancer, on Aug 13 2007, 12:05 PM, said:

Hi, I am so glad to have found this fantastic site/forum. I hope to learn a lot from you all. I am engaged to a wonderful, caring man who I love with all my heart. He has a C7-C8 injury, paraplegia and I have got quite a bit to learn. He answers all my questions, but there are some things that I have trouble asking him. Although he is more than willing to answer all my questions, I feel that I need to ask some things to other women in this situation. I want to make him so happy and live life to the fullest. He is very active and nothing holds him back. Perhaps I can ask find some of my answers here. Thank you for being here. Moondancer

Hi Moondancer
I'm married to a partial quad. What do you want to ask? Not sure if I can help, but willing to give it a try. little1

[miss piggy]

Hi Moondancer
welcome .I am a carer for my brother-in-law who is a t10-t12. I am willing to try and help too ,might not have all the answer's but i willing to try

[Moondancer]

miss piggy, on Aug 14 2007, 06:44 AM, said:

Hi Moondancer
welcome .I am a carer for my brother-in-law who is a t10-t12. I am willing to try and help too ,might not have all the answer's but i willing to try

Thank you ladies.... well, I guess its more of a sexuality question and best left for that section of the forum. But one of the questions, I have is, What is the difference between a complete and incomplete injury? He has a C-7 incomplete injury, He has a lot of trouble with his shoulders and exercises a lot.
Things must be "timed" with him. Bowel/Bladder functions, eating and other such things. He doesn't get much sleep because he has to do all the bowel things. Is this something that must be done this way because of his injury? Any insight would be great. Oh, by the way he has had this injury for over 20 years. Moondancer

[miss piggy]

Hi Moondancer
Hope this helps a bit .
How the spinal cord has been damage is also a consideration when evaluating a spinal cord injury. There are two types of lesion, these are a complete injury and an incomplete injury. Someone with a complete injury will have complete loss of muscle control and sensation below their level of lesion. An incomplete injury is where maybe only the muscles have been paralyzed, or where there is impaired sensation.
Kev does try and keep his bowel's to a regular time,which is done first thing in the morning . Kev also has a suprapubic catheter for his bladder .As for meal times he tends to pick and choose his own times .This is kev's choice ,but everyone is different . Kev has been pararelyzed 4 years now and this routine suits him . I really do wish you both lots of luck .I hope this has helped a bit

[Moondancer]

miss piggy, on Aug 15 2007, 06:35 AM, said:

Hi Moondancer
Hope this helps a bit .
How the spinal cord has been damage is also a consideration when evaluating a spinal cord injury. There are two types of lesion, these are a complete injury and an incomplete injury. Someone with a complete injury will have complete loss of muscle control and sensation below their level of lesion. An incomplete injury is where maybe only the muscles have been paralyzed, or where there is impaired sensation.
Kev does try and keep his bowel's to a regular time,which is done first thing in the morning . Kev also has a suprapubic catheter for his bladder .As for meal times he tends to pick and choose his own times .This is kev's choice ,but everyone is different . Kev has been pararelyzed 4 years now and this routine suits him . I really do wish you both lots of luck .I hope this has helped a bit

Good Morning Miss Piggy,

Yes, your reply does help. I need all the info I can get my hands on. I have quite a bit of medical background in my job and I really love to research things out to try to find the best and most comfortable way of doing things. The more I learn the better I can be a good wife. I have never run away from anything so nothing really frightens me. My only concern is his quality of life and what I can do to make him happy as he has made me. Thank you again so much. Hugs from me to you. Moondancer

[Moondancer]

HI MM,

Thank you for your reply, you are so right!!!! He would rather I ask him questions than do the research, its the communication thing. Before I met him, I never had this much communication, my ex was no communicator. But my new fella is certainly a communicator. I should just ask him what I need to know, he is more than willing to tell me. But, as you know, some things I just need to find out "medically" for myself. I truly love him and want to know all I can. I, thank you again for the info. I really didn't think of it the way you mentioned. Hugs from me to you. Moondancer