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[rkzenrage]

I am a very compassionate and caring person.
However, I have always had this "issue" with discussions because I am a very straight-forward person who does not interject my emotions into something I think is an intellectual discussion.
So, people tend to fill what they "think/feel" I am "trying to say" emotionally when, in fact there is no emotional content at all in the text/conversation.
It causes no end of confusion in my life, every-day and on-line.
Now, if you think I am posting something in an angry way, belittling you, arguing with you instead of just debating, etc... please ask first. I'll bet I'm not.
It is very rare... If I am angry I will tell you.
I don't take things personally... I rarely care what people feel, only what they think.
I respect people, but do not feel that their beliefs should be respected if I disagree with them.
For me, the two are separate. This allows me to have people in my life that I love and care for deeply who are VERY different than I personally, it is very enriching. But, they also have to get past the fact that if they ask me how I feel/think about something I am going to give them a completely honest answer without worrying about offending them.
IMO, a thread on a DISCUSSION forum in an invitation to do the same.
I will never intentionally offend anyone, nor will I try not to.
I love all of you, I love everyone and hate no one.
Just letting you know.

[smokymtn memories]

Nice, clear job of clarification Rkzenrage, but I already pretty much figured that out by reading your contributions to the forum.

You say what you think, period. Nothing personal in it. I get it, and think it's an honest, admirable trait. I've enjoyed "meeting" you and look forward to more discussions and learning others points of view.

[darrel]

I was going to reply earlier but it was supper time, (can't let the food I'm not supposed to eat get cold)
I also have noticed that there is anger in your replies, and that you have the no thrill discussion type responses,it has not bothered me any, I just don't have that type of education to debate. I will how ever be glad to through a smart ass remark in once and while. okay maybe more often than that. but I to call it the way I see it.

[rkzenrage]

There is no anger.

[darrel]

not that I have seen.

[PetitMortVampyre]

rkzenrage, on Oct 7 2007, 12:30 AM, said:

There is no anger.

only time I get angry is when I tell my son to clean his room or the mess he made in the kitchen and he does not... blah.

And I have always respected your opinion on tings, never noted/felt any anger... I mean I get to go for a ride when i get that way, if I thought for a moment you were angry person, or easily triggered, I prob would not have asked <winks>

Much Love
Light and Laughter
Corvette aka going to kill the child (bill cosby ref)

[wheeliebear75]

I don't remember seeing any replies from you that I would consider to be angry or lacking in compassion. I like you do tend to think it often best to think things through logically........and like you I've had that misinterpreted. I've no problems with you.......and BTW thanks for keeping Ariana in your thoughts for me it means a lot.......she's like a niece to me.

[darrel]

PetitMortVampyre, on Oct 7 2007, 05:24 PM, said:

rkzenrage, on Oct 7 2007, 12:30 AM, said:

There is no anger.

only time I get angry is when I tell my son to clean his room or the mess he made in the kitchen and he does not... blah.

And I have always respected your opinion on tings, never noted/felt any anger... I mean I get to go for a ride when i get that way, if I thought for a moment you were angry person, or easily triggered, I prob would not have asked <winks>

Much Love
Light and Laughter
Corvette aka going to kill the child (bill cosby ref)

FREAKING KIDS,,lol they are worth it after they move out and start their own family then you get to watch them say "I don't know how you did it,mom"

[rkzenrage]

wheeliebear75, on Oct 8 2007, 05:25 PM, said:

I don't remember seeing any replies from you that I would consider to be angry or lacking in compassion. I like you do tend to think it often best to think things through logically........and like you I've had that misinterpreted. I've no problems with you.......and BTW thanks for keeping Ariana in your thoughts for me it means a lot.......she's like a niece to me.

Thanks and she is still in my thoughts.
It is always the same, I post something neutral about a subject that most find emotional and they project their emotional content onto my posts.