Hello. Not even sure if this is the right place for me or not. A friend of mine, also a professor at my university fell about a week ago. As of the last update I received, he is a quadriplegic and still can't fully breathe on his own (can't keep the levels high enough). He's 70 years old, so I'm not really sure how things are going to go for him. He's an amazing guy who has studied numerous healing practices world wide like Eastern Asia, India, places like that. So I think if anyone can convince their body to heal, he can.
I'm in a place right now, where I think I may be able to visit him next week, as my grandpa is going to be in the same hospital for surgery. But...it's like I'm almost afraid to visit Paul. He has been an incredibaly supportive force in my life for the past 4 years, helping me figure my stuff out and what not, and I think that when I see him, I'll cry. I think he'd understand, but I don't want to be there looking and blubbering like an idiot not knowing what to say.
Can anyone offer ideas, suggestions, anything?
Thanks,
little one
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, Oct 08 2005 06:54 PM
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Posted 08 October 2005 - 06:55 PM
Oh littleone...I'm not sure there's an easy answer for that one. You may end up crying, but the most important thing is to visit anyway. Sometimes I think that shedding tears with someone is the most human, loving thing there is to do. Maybe he needs to do that too.
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Posted 08 October 2005 - 06:56 PM
Littleone..one thing I can say is...keep on reading all the topics here.And for sure you will get an answer and idea about your problem.As I mentioned before on this topic,friend..is one of the important contributing support for the person with SCI.
Stay and never leave your friend is the great thing you've done for him.
And encourage him to move on.Be strong...and dont show too much emotion,so that he will not feel sorry for his self.
Stay and never leave your friend is the great thing you've done for him.
And encourage him to move on.Be strong...and dont show too much emotion,so that he will not feel sorry for his self.
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Posted 08 October 2005 - 07:04 PM
Joed & Carolline,
I had to separate this discussion from another thread which needed deleting as you probably know, so I had to put your replies in as a guest.
Hope you don't mind.
Simon.
I had to separate this discussion from another thread which needed deleting as you probably know, so I had to put your replies in as a guest.
Hope you don't mind.
Simon.
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Posted 09 October 2005 - 11:46 AM
Hi Littleone
It will be hard but maybe its your turn to support your friend? If you cry or whatever perhaps this will allow thhe friend to do so aswell. Just be there, people need support at this time....
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It will be hard but maybe its your turn to support your friend? If you cry or whatever perhaps this will allow thhe friend to do so aswell. Just be there, people need support at this time....
Simon
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Posted 10 October 2005 - 01:49 AM
Try not to be scared. He is the same person you have always known and now it is your turn to be a good friend to him. If you cry it will be OK. It just shows you care. Good luck.
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