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[Lucydog]

Im feeling very down at the moment, I really hate this pregnancy business. Im now 26 weeks gone and am getting fat, my clothes dont fit and my bum is starting to brush my wheels! I cant get out the house on my own anymore because with a 1 year old I just cant carry him and be quite pregnant. I havent spoken to anyone outside the family for 3 weeks or been anywhere either.

For a few months now we have been trying to get some sort of support package together with the help of my OT and the childrens centre but as most of it runs on voluntary workers as of yet we havent found anyone who might be willing to come over and give a hand. My husband works weekends so every w/e Im at home with the boys on my own. I have absoloutly no one to call on and its getting me down. There isnt one person I could call on.

Ive tried all the usuall things, getting involved with various groups etc but the thing is most people work and I dont so Im at home alone. Also becuese of the rurality here, distance is a problem. Its a 40 mile round trip just to get some shopping in.

Anyway there are no answers, I just thought Id have a moan as I havent got anyone to share this with and if it wasnt for the net Id have no contact with anyone.

cheers
L

[carole338]

Lucy,

So sorry to hear you are down. I know I look to you when I feel down. You are always so positive and have a great attitude. I’m sure you know what you are going through is very temporary. Just think of the beautiful baby you are carrying inside you and how wonderful motherhood is.

I know how important this site is for contact with the outside and with people who understand. Venting is very acceptable.

Good luck and keep well,
Carole

[City Girl]

The good news is you're more than halfway there! Try to think of yourself as being 'great with child' instead of 'fat'. I was huge when I was expecting my daughter but I was just so happy to be expecting. I wore tent-dresses and birkenstocks. I also tried to enjoy my last months alone with my son before baby #2 arrived. Soon you will be very busy with your new baby and you won't have the same time with your son(s)? as you do now. Perhaps think of the next 14 weeks as quality time to spend with just him (/them?). Perhaps you could also take some alone time for yourself...which will be almost non-existent once the new baby arrives. Take up a hobby. I made a beautiful baby quilt during my second pregnancy. I also made some meals and did some baking and froze them in the deep freezer for days when I would be too busy/too tired to cook/bake. Also, what about inviting people over? Could you invite another mother and her child/children over for an afternoon visit? Just serve lemonaid and watermelon/fruits and enjoy the company of another mother while the children play. Just some suggestions.

You are an interesting person with a strong character. I always enjoy reading your input in the forums. I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so down. Inasmuch as you may feel fat and fed up, I'm quite certain you probably look like a beautiful, glowing expectant mother. I wish you the very best.

[cate]

Hi Lucy
I am sorry you are feeling so down, and if I was n t at the other end of the country I would happily visit you. I know you can keep busy, but it is the social contact you need,. Are you in a village? do they not have baby group etc, Is you eldest child going to school now or nursery, is there any one there you can invite over for coffee etc. You have been so upwards and we do all enjoy your posts, so keep coming on here to chat to us, it is very cosmopolitan, so that is interesting.
Have you been to the family wedding yet, that you were buying your outfit for? fill us in on your daily life, we are interested not just nosy, You say your husband works at weekends, so is he home during the week, and are you able to get out then.
Keep your pecker up, and enjoy your time with your other 2 children whilst waiting for the 3rd one to arrive, sorry this sounds like 20 question
Cate

[ruth]

I know exactly how you feel - I have done the 'fat frumpy fed up and pregnant' thing. I would be going completely insane locked up in the house all day!!!! Do you have any relatives who could stay with you for a bit to help sort out boys and chair so you can go out? (My mum virtually lived with me for the last 3 months of both my pregnancies) Just think, only 14 weeks to go....

Do you have any neighbours you could pester? I found pottering about in the garden a little better than sitting in the house.

[jane]

hey, sorry you feel so fed up.

msn me when i am on - i will talk if i can - i usually have it on at work.

take care -

Jane
xx

[nomis]

So, how has this weekend been, Lucydog? I hope some help appeared.
I've just met for the first time the newborn baby girl of a niece so I'm still feeling all gooey and thinking that your hard work and discomfort does eventually produce the reward. If I wasn't so far away I'd call in to give a hand myself. I'll just have to send you these good wishes.

[ParaforGod]

Hi Lucydog,
Im so sorry your having such a hard time and if I lived close by Id come visit and help you. It wont be long until the bundle of joy is here. Hang in there.