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[carolline]

Hey guys"naughty carer" asking you all again....
About your reactions and feelings towards to those nurses looking after you while you were in the hospital.Coz I know that there's a patient's likes and dislikes for the nurse who's going to handle them.Some patient's feel at ease to these certain nurse and like the way they work.And some other nurses just doing their work like nothing or they do'nt even care as long as they're giving meds and do the paper works.And there's a lot of gripes arises for them...from the patients.And there's a rotation for them...as you will see the difference from one another.

Due to we need to improve the patient's care responsiveness.....I need your feedback....thanks y'all.

[hillarymcarter]

Bruce really connected with the nurses that acted like a friend rather than just a nurse. He liked to be talked to make normal conversation while they did stuff that was not so normal! The ones he really didn't like were the ones who would come in and not really talk to him about anything other than his injury. He also hated the ones who woke him up at night when it wasn't necessary. You know..the ones who turn on the overhead lights at 2AM instead of using the light from the bathroom...I guess they figured that since they had to be up we should be up too!

[ASHLEYTHOMPSON]

When nurses came to Johns door in the middle of the night, he would just holler "I REFUSE". One nurse stated "i'm gonna have to chart that you are refusing vital signs". John's response was "Go chart this...(lewd finger gesture)"

[carolline]

A lot of patients complained above mention.To defend my side...I do'nt do that.Especially when taking the vital signs if it's only like routine v/s,and if I saw the patients is sleeping I don'nt bother to do it.Unless if it's necessary to do,or if its strict monitoring.I know there's some nurses doing unnecessary thing.Just to keep their self busy.

You know that if the patient is very depressed we are the front cover or were the one catching all the bad attitudes.But if you feel that were fighting back to you,do'nt think that we do'nt care.We just render our best care as we can.Specially when administering meds and doing some nursing care and all related to your condition.
Sometimes we need to be tough..so that we can do our work for you.

We had one patient's that so impatient,rude,stuborn and all the bad manners he showed to us.He really hates us....He feel that when we entered to his room we look like bitch and wickedwich(sp) for him.He shouted to us ....."how many times do I need to tell you that I do'nt want to see your face?.I do'nt like you..I do'nt believe you,I do'nt trust you."If only his stares can kill us....I feel that were already dead

One of my colleagues..answered him back......"Me either I do'nt like you..but you have no choice.Coz I'm the only certified to all your access in your body.(patient got..PICC LINE/PCA/TPN all the delicate thing.If only I can choose the patient I wont going to get you.I have no choice also.So weather you like it or not I'm telling you..you will see me and will stick to your face for 12 hours.Patient said:"You mean you're the only nurse now can do those things to me?" Yes..and you got the best nurse on the floor!!!"

Then he feels that he will not win to my colleague..he stop nagging to us.And at the end of the day he asked sorry for us.He realized that were doing our best.And the nurse talk to him so nice and gave some advice and encouragement,that never to give up.

[hillarymcarter]

In my complaints above, I am only talking about a few nurses....most were wonderful! In fact, we still visit some of them!

[wheelie182]

Hillary, you should be a nurse, you sound very caring, but your not pushy enough though

[carolline]

Yeah...it's nice to know and to hear something from the patients that they're thankfull for us.And were very happy too...that they're in good condition now.
Sometimes were receiving some phonecalls in the station, from them and just want to say "HI' for all of us.It makes our heart so happy..coz they treasured us also.

[hillarymcarter]

As soon as I finish my current degree (Business Management with half a year left), I am going to nursing school. I want both degrees so I can be a nursing supervisor.
You know, Bruce always says I'm not mean enough! If a telemarkter calls or if our food at a restaurant is wrong or if I need to complain, he always does it for me!
The one thing I will get pushy about is Bruce's healthcare though! I was also kinda pushy at my last job, but I was the manager of a bath and body works so I had to tell people what to do. The funny thing is that after work was over we would all go out together!
Anyway, I'm getting a little better...

[studinchair]

when I was in the hospital the drugs really messed with my head. I really thought this one nurse was in love with me, It went as far as I had a dream where she came in the room with her smock top and just her panites and I was in a vip room with a regular bed, I know I was mest up. I would tell my wife that it would be ok for her to leave tonight because she was working. Now i don't even know the nurses name but I know I made my wife talking about her, but i was so out of it I didn't know what the hell was going on....
gary

[dan_nc]

My SCI occurred just one month ago. I was in the ICU for 5 days ... due to the drugs I was so paranoid I thought all the nurses were very rude and purposely ignored the call bell and such.

All in all, I have had a good experiences with the nurses that provided care when I was hospitalized after my MVA. Especially the nurse's aides (technicians). The only complaint is that it seems there are never enough staff for the needs of the patients.

[hillarymcarter]

Once when Bruce was drugged he was kissing all over me. All of the sudden he pulled back and said "Hurry, run, my wife is about to come into the room!" I thought that was so funny...I guess I can't gripe...at least he was cheating on me with me!

[carolline]

....Drugs....? now i know and understand what incident was happened to me.Me and the patient..when he touched my boobs (.)-(.) ..early morning when I took his vitals......... Huh......kinda..hallucination!!!

[hillarymcarter]

He was grabbing your boobs because you were counting his nuts! He got the wrong idea!

[joisliniad]

Hillary that was great! I laugh a lot

[carolline]

hillarymcarter, on Nov 17 2005, 11:25 PM, said:

He was grabbing your boobs because you were counting his nuts!  He got the wrong idea!

Hi mickeynurse,
Sometimes it's difficult like us...to have an emotional attachment to our patient.It can't avoid also,during their stay in the hosp.We developed our feelings to them and same with the patient as well.Me I can control myself when it comes to that.If I feel that I'm beginning to develop my feelings  for him.Oppppssssss...I need to distance myself,and avoid to talk to him.Anyway were in different situation and set up in ward.You are assigned in ICU while me is in ortho/surgical ward.That's why I can avoid something going on.Or even the patient is about to discharged from us...and asking about my mobile #.Still I do'nt give it..you know to avoid getting deepper my emotion.But when it comes to care still...I rendered my best.Or maybe I can say this coz I'm not that much inlove that will turn to the point that I need to do all my best.Just to win the man of my life.
And one thing...If you feel inlove to the patient and the patient as well...just be quiet..do'nt let others to know it untill the patient will be discharge.Good luck.

I rumble here...I insert my post in the original quoted post of hillary...(dunno what's happening to me today????)

...just purely job,not messing around.... (answer for hillary..about my boobs (.)-(.) ....)

[dan_nc]

Especially in the Rehab Hospital, I found it important that the nurses have experience working with SCI patients.

The nurses that don't have much experience just express a lot of complaints about how needy SCI patients are.

Nurses have told me that they don't like working in the SCI hallway because of the extra work for catheterization and bowel program. This makes me really appreciate the ones that do specialize in SCI patients and do such an excellent job.

[dan_nc]

Guest_mickeynurse, on Nov 18 2005, 05:40 AM, said:

Hihi,
I am a ICU nurse from HK. I was caring a 17 yo boy who had c3/4/5 fracture nearly two weeks ago and tetraplegic and limited movement to his shoulders and forearms. sensation was up to his thumbs. He is on tracheostomy and ventilator support. He is alert. Doctors are not yet decided to disclose this long term condition to him. And as I know that, he hadn't been about his condiitons to my colleagues till that night i was taking caring of him. He asked me about his conditions and can move again???? I was not answering it directly, just told him, keep exercise and never give up........ I was depressed and cried for him in the washroom. Later, he asked me do more for him.......such as clear his ears, scratched his head. He told me that he had shoulders and neck pain, I did the massage for him. This week, I was not his assigned nurse, but when I approached to him, he would ask me to comfort his ears, head and nostrils etc.... as he told (lip reading) he never asked any other nurses to do so, except me, becasue he told me that I am good guy and the one who is really caring of him. I feel very happy that he knows. I knew the doctors would go to break this bad news to him in the coming week, then what should I do for him?! And based on my caring, my colleagues told me that, I am going beyond the nurse-patient relationship, what should I do?! Btw, how to control that relationship?! And they said I would not be assigned as his case nurse.

Guest_mickeynurse:

While the doctor may give his prognosis there is no reason to ever give up hope.
God gives us hope.

[bluebutterflyrn]

Just wanted to say to Mickienurse, I've been accused many times of going beyond the nurse-patient relationship and no, I'm not talking about young men (I don't just fall for anyone) I did home health for 5 years and became very close to my patients, many became like family members. I still have some call me at home to check in on me. When someone accuses me of this situation, I simply remind them that I made a nurse to take care of people and that if everyone went the "extra mile" what a difference we could make in other peoples lives. You can really tell who cares and whose is there for a paycheck. If you feel attracted to this patient make sure your feelings are real, not just some passing attraction. Never in a million years would I ever dream that I would fall in love with a patient, it's such a taboo thing. I didn't reveal my feelings for my love until almost a year later, and I couldn't stand holding it in any longer. I knew that it was real love, and now I don't know how I could live without him. My only regret is not meeting him sooner, especially before I wasted 8 years in a very abusive marriage.
Hillary, God bless you for wanting to go into the nursing profession and best of luck. Quite frankly I have more days wishing I had chose a different profession than being proud of what I do. The nursing field in general dissapoints me, maybe I've just been unlucky enough to work with such uncaring people. If you're not very "tough" I would strongly discourage you from being a supervisor. I didn't have the personality for this job, and it was the most stressful year and a half of my life, the only good I got out of it was I met the love of my life. I hope to return to school next year, I'm only 12 months from becoming a nurse practioner. I don't know how I'm going to manage 2 jobs, go back to school, and try to care for my love (i hope by that time he will be staying with me, but that is an ordeal in its own, trying to fight with his mother about having him live here), but where there's a will, there's a way. Best of luck anyway, you seem like a really caring person, and that's what this profession desperately needs.

[hillarymcarter]

I never wanted to be a nurse. In fact, up until Bruce's accident I was studying law so I could take over my family's law practice.
The thing that disturbed me in hospitals was the lack of empathy from many of the nurses. Really, who could blame them...not a lot of people have family who go through something we all have.
On Thanksiving morning at about 4am last year, I went to visit Bruce is ICU. It was our first married holiday together and he was still in a coma. As I was walking out, I just collapsed and I couldn't take it anymore. A young nurse about my age propped me up with her arm and took me outside. She went and got me coffee and a cigarette and told me about an experience she had with her husband which was similar to mine. I really, really don't know if I could have gone on without that nurse being so empathetic and understanding how I felt. I think if I take this experience and I don't use it, then I am wasting something that God has given me. I hope I can help someone like that nurse helped me. I swear when I think about her, I feel like I was speaking to my guardian angel.