[kewlcatkez]

Apparelyzed, on Aug 15 2008, 10:08 AM, said:

I hate it how one misunderstanding can get blown up out of proportion.

I find it annoying how people assume same level injuries equal same level abilities, something I have to admit doing in the past, they do not, there could be additional undisclosed medical, physical factors involved.

agreed, on both accounts

[Ches]

Havent been here to read this post, but now I'm back and 'OK OK I can take a hint Simon..

Wish others could!

[Kev-O]

Ches, on Aug 18 2008, 11:55 PM, said:

Havent been here to read this post, but now I'm back and 'OK OK I can take a hint Simon..

Wish others could!

What are you calling us stupid. Ooooooo sorry we are not all as smart as queen ches. I bet you think your better then us to ches you are a very bad person. theres no one here blowing anything out of the water!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO

This post has been edited by Kev-O: 19 August 2008 - 06:54 PM

[rmorgan]

"ches you are a bad an very person"

K-fed...are you drunk? And I'm sure she was probably just calling YOU stupid...

hehe....

[Ches]

Haha.. no.. didnt mean anything by it.

Was being sarcastic.. Like... NOT letting it go.

Kfed shut your ass up!

Robyn is the bestest!

[dnm527]

kdenon01, on Aug 13 2008, 08:34 PM, said:

Rmorgan, I also get annoyed at people telling me how great I must be to be with my husband. It's like...what's that say about you!

LOL! I was just thinking the same thing this weekend about my boyfriend. Everyone telling me how great I am to have started dating him knowing his situation(c6/7)....why I am I so great and wonderful...I just happened to fall in love with my best friend...

[Kev-O]

rmorgan, on Aug 19 2008, 05:46 AM, said:

"ches you are a bad an very person"

K-fed...are you drunk? And I'm sure she was probably just calling YOU stupid...

hehe....

lol nope i was not drunk...... how did no one get that lol. they were talking about people making something out of nothing so thats what i did.

[rmorgan]

Kev-O, on Aug 19 2008, 07:11 AM, said:

rmorgan, on Aug 19 2008, 05:46 AM, said:

"ches you are a bad an very person"

K-fed...are you drunk? And I'm sure she was probably just calling YOU stupid...

hehe....

lol nope i was not drunk...... how did no one get that lol. they were talking about people making something out of nothing so thats what i did.

Kev, I totally got what you were trying to do. I'M not stupid...haha. But that sentence makes NO SENSE... "Ches, you are a bad an very person" ... is that even English?

[gustifer]

now, now, are we fighting in class here? you know you could be sent to the principals office for that n that big, wooden paddle he has on the wall...well, i know we'd all bend over for a little of that action but this isn't any way of getting there.

This post has been edited by gustifer: 19 August 2008 - 06:30 PM

[rmorgan]

Kfed started it...

[Kev-O]

rmorgan, on Aug 19 2008, 05:50 PM, said:

Kev-O, on Aug 19 2008, 07:11 AM, said:

rmorgan, on Aug 19 2008, 05:46 AM, said:

"ches you are a bad an very person"

K-fed...are you drunk? And I'm sure she was probably just calling YOU stupid...

hehe....

lol nope i was not drunk...... how did no one get that lol. they were talking about people making something out of nothing so thats what i did.

Kev, I totally got what you were trying to do. I'M not stupid...haha. But that sentence makes NO SENSE... "Ches, you are a bad an very person" ... is that even English?

Oh shit i see what your saying now lol. I was like WTF is she talking about lol. I'll fix it

[eleanorigby]

kate, on Aug 13 2008, 10:43 AM, said:

I hate that the crip world is so full of 'I'm more disabled than you' and 'I manage better than you' people.

I agree. A few times I asked for advice on certain skills and I get people saying things like "I'm a higher injury than you and I've been doing (this skill) since rehab." Makes me feel incredibly stupid. I know this sounds bitter, but it's also hard for me to see all the walking quads and even paras, especially when they're complaining. I just keep thinking "you get to walk!" I know it's still really difficult for them, but I can't help it. I guess I'm just a jealous person.

Other ranty subjects:

I really hate my doctor's office. I've had a UTI for about a month and due to my doctor being out of town and then being booked up, I haven't gotten any help. I've kept it at bay with lots of water, cranberry pills and just a healthy lifestyle, but the past few days it's started to hit me. Luckily I have my appointment tomorrow.

I hate social security. I get SSI, but because I also work, they messed up my payments and now I'm over $3000 in debt to them. I asked them to stop giving me money or to use that money for my debt, but they keep over paying me and then adding it to my debt. I can never get a live person on the phone and if I want to go down there, I'll have to take an entire day off of work. Actually, I've already gone down there, but it didn't really seem to help, so I don't know what else to do. They're supposed to help me, but they're just hurting me finacially.

I hate that I'll probably never have a romantic relationship. Guys just don't see me. I know this sounds hopeless and all, but it's really just very honest. Guys in wheelchairs have it a lot easier as many women have a natural caregiver instinct and aren't as obsessed with looks. And so many people on here were in relationships before they were hurt, so they have no idea how difficult it is to find a boyfriend or even a date after you're hurt. I'm young, I'm not a troll, and I think I have a pretty nice personality (at least I seem to make friends easily), so I don't think there's much more I can do in the attraction catagory. I don't know, it's just extremely frustrating as I slowly watch all of my friends pair off and get married. And I've been to those disability dating websites and they just sort of freak me out.

[rmorgan]

I'm tired of the "guys have it much better than women" standpoint...

And I think the only reason why people even talk about "i was doing that right outta rehab" or "i'm at a higher level and can do that" is just to push people that might not be trying as hard as they think that can.

I don't believe that anyone on this forum would right away tell someone or make someone think they are stupid or incapable. It's just to push and give help, regardless of how others may respond to their comments or remarks. We're all here to help one another...

[eleanorigby]

rmorgan, on Aug 20 2008, 12:46 AM, said:

I'm tired of the "guys have it much better than women" standpoint...

And I think the only reason why people even talk about "i was doing that right outta rehab" or "i'm at a higher level and can do that" is just to push people that might not be trying as hard as they think that can.

I don't believe that anyone on this forum would right away tell someone or make someone think they are stupid or incapable. It's just to push and give help, regardless of how others may respond to their comments or remarks. We're all here to help one another...

I'm not saying that guys have it "better" persay, as spinal cord injuries are never easy, but from my experience and from talking to lots of people, men in wheelchairs have more luck in the romance department. I'm also jealous of the easy access men have when it comes to cathing, but that doesn't mean that I think they have it better than women; cathing is any regards is not a good experience.

I was a gender studies minor in school and did my entire thesis on women and disability and this is one of the biggest themes I came away with from my research. I could rattle off statistics for you, but I'm not at my home computer right now. Besides, I was only saying that stuff to let out my frustrations which is what I thought this thread was for. Some people really do want to help, but others turn being in a chair into a competition. It's sad but true. Part of it has to do with the varying levels of function that people with the exact same injury can have. I don't think there's many people on here that aren't working their hardest each day and need to be pushed. Help is always good, but I don't appreciate in the form of competition and comparisons. I'm probably just over-sensitive because I push myself very hard and it frustrates me that I can't do everything I want to do and then to hear people tell me that they're a higher level and can do it easily when I ask for advise.

[stevensgirl14]

Oh this was a good day for me to find this thread!

I hate it's 2008 and people still don't realize you CAN take a service dog anywhere, yes...in a resturant.

I hate when cars park in a van accessible spot with 50 other regular empty handicap spots!!!!!!!!!!! (Move your frikin' clunker jerk!, we cant get the ramp out)

I hate people assuming my man was my patient because I'm an OT.

I hate when people stop on a hill while I'm trying to push him up a hill at an amusement park. (please keep moving~ I will ram your heels and no, I won't feel bad for doing it either!)

I hate we can't soak our hot tub together.

I hate he went on that ride that changed his life forever..........stupid bitch exwife shamed him into going.....why, why why did he have to go, God!!!..why did they move him out of that ditch.

[Ches]

You're parking spot comment reminds me something I hate..

I hateeeeeeeeeee going to the hospital for doc appts, PT.. anything really .. pulling into the parking garage and its 500 parking spots, only to find there are 4 handicap spots per level(5 levels) and they are always full... Why would a hospital not offer adequate handicap parking? Doesnt make sense..

Very annoying.

[stevensgirl14]

Ches. You are soooooo right. Every hospital I've ever worked at has been that way!!! What a stupid concept in general, but at a hospital come on!!!!!

[Stickman]

Ches, on Aug 20 2008, 09:47 PM, said:

You're parking spot comment reminds me something I hate..

I hateeeeeeeeeee going to the hospital for doc appts, PT.. anything really .. pulling into the parking garage and its 500 parking spots, only to find there are 4 handicap spots per level(5 levels) and they are always full... Why would a hospital not offer adequate handicap parking? Doesnt make sense..

Very annoying.

I agree too Ches, I went to the hospital to get a mri and had to park at the very top! Valet next time for sure.

[Emily C]

dolly, on Aug 13 2008, 06:02 AM, said:

hurbshankin, on Aug 12 2008, 02:40 PM, said:

Ches, on Aug 12 2008, 09:28 AM, said:

I dont understand why some para's need care givers.. others of us are perfectly indepedant?

I wonder the same thing. If I had use of my hands and more of my arms I could get along so much easier. I'm almost envious of paras. I guess it's all relative, perception of a situation varies greatly between individuals.

Hurb

well i have always wondered this to, seeing as im c6 with no hand function and limited tri's and live completely independantly. I guess its down to your attitude to your sci. I dont hate much cause I still do as much as I can maybe just slightly differently

Ok..I'm a para who has 24/7 aids. The reasoning is b/c I have OTHER conditions as well. Like seizures,other issues in my spine, a heart condition and EDS, high ICP and my transfers aren't so perfect. I need help, too. Yet, after TWO brain surgeries and one explortary, I have a lot of "inner" strength.

Does that answer your question? I hope so, b/c I've noticed this coming up lately. My mentor who is a quad doesn't understand when I tell her these questions... The condiitons STINK, para OR quad. I wish NONE of us had any of these conditions!!!

[Hikkakaru]

I hate not being to rev match anymore.
I hate not being able to threshold brake anymore.

[Soryfam]

Ches, on Aug 20 2008, 07:47 PM, said:

You're parking spot comment reminds me something I hate..

I hateeeeeeeeeee going to the hospital for doc appts, PT.. anything really .. pulling into the parking garage and its 500 parking spots, only to find there are 4 handicap spots per level(5 levels) and they are always full... Why would a hospital not offer adequate handicap parking? Doesnt make sense..

Very annoying.

No kidding. When Social Security sent me to a specialist to insure that I really am disabled, the doctor's office had NO handicapped spots!!! I guess they firgure if you make it into the office you really must not be disabled. Sheesh.

Sandy

[carole338]

I hate not feeling like a whole woman.

[qbounce]

Emily,
You weren't obligated to list the other problems that go with your condition, but I'm glad you did...
I've also put my foot in my mouth (several times in fact . . . and I STILL don't like the taste of sole-hehe), but now I know better. Thanks for showing us why it isn't constructive comparing injuries and the abilities they've left us with/ without.

[Slowlegs]

I hate the fact that although I can walk now but I still get the uti's, the pressure sores, a roho cushion, incontinence, impotence, infertility and have to drive with hand controls and need constant medications as well as ostomy supplies, the lazy government case workers who are supposed to be helping me go out of their way not to because I am no longer in a chair "and couldn't possibly need all that" without a fight.

I hate the fact I can no longer take a small blunt pair of scissors on a plane without having to be frisked and telling someone from airport security my entire medical history in front of other waiting passengers because some jerk off in a cave somewhere wants to kill all of us.

I hate the fact my boss convinced me not to take out a multi million dollar insurance policy just months before my accident.

I hate the fact that I wasn't trained properly in work safety by the company I worked for.

I hate the fact I was never offered any sort of vocational guidance after my injury.

I hate the fact I was blamed for a work injury which was caused by lack of safety training and long hours but was never interviewed by investigators and that anyone at all has to go through all this crap.

I hate the fact that my two dreams of having kids and getting married will always be a dream.

I hate the fact I now have to take permanent testosterone injections because my gangrenous testicles both had to be amputated despite being fully functional on their autopsy report (yes they do them for balls) and the fact they burnt them as medical waste without giving "my boys" a decent burial or preserving them in a jar or some kind of freaky lava lamp.

I hate the fact some people wouldn't employ me because of the way I walk despite the fact I could do the job well (and work full time for a great employer who appreciates me) but then turn around and complain about "bludgers on welfare"

I love the fact I am alive even though doctors left me for almost a week, hoping I would die because they thought my life wouldn't be worth living.

I love the fact I live in a country where I can log onto the internet and complain about whatever the heck I want whenever I want and to whoever I want about whatever the heck I want.

I love the fact that this site is here and that whatever crap I go through on a daily basis, I can log onto this website and all you fantastic people are here and put up with reading about the aforementioned crap and still think my reactions are normal.

Thanks guys for giving me an outlet for all the crap I love to hate so much.

I love this website!

Soryfam, on Aug 21 2008, 01:29 PM, said:

Ches, on Aug 20 2008, 07:47 PM, said:

You're parking spot comment reminds me something I hate..

I hateeeeeeeeeee going to the hospital for doc appts, PT.. anything really .. pulling into the parking garage and its 500 parking spots, only to find there are 4 handicap spots per level(5 levels) and they are always full... Why would a hospital not offer adequate handicap parking? Doesnt make sense..

Very annoying.

No kidding. When Social Security sent me to a specialist to insure that I really am disabled, the doctor's office had NO handicapped spots!!! I guess they firgure if you make it into the office you really must not be disabled. Sheesh.

Sandy

And by the way, one more. I hate the fact that all parking spots aren't created equal. Why even have disabled parks? If they were all created to ample proportions we wouldn't have to hate the fact we can never find one!

[carole338]

I hate the fact that New York City doesn’t have adequate handicapped facilities in their subway systems so I can get some of my previous life back.

[Trinity]

I hate people who have ulterior motives and hidden agendas.

Be honest, it'll earn you more respect in the long run.

[Squirrel]

I hate the fact that my MS is in remission at the moment and I would normally be able to walk if it wasn't for my accident. So I'm still stuck in my chair anyway.

I hate the fact my MS is in remission and I am still constantly scared it will come back big time and I think it might be the last time, if you get my drift. So I can't just be happy and make the most of it.

[Steve2778]

I hate when some JACKASS feels the need to double park in the handicaped spots when all they need to do if they are that worried about it is to park halfway in the buffer zone that accompanies each spot.{click link below)
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?...mageID=40608241

-Or- how about those butt heads at the amusment parks who stop in front of you on a hill and get mad when you mow them down like it is easy to stop while your on your way down or when you complain about them holding you up on the way up the hill, like you can just sit on that incline all day long with no effort.

-Or- when someone rushes to help you through a door but could care less about your family or the people that are with you and slam the door in their face or give them dirty looks.

-Or- when people talk to the person standing next to you because they don't think you are capable of conversation.

-Or- when they seat you in the back corner of resturant like you are some sideshow freak that they don't want anyone else to see.

This post has been edited by Steve2778: 24 August 2008 - 03:55 AM

[Steve2778]

Ches, on Aug 20 2008, 09:47 PM, said:

You're parking spot comment reminds me something I hate..

I hateeeeeeeeeee going to the hospital for doc appts, PT.. anything really .. pulling into the parking garage and its 500 parking spots, only to find there are 4 handicap spots per level(5 levels) and they are always full... Why would a hospital not offer adequate handicap parking? Doesnt make sense..

Very annoying.

How about a hospital that has like 500 handicap spots, but they are all take by people who can walk without any adaptive equipment?

[gustifer]

I HATE surgeries! No more surgery! I don't care about the consequences and/or risks. There are consequences and risks either way. I HATE pain! There's pain either way. I'll deal with lifes risks, consequences, and pains that its' natural path will lead me through, but not with mans' technological intervention anymore. I HATE pills! 1st this one then that one. Still in pain? Here's a new one. Still in pain, but too comatosed to care. So f%#k it! Take another one n just lie there sucking your thumb. I'm done!