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Is Your Life Better Or Worse?
Posted 31 October 2012 - 10:36 PM
Posted 05 November 2012 - 08:21 PM
"what doesn't kill you makes you stronger " is the biggest load of crap I have eve heard.
Thanx 4 the laugh
Over all, my life is better because I’ve worked very hard to make it better. As far being a para is concerned, it is worse. I spend a lot of time dealing with physical stuff that could have been spent doing more productive things or just fun things. Then there are all the things that I can't do or feel. I am also just too aware of myself as disabled when ever I am with others or when I’m doing physical things. I do get a chance to see how kind people generally are, so that is a positive. I would love it if I could just be me and not a lady in a wheelchair.
I really like the way you put that together.
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Posted 31 December 2012 - 08:34 PM
I can understand where you were coming from with this question, and remember well one of the few Dr's I have any respect for, saying a similar thing to me. I think you have a point to, trouble is with a question like this is it's like rubbing shit in a wound and not salt, bound to fester not just burn.
I had a great job before I was injured, invested a lot of time in it, it's only thing I've done and I thoroughly enjoyed it. Also my only talent and quite high paying. Skills were Just not transferable to gimpdom, and by the time I could try doing anything nobody cared.
Although I'm an incomplete, that has caused me more problems, than many of the benefits which have probably come from it. which has been true of most things I've thought of as pluses at the time.
Retraining, tried it twice, it was a disaster as I simply wasn't physically capable of it, as they well knew. So between Insurance company games, and being the sole bread winner for my family, it was stressful.
My point is that, yes being a gimp may enhance your empathy for others, but empathy not being something that is fostered these days, other than by John Lennon singing adds at Christmas. If you didn't have some to begin with, this experience probably, for most people is not going to manifest it.
Considering all the things that most have to deal with:- Divorce, income loss, expiration of healthcare benefits psychological warfare from and by the insurance companies, Social downgrading, loss of friends inability to do most things you enjoyed before, and last but not least constant pain, that's a pretty big list to look past for a little empathy enhancement and a small improvement in your visible strength of character.
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