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Posted 12 January 2006 - 12:06 PM
hi everyone, my partner was injured 5 weeks ago, after diving into a river at a christmas work party, he is a complete c7, we are from new zealand but have been living and working in australia.
We are still waiting for him to have an operation to stabilise his neck, but because of infection and other complications, we will have to wait another 2 weeks.
i have so many questions so It's great to have found this site, as soon as i get some more time i will be back for a chat!
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My Partner Was Injured 5 Weeks Ago
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Posted 12 January 2006 - 01:59 PM
Welcome Vanessanz.....sorry you had to find us.
The good news is that there are a ton of people here who have been through exactly what you are going through right now and we'd all love to help you.
The good news is that there are a ton of people here who have been through exactly what you are going through right now and we'd all love to help you.
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Posted 12 January 2006 - 10:41 PM
Welcome and I have to agree with Hillary, Sorry that you needed us. My husband is a complete T11 para. If there is anything I can answer just ask away. I wish I had known of this website earlier than I did. Our prayers are with you.
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Posted 19 January 2006 - 05:02 PM
Hi there Vanessa. Welcome to the group.
#5 *louise*
Posted 20 January 2006 - 09:59 PM
hi am new to this site too
my husband is complete c4 and i know how hard it is his accident happened last august on a family holiday in spain and my husband was fighting for his life after gettin a virus in the spanish hospital he is home now he was discharged last november i do all of my husbands care even down to his bowel and bladder management . im still very angry about his loss and i suppose in time it only gets easier .also now we have found out his operation in spain was done wrong and we have been told that if he has it re-done theres a 70 / 30 chance that he will die so we have passed on the offer i hope to add more to this site and im pleased to have found it.
my husband is complete c4 and i know how hard it is his accident happened last august on a family holiday in spain and my husband was fighting for his life after gettin a virus in the spanish hospital he is home now he was discharged last november i do all of my husbands care even down to his bowel and bladder management . im still very angry about his loss and i suppose in time it only gets easier .also now we have found out his operation in spain was done wrong and we have been told that if he has it re-done theres a 70 / 30 chance that he will die so we have passed on the offer i hope to add more to this site and im pleased to have found it.
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Posted 21 January 2006 - 03:11 AM
Hi Vanessa. Just wanted to send some love and compassion your way. Hope everything goes well for the both of you. Hang in there.
#7 *ASSISTWINGS*
Posted 23 January 2006 - 06:03 PM
THE BEST ADVICE IS FAMILY,HOPE AND PRAYERS. THE CARE GIVER AND SPOUSE NEED AS MUCH AS THE INJURED.
#8 *Guest*
Posted 25 January 2006 - 10:28 PM
i no what your going through but it will come together just keep God on your mind and he will be on your side.pray works.
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Posted 30 January 2006 - 05:07 PM
This is a great place to start. I finally feel as though I am not alone.
LOTS of good advice add this web site to your favorites!
God Bless.
LOTS of good advice add this web site to your favorites!
God Bless.
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Posted 04 February 2006 - 03:48 AM
Hello all. My name is chrissy my husband is a t2/t3 complete. This website looks great everyone seems to be very genuine, and helpful.. I tried another one, and truly i felt bad, because they made me feel like ..what are you gripin' about. I really am so happy with my husband, I met him at 14 and i am 38, though we've only been married three years. But... i gotta say... i get TIRED. I work a demanding job, and the stuff around the house is never ending. On some days, i am certain i have secured my seat in hell from getting so cranky, and other days, it is just as easy as anything...
He had a motorcycle wreck at 18. He is very independant, he works, and even drag races... but sometmes his medical issues are so much!!! He has been sick a lot...A LOT with complications, and i guess my biggest thing is i worry 99% of my life. I never used to be this way.
I feel lucky to have him. Truly. I hope i can learnhow to get over this constant fatigue, and be a better person. Hopefully your stories will help me to do this.
Thank you!!
He had a motorcycle wreck at 18. He is very independant, he works, and even drag races... but sometmes his medical issues are so much!!! He has been sick a lot...A LOT with complications, and i guess my biggest thing is i worry 99% of my life. I never used to be this way.
I feel lucky to have him. Truly. I hope i can learnhow to get over this constant fatigue, and be a better person. Hopefully your stories will help me to do this.
Thank you!!
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Posted 11 February 2006 - 11:21 AM
Hi Vanessa
I, too, have only just found this forum and, like you, am also from Down Under (Oz).
My husband is a C4/C5 complete quad and we have been together for 10 wonderful years and married for 7 of these. Unlike you, I did not know my husband at the time of his accident which happened over 22 years ago from a surfing accident.
Finding this group has been a godsend for me as there doesn't seem to be many support mechanisms for spouses/partners and/or carers in Australia. I am more than happy to speak to you at length about any issues you may have and can certainly provide you with an Australian perspective.
All the best to you and your partner,
Fife.
I, too, have only just found this forum and, like you, am also from Down Under (Oz).
My husband is a C4/C5 complete quad and we have been together for 10 wonderful years and married for 7 of these. Unlike you, I did not know my husband at the time of his accident which happened over 22 years ago from a surfing accident.
Finding this group has been a godsend for me as there doesn't seem to be many support mechanisms for spouses/partners and/or carers in Australia. I am more than happy to speak to you at length about any issues you may have and can certainly provide you with an Australian perspective.
All the best to you and your partner,
Fife.
#12 *tricia*
Posted 13 March 2006 - 12:44 AM
hi all, i am new here. my husband suffered a c7 complete sci april 19, 2005. he was home for 1 month in dec 05. he has had many complications. he returned to hospital then rehab jan 06. we are planning for his return home april 30 06. when he was home i felt overwhelmed. working 40 hours, having 3 children, 20, 18 in first year of college 4 hours away, and 14, and renovating our home doing much of the work alone to save money. i cried a lot. i feel somewhat relieved that i am not caregiving at present but will once again have to. i miss my husband. we had a great marriage and were enjoying life. i am not sure how i will survive. we have many supportive friends and family who have helped me greatly. i guess i'm feeling more like he is my patient not spouse. by the way i am a nurse. well, thanks for letting me vent.
#13 *onion*
Posted 16 March 2006 - 03:50 AM
Hello Venessa, Louise, Chriss, and Tricia,
You have met the welcoming committee. I'm on the other side of the sounding board. I think this is a great place to sound off, get mad, be baaaad, yeeeelllll, screammmm, let go of all that anger. (on this site they have a tendency to say "o, sooo much love have I, he's just the most wonderful person, so strong, accepting this soooooo well. I say there are cows and there are bulls, where their shit comes from is a common term.
You have met the welcoming committee. I'm on the other side of the sounding board. I think this is a great place to sound off, get mad, be baaaad, yeeeelllll, screammmm, let go of all that anger. (on this site they have a tendency to say "o, sooo much love have I, he's just the most wonderful person, so strong, accepting this soooooo well. I say there are cows and there are bulls, where their shit comes from is a common term.
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Posted 16 March 2006 - 07:56 PM
Go Onion!! Its good to have someone speak their mind from the other side of the fence!
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